why do people who answer do this?

Question

why is it that when a teenager has something to say about their parents, they are very likely to be shot down by a bunch of angry, cynical, sneering crabs who say things like "shut up you ungrateful kid. if you're smart you'll just shut up. SHUT UPPPP!!! parents are LAWWWWWW"

obviously, i did not come onto a site called "ask yahoo" to shut up. i have a concern/frustration/inquiry and just because i am younger than my parents i don't have to "shut up". being a "youngen", i still feel that i am entitled to speak as all of you, and i strongly feel that asking a sincere question only to be "shut up"-ed is not appropriate. i mean, yes, i have a grievance against my parents. does that mean that i'm a spoiled little b****?
why couldn't we all be just a little more compassionate and understanding here? don't we come on this site to help others, not spew our hatred and sinister sarascm from the safety of our spinny-chairs?

thank you. if i get answers that say "shut up", i'll just..laugh

sidenote to one of the responders, spaznskitz- oh, you. i've seen parents who steal money from their own children's pockets while they sleep on the floor. yes they are law. but laws are often unjust.
and don't worry, i take criticism ok. but i will still have to disagree that being told to shut up is definitely not constructive criticism. we shall agree to disagree..no?

Answer 1

yes you do have every right to come here and voice your questions, concerns, and opinion and shouldn't be told to shut up I am a parent of 4 kids and wouldn't do that to anyone here espically if I felt that in anyway my answer or advice may help a young person out in any way it's not you or your question that is the problem but think of it this way the ones who tell you to quiet down have the problem they respond like that because more than likely you have hit a big nerve and they know that there kids may be thinking the same exact thing about them and they can only hope and pray that it's not being voiced on here they are afraid instead of reaching out to help

Answer 2

On some thing polaris - parents ARE law, and there is no way around it. Sure it may upset you that you have to follow rules you may feel unreasonable, but they are there for a reason - your parents have BEEN your age, they are a lot more experienced in life than you are and their judgement is not to be questioned. When you turn 18, and especially when the day comes that you have children of your own, you can choose to parent differently - if you actually remember by that time what upset you so much so long ago...

As far as the people on here, sure, they could probably stand to be a bit more polite, but that in itself is a life lesson - as you grow up you are going to run into all kinds...and you learn how to take criticism, no matter how harsh, graciously. Just because you want someone to be nicer to you, doesn't mean they have to be...and if you are going to post on such a public forum, you are going to have to have a thick skin and understand that you will have to deal with all extremes when if comes to people.

EDITED TO ADD AFTER ADDITIONAL COMMENTS:

Oh you? lol...hmmm...anyway, like I said, yes, people should treat others on here with more respect - it is never right to just tell someone to shut up, but then again, some people weren't brought up with manners, and, some people can become awfully bold when all they are are an avatar on a computer screen.

Answer 3

No. 1 of the Community Guidelines states you can't use this as a soapbox to vent your frustrations. You should show respect not just shut up. You shouldn't even get to the level of where someone would have to tell you to shut up.I am sorry you have a grievance against your parents that is how we end up with a lot of runaways. It doesn't mean your a spoiled brat at all. It is the fault of the parent because if you feel like this there has to be some kind of reason. Please try to find someone to help you with this issue. Your opinion does count just because your a teenager doesn't mean you have to be disrespected. Good Luck.

Answer 4

Yes, you are entitled to vent your frustrations and seek opinions of those on this site. I know what you mean about the answers, sometimes I get some quite sarcastic responses and I dont' think people think before they speak, or should I say type? It can be very hurtful when someone has a serious issue that they really want outside help with and they get lousy answers. I hope all works out with your parents, it's normal to have certain feelings about your parents. I was a teenager at one time too....I know how you feel.

Answer 5

A lot of the remarks made by youngsters against their parents seem so silly at times! We "parents" realize that kids are not mature yet, but, at the same time, some of the kids complaints are what we see as a real lack of common sense. And...we realize they aren't mature enough to have a lot of common sense. Parents have all been kids, but kids have never been parents. That difference is important. We have experienced what it is like to be a kid, but you have never experienced what it is like to be a parent...to have bills to pay...to care for your family...to provide for everyone. There is a show I watched on TV recently called "Try My Life." There was a guy living in an apartment who did landscaping while he was going to college. His father ran a nightclub. They swapped their lives for a week, I think. It was very, very interesting, Neither had a clue about the other one's day to day life. Can you just imagine swapping your day to day life with your parents for one full week? Could you handle it, really???

I think it is good for you to have questions to ask in this venue, despite whatever answers you may get. You will, at least, get everyone's point of view. If you disagree, then you can respond. We understand that kids have questions. Some of us are foolish with our answers and some of us are quite smart. But some questions follow the same path.

No, I won't say "shut up" to you. In fact, I have never answered one of my four children that way. Good luck to you and God bless you!

Answer 6

you do have a point. maybe people say "shut up" etc bcse the way that the teens are expressing themselves come across as complaining insteast of a genuine question or concern.
for instence- 1 teen said he felt it was unfair of his mom to ask him to pay for school lunch next year with the money he got working for 6 wks, she asked bcse she wasn't get all the over time at work she normaly does- he was 17yo.
i'm sorry but she's not asking him to give up a kidney-
just to help her out and the family really bcse she just doesn't have the money

maybe if the teens that post chose their wording more carefully they won't get such harsh answers

Answer 7

No, I understand you...you have the right, and I try to help all the time but never shutting up, I´m a mom and always listen to my kids, cuz they are individuals with feelings and emotions, and I found a very interesting world in their conversations. They are 15 and 10 and teach me something new everyday. SO I try to listen to all young people cause they deserve respect...Sorry about that, and you can count on me!.........

Answer 8

SHUT UP YOU ROTTEN SNOT NOSED BRAT! LOL!

That's funny, I don't know. People assume that because they're adults they're "perfect" and they have perfect parenting skills when no one on this Earth is perfect.

But when I think about it if I had a kid at this day I wouldn't have a clue how to raise her/him so who's to say our parents do either? For all we know they're just trying to figure it out as they go along lol.

Answer 9

Very Good Point, there are people on here that are rude, but all you can do is laugh, like you said.
You wont always get bad answers...write on the posting title

"Jerks Need Not Reply"
Good Luck With Future Questions!

Answer 10

I agree and no question is a stupid question, you won't learn without asking and you can't understand the information you receive, without the positive impact that only the adults around you can provide. You ask as many questions as you need to ask....no one here will tell you to be silent....you live only one time and life is not a dress rehearsal....so ask away...