Is it healthy to stay with someone just becuase you have a child together?
2007-07-13 17:52:34 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
MY boyfriend and i did fall out of love but we don't want to break up because of our son
2007-07-13 18:03:33 · update #1
Only if there is love and respect in the relationship. There is nothing worse than a couple pretending to be a happy couple, argue and say hateful things in front of children who hear it whether you believe it or not.
Children need stability in a family unit and it isn't stable if one or both of you are not happy. Children pick up on unhappiness and it makes them feel very stressed. Better to raise a child so both parents can parent individually, separated. The child will feel loved and wanted by both of you.
2007-07-13 18:01:35 · answer #1 · answered by Nancy S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! You must live your life for YOU AND YOUR CHILD. If there is no love between you and the father, the child will sense this. Kids are smart! YOU are the role-model: don't be a "loveless marriage" model for your child.
The father can still be a part of the child's life. Share! A child needs the influence of a father also. You don't have to live together 24/7 to accomplish this. He needs to help you support your baby, but in return he gets to build a relationship with his son/daughter.
2007-07-13 18:01:30 · answer #2 · answered by pia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely NOT. Children are very smart. They know when something is not right. If you are your partner are happier and healthier not being together then that is better for your children. Your children need both of you to be happy and healthy, not just for your sake, but for the sake of them as well.
Include you children, sit them down, and let them know this is nothing they have done and that you love them very much and that you will continue to be there for them.
You and your partner must keep in mind though that the children and the needs and the feelings of your children come first. If you choose not to stay together, then work together as parents for their best interest.
2007-07-13 17:57:32 · answer #3 · answered by Clara C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely! It takes two people being happy together to raise a healthy child. If there is no love between the two parents.. It's almost more unhealthy for the child then the two of you raising them separately. Good luck.
2007-07-13 17:57:30 · answer #4 · answered by teah47 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not, I am in a really bad marriage and have been for some time. I know it is hard to get out, but please do yourself and your child that favor and get out. If there is a lack of interest in both parts, or you can try separating for a while and see how you both feel after that, sometimes that is all it takes. Good luck!
2007-07-13 18:01:24 · answer #5 · answered by tickled pink 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like in all questions, it depends. If you're just bored or not getting the love you think you deserve, hang in for the kid. If you're in open conflict and there's a lot of tension, you two need a couples counselor to help you figure it out.
2007-07-13 17:56:18 · answer #6 · answered by Net Rider 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, not for you, not for him and definetly not for the child. Sooner or later someone (if not everyone) will get hurt, and may resent each other for this. If there is no love, then I believe it is better to break it up, it's what is fair to everybody.
2007-07-13 17:58:23 · answer #7 · answered by Lola 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well in my opiniion no it isnt why i say that is i have 2 children from my ex husband and we fought all the time and it wasnt good for the kids to see that stuff but if ure love is pure u will make it dont fight though in front of kids they wil rember that hun hope u the best write back anytime
2007-07-14 05:04:49 · answer #8 · answered by boo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOT IF YOU ARE NOT HAPPY, ABSOLUTLEY NOT. MARRIED COUPLES TRY TO STAY TOGETHER ALL THE TIME FOR THE SAKE OF THEIR CHILDREN.
IF THE REALATIONSHIP WAS OVER A LONNNNG TIME AGO, END IT NOW AND DONT DRAG THE KIDS WITH U.
IT WILL ONLY HURT THEM MORE THE OLDER THEY GET. THERE IS ALWAYS JOINT CUSTODY AND WHEN THEY GET OLDER THEY WILL UNDERSTAND.
GOOD LUCK!
2007-07-13 17:57:49 · answer #9 · answered by Veronica D. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well this is complex... U can't live in discomfort for your entire life.... should anyone? NO
I think the kid can switch between the both of you thats the best ways!
2007-07-13 17:56:56 · answer #10 · answered by jjjosh911 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋