I have a friend (and by friend I mean I really have a friend
2007-07-13 17:16:41 · 14 answers · asked by Y!A P0int5 Wh0r3 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
By having her as a friend you are already doing the right thing. Just be her Friend, and pray for her. Keep her involved in your faith and include her in your social life.
Oh and pray for her.
Peace be with you both!
2007-07-13 17:26:56 · answer #1 · answered by C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, any real change will come only with long term therapy for your friend. She should go to her ob-gyn and get on something to regulate her hormones (I have been through all of this - hormones help lots). The hormones may help her mood, but she may need another medication for mood for a bit.
As her friend, you just have to listen and help her see that not everyone is going to make fun of her - perhaps you could invite her to the Bible study you attend or to a girls night out with some women from your church. You could also introduce her to other people in your church and involve her in an activity of the church.
She really is dealing with alot that she doesn't have control over - so she should get with a good counselor who can help her work through some things. Maybe there is a Christian counselor associated with your church - that would be a good start.
2007-07-14 00:28:32 · answer #2 · answered by yarn whore 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has to do the same thing that the rest of us do: Keep our eyes on Jesus, the Author and Finisher of Faith.
Really now, if those people at church are acting so ridiculous, why do you think that she has the disorder? She can be being used by God to expose the lack of spirituality of the so called 'brethren'. What she has to do is stay in the Bible, and not look for acceptance.
That she would marry a guy who won't go to church with her is rather difficult to judge. I don't know them, and if her attitude sucks then she probably has that coming. But once again, I don't know them.
2007-07-14 00:29:40 · answer #3 · answered by Christian Sinner 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can not imagine a church where people make fun of you, but if that's the kind of church she goes to then she needs to change churches or religions (which ever one is the problem)
Your friend needs to get into therapy and work on her other problems with an actual councilor. You can't just change someone.
This isn't really a church thing, it's an emotion thing and her emotional status needs attention, with therapy she will learn to open up and get rid of her anxiety.
2007-07-14 00:27:17 · answer #4 · answered by I'm Here 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm glad your trying to help your friend. Are you sure the church is the best place for her to adapt? It can be hard for some one who knows they are different to fit into such a rigid organization. Maybe find some like minded people who you know will treat her with respect and have a small party. Or if you insist on a christian angle call it a bible study group. Try getting her into small tight groups before you get her to believe she's ok around a few dozen strangers.
2007-07-14 00:27:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You see, the people whom you're referring to who are teasing your friend are attending to that church you say.
I suggest you start, with your friend, to search for a church wherein their members are being taught to RESPECT ALL PEOPLE, because that is the commandment of the new testament.
1 Peter 2:17
"Honour all men. Love the brotherhood. Fear God. Honour the king. "
The thing why your friend have very low self-esteem is because she's with around people who are NOT REALLY CHRISTIANS (tagged only by people, but not REAL CHRISTIANS).
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2007-07-14 03:34:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to tell you this, but there is nothing you can physically do to help your friend besides be nice to her.
The only other thing you can do is pray for her. Sounds like a cop-out, but think about it, if you were her shoes, what could anyone do for you? There is nothing that you could say or do to make her trust other people nor can you make the people in church be nice to her. Only thing you can do is pray and ask God to take away her bitterness.
Sorry I don't have a more of a revelatory answer for you.
2007-07-14 00:20:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Pray for her! You can try to make her believe she is beautiful and special by telling her so, you can share bible verses that relate how special she is to God, you could even help her start exercising and eating better to lose weight. But I've known truly beautiful women (physical beauty) who got all that from friends and family (and even strangers) and still had low self esteem. In the end, what your friend and mine needed was to believe God...and he can bring that about in his time...pray for her and trust that He will bring her to where he wants her to be!
2007-07-14 00:27:23 · answer #8 · answered by KAL 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to open up when you don't like yourself. Continue to be her friend and show her that you care. Maybe you could do things together that will help her lose weight. Once she feels better about herself maybe her attitude will change.
2007-07-14 00:33:14 · answer #9 · answered by hannah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
boost her self esteem, boost her confidence,take her to church. tell her if she goes through all of her life worrying then what fun would life would be and there alot of things a person can miss out if they worry all the time.
2007-07-14 00:20:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋