She says I'm going to be an unfit mother and wants to take my baby away after its born. She said that its my fault that he joined the Army and will be trained in Infantry beginning in August. I felt so proud of him when he told me that he qualified for Infantry and told her that I wanted to marry him in his dress uniform. She said terrible things to me and I started to cry. She said how could I hope to protect a child from harm if her son grows up to be influenced by a silly girl who thinks that sending him to die in a useless war is something to be prould of. I met him when we were both 13 in day camp and our friendship blossomed into love. Only since this May when our mothers gave us permission to express our love for each other have we exceeded the any boundaries. His mother is in denial because he told her he was enlisting. I dont want anything to happen to the father of my child and now I feel really scared that something will happen to him. I LOVE HIM!!
2007-07-13 16:56:13 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
First I appreciate all the answers and support from all of you wonderful people that answered my question. She and I have known each other for many years now and most of the time our relationship has been great. She apologized to me and hugged me and said that she was out of line for her comments. She said that her son couldn't find a more wonderful person. We discussed the issue of his enlistment and as one answerer said I am aware of her "terror" at the thought of losing her son. My fiance hugged and kissed his mom and said that nothing will happen to him. We are now planning a "quickie" wedding and he will marry me in a tuxedo. His little sister from his mom's marriage to Jamie's step father will be our beautiful fllower girl. We will go to Reno early next month and get married in a wedding chapel there. My parents are excited and soon my special "puppy boy" will be my wonderful, heroic, and brave husband. I'm going to let my question go to voting and thanks again.
2007-07-15 15:43:06 · update #1
Well you can dwell on it, or you can trust in a higher power and have faith that someone is watching over him, you should be proud of him, no matter what his mom says, it is a great thing he is doing serving for his country, as far as his mom goes, she doesn't run YOUR life write her a letter and tell her he is a grown man and you respect whatever decision he makes and that you are sorry she carries so much anger for you but you hope she can set it aside for the sake of the family. Good luck
2007-07-13 17:03:39 · answer #1 · answered by Angel Kisses 2504 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just try and take care of yourself and give her compassion. Lets hope that she's totally freaked out by the idea of her son dying which you will understand soon, much better than you do now, when your own darling child is born. Let's just hope that she has no other way of lashing out her terror. And I hope then your MIL will come to her senses and apologize to you for the cruel things she said and welcome you and her grandchild with love. Good Luck.
2007-07-13 17:02:45 · answer #2 · answered by sequinism 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm so sorry! you have to be positive and not be influenced by the negativity of your mother. she will only make you worry more and that is not what you need! no it is not your fault he joined the army... is he really didnt want to i dont think he would have
they are some of the most admired and brave individuals in our country and you should be very proud of him!
2007-07-13 17:01:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried talking to Jamie about what his mother says? He should know about this as well. Tell him that you're scared and need him to be back. I really hope that you can get through this and good luck.
2007-07-13 17:00:29 · answer #4 · answered by Osufan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what she said was the cruelest thing I've ever heard of!!!
when he leaves avoid her like the plague.. she is a toxic person and you don't need that!!
she absolutely can not take away your baby...
keep your distance from this one!!! the less she sees and knows about you the better off you will be.
this woman is going to torment you for the rest of your life!!!
2007-07-13 17:07:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She can't take your baby away, so rest assured on that.
Stay away from her. She's vicious. Let Jamie handle her, and have him tell her that she has to treat you with more kindness, or she may lose Jamie.
2007-07-13 17:15:04 · answer #6 · answered by kiwi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not married to Jamie's mother, -You're married to Jamie. And you are as entitled to IGNORE her opinion- as she is to give it. She's OBVIOUSLY upset that he enlisted- & is taking it out on You. Leave her alone for awhile, -& ask Jamie to talk to her about it... This was HIS decision, & NOT your fault... Good luck... :)
2007-07-13 17:08:50 · answer #7 · answered by Joseph, II 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ignore her. that's all you have to do. i can't believe that she would blame you for "making" him do this. last time i checked you can't make anyone do anything they don't want to unless you are holding a gun to their head. having a soldier for a son/hubby is one of the proudest things that i can think of. it takes a truly selfless person to volunteer to give their life to protect others. there is nothing that she can do to take your baby away. just stay away from her.
2007-07-13 17:01:10 · answer #8 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is your relationship with your man. not with your man and his momma. you need to DISTANCE yourself from her in every possible way. she can't take your children away from you...not without being accused of kidnapping. i think that she's upset because her child has gone off to the army and is marrying someone. hey..it's called life and we all play it. it is also called growing up. you don't have to have a relationship with this woman and you don't have to talk to her or have her talk to you that way. the next time that she begins to chime in on her accusatory remarks...hang up the phone...walk away or drive away. just don't listen to her. you need to let your man deal with his momma. you need to distance yourself from her as much as possible.
2007-07-13 17:04:01 · answer #9 · answered by cfalways 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take that ***** to Court
2007-07-13 17:00:16 · answer #10 · answered by wow 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋