Mom, Dad, and I see movies weekly. Well today we were going to see Harry Potter, but then mom came home and brought this to my attention.
We have a PT Cruiser and each time we goto the movie, Mom needs to unpack the ramp and load the wheelchair into the vehicle. Since the movie is 2-1/2 hours long, I told her I wasn't going to spend that time sitting in an uncomfortable manual wheelchair, when she could just spend 5 minutes unpacking the ramp and loading in my electric wheelchair. She was giving me every possible excuse in the book of why she didn't want to do it. Then she started talking about Rick Hanson, then started talking about how I should give back to the community, then saying how I don't do enough to keep myself active. I just said "I'm doing what I can, but if you think I'm not doing enough, then fine, I'll stop everything I'm doing and vegetate myself. Just to prove my point." How the hell do I keep up with that crap, and what the hell do I say to her?
2007-07-13 16:41:02 · 10 answers · asked by Aaron B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Aside from that, I attempted to reason with her, she wouldn't listen, I attempted to bargain with her, she wanted it her way or the highway, I explained to her that she bought the car AND all the adaptations, knowing what she was getting into, that I even asked her before she made that decision if it was what she wanted and she said "Yes", she replied, "That was a big mistake...", threatening to return to car all together... Then she brought up about five or six more excuses before she said, "How about next week?"... I mean if I'm smart enough to know how much of a deal she's making about not doing this now, how dumb am I to know she'll do this again next week?
I honestly need to know what I could possibly say to her not to change her mind... I spoke with her politely, that didn't work... I'm not going to apologize, I'm not going to sweet-talk to her some more, I'm going to speak bluntly this time, as stubborn to her as she is to me.
2007-07-13 16:47:06 · update #1
In addition, any reasoning with her to explain why I prefer to power chair to the manual one, she brings this who argument up out of nowhere about how I should be more active, how sitting in this chair makes me look more disabled than I am, and how if I don't use both, I'm going to vegetate...
2007-07-13 16:51:00 · update #2
How disabled are you? Offer to help her unpack the ramp or offer to help her with something else so that you take some of the work off her. Maybe she'll take that as you trying to be more active and be happy.
2007-07-13 17:03:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
FIRST I AM SORRY THAT YOU NEED TO USE A WHEEL CHAIR!
SHE IS YOUR CARE TAKER AND I FEEL CERTAIN SHE LOVE S YOU AND THAT IS THE MOST IMPORTANT.
I AM SORRY THIER IS TENSION BETWEEN YOU TWO.
I DO NOT KNOW A TEENAGER IN THE WORLD THAT HAS NOT HAD SOME CONFLICT WITH PARENTS.
WHEELCHAIR OR NOT!
HAVE YOU TRIED PRAYING ABOUT THE SITUATION INSTEAD OF FINDING SOMETHING TO SAY TO HER WICH WILL ONLY MAKE CONFUSION ANYWAY AND NEVER REALLY OPEN UP ANY COMMUNICATION.
I FEEL YOU ARE MORE STUBBORN THAN MOM, SHE IS TRYING TO HELP YOU AND YOUR FIGHTING HER.
IF THAT IS ALL YOU HAVE TO BE ANGRY ABOUT YOU BETTER LOOK AROUND YOU SOME PEOPLE'S MOTHER'S ARE NO WHERE TO BE FOUND.
WHERE WOULD THAT LEAVE YOU????????????????????????????????????????
2007-07-13 23:51:00 · answer #2 · answered by bob 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell your mother that you are sorry you snapped at her and that you were disrespectful. Tell her that you need to be more comfortable during that long a period of time, and that's why you wanted the more comfortable seat.
Hon, you need your parents, no one is ever going to take care of you the way they are. Knock off the sarcastic and hateful tone of voice and the spoiled brat attitude. Its not pretty.
2007-07-13 23:49:24 · answer #3 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
how about nothing. it seems to me like your mother needs to have some sort of dialoge with you in order to feel good about what she's saying to you. don't reply, don't respond. you already know you well enough. why do you feel the need to 'prove' yourself to anyone especially your parents. or how about this...if she insists on bring the uncomfortable wheelchair...simply tell her that you won't go. she will talk and talk...listen to her but say nothing. when she's done...just walk away and continue saying nothing. it will drive her crazy.
2007-07-13 23:56:17 · answer #4 · answered by cfalways 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I hope you don't become as negative as her. As for being more active, you didn't cancel she did. Why don't you start taking the city bus? That will make you more independent.
2007-07-14 00:20:17 · answer #5 · answered by BRW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I WOULD SAY MOM I LOVE YOU BUT IT'S ALOT EASIER IF I COULD SET IN A COMFORTABLE CHAIR INSTEAD OF THE WHEELCHAIR YOU NEED TO TRY TO MAKE HER UNDERSTAND WHY CAN'T YOU SIT IN THE FRONT OF THE CAR AND BE COMFORTABLE ????????????? GOOD LUCK SORRY TO HEAR THAT .............................
2007-07-13 23:48:28 · answer #6 · answered by kitty 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well since you are already smarter than your parents I suggest you move out on your own. That way you can make your own decisions and have your own children and hopefully they will be as ungrateful as you.
2007-07-14 00:06:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
" Mom, I love you. But you are also the most stubborn person here on this planet ", each time you have to say it.
2007-07-13 23:46:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
don't say anything. just listen or pretend to be then get back to what you were doing. she will have less to argue about and less to say.
2007-07-13 23:51:39 · answer #9 · answered by Muffy Sundance 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love you Mom!
2007-07-13 23:45:05 · answer #10 · answered by Old enough to know 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋