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i am currently dating a nonbeliever, i have grown up in church all my life and love God. I want to introduce my boyfriend to all the happiness that comes with learning about God and loving Him. but i have a hard time coming up with an effective approach, please help me! how did u get ur significant other to learn about God??

2007-07-13 16:16:27 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture Religion & Spirituality

27 answers

Lead by example.

2007-07-13 16:20:38 · answer #1 · answered by Royal Racer Hell=Grave © 7 · 4 3

If you feel that strongly about your faith and it is very important in your life, you will probably need to find someone with the same beliefs you have. You can't make someone believe in something and if they are just feigning to make you happy, they are unhappy which eventually will make the relationship fall apart.

My fiance is an atheist. I am okay with this, as my spiritual path does not require those around me to follow my beliefs.

It's a hard choice but at this point it looks as if it's a choice between God and your boyfriend.

Good luck!

2007-07-13 16:22:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2 0

I was an unbeliever when I married my unbelieving husband. I became a Christian in 2003, he is still an unbeliever. It is a tough road. My advice would be to not have the intention of marrying someone with whom you are unevenly yoked. It is just too difficult. I don't know your age, but maybe he can go with you to some of the concerts and functions at your church? If he's not open to it, I would seriously avoid getting any closer to him. All I can do at home is be an example to my husband. And pray like crazy. He sometimes goes to church with us. But his heart is hard. It's up to the Lord now.

2007-07-13 16:25:22 · answer #3 · answered by bornagain2003 2 · 0 0

Although I by no means feel it is within your power, nor your right, to attempt to convert him, I will offer these suggestions:

*Invite him to a church service. Don't try to bribe him, or say that, "If he loved you, he'd go," as many people do. Instead, simply explain to him that you'd like to share this part of your life with him. Even if he does not agree, you'd like to help him to understand where you're coming from; show him the nature of this part of your life.

*He may reject your offerings of helping him into your faith. If he does, don't be discouraged, but back off--don't constantly hint about it. Instead, try one simple conversation, in which you explain to him why your faith is important to you.

*You might do well to ask him about his religious background, when you are close enough to be comfortable in doing to. Just finding out whether he's ever attended church; what his family "was," in terms of religion, and similar things will help you to comprehend why he lacks religious standards.

*As for bringing the subject up, don't just come right out and say it. Start by mentioning that you'd like to make plans, maybe mention that, of course, you can't go out late on Saturday night; you've got church. And of course, church is important to you; a big part of your life, and not something you'll skip for a date. Then, you could casually mention that he's welcome to join you anytime, if for no other reason than to learn what you do each Sunday morning.

*Don't be too blatant--giving him a Bible and saying, "here--I want you to read this," will never help; it may make things worse. Instead, I'd recommend you focus on a moral standpoint of the Bible; pick a verse that regards a matter you feel strongly about, mention it to him, and ask his opinion. If he seems interested, continue the conversation, make it something you do regularly. It may help you to learn more about him, and in addition, give him interest in your faith.

*More than anything, be honest. Let him know that it's an important part of your life, something you'd like to share with him. But if he rejects the idea, don't be offended, nor should you end the relationship. Not all couples are perfectly matched, and if the two of you work out well in all other ways, you shouldn't let that stop you. As long as you both understand each other, you could have a truly strong bond.

2007-07-13 16:34:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

A rule of thumb for relationships...if you can not love them as they are and have to change some aspect, then you are not meant to be. Sorry, may sound harsh, but either he's the right guy the way he is, or you need to stop wasting each others time. I guess he's the more open mined of you two? The nonbeliever often is...

You have no respect for his views at all.

2007-07-13 16:22:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 5 1

I think you should get on your knees and ask God if it is the right relationship or not, and do nothing till you know in your heart if it is or not. IF you go on pushing this relationship and that person never comes to Christ, you will end up hating each other or at least he will hate you for it, for withoug knowing it, satan will use him to break you away from God... You must make the choice to know God's will in that manner. Perhaps God will save him, perhaps not but if you don't go to God, you won't know and you will find out the hard way.

My husband didn't know Jesus before he met me, and we spoke a lot (he knew I was a christian and was curious about it and asked questions) before dating, it is only when he trully gave his life to Jesus that we started to date, otherwise I wouldn't have.

2007-07-13 16:27:12 · answer #6 · answered by monfille 3 · 1 1

the first thing to do is pray for him!!! Then you lead by example. Start small like convince to try out your church one sunday or something. You don't want to badger him, but make him realise how big and important The LORD is in your life. Ask him where exactly he stands in his veiw points and if he gets defensive back off. You may suggest to him the 'left behind' books by Tim LaHaye. It may be that he doesn't realise that The LORD actually plans on returning. Just make sure he knows that your only worried for his sake

2007-07-13 16:27:16 · answer #7 · answered by Christian 2 · 0 1

I am an Atheist. If you want your boyfriend to learn about God you are going to have to start of very gently. No demands or damns to hell right off the bat. Invite him to functions first. Let him get to know people. If he wants he will study it on his own or ask questions. Don't expect him fall in love with your religion. He is probly a nonbeliver for a reason.

If all else fails bribe him with sex.

2007-07-13 16:24:19 · answer #8 · answered by upallnite 5 · 1 1

heres what I'd do start out just doing every thing normal and respect his non belifes but as it goes on invite him to come to church with you some time or a bible study and talk with him listion to his point of view you don't have to agree but listion and try to see where is comming from and tell him your point of view and see where it goes maybe even spend time once a week just to talk about life and what you guys both belive but don't do this quite yet let him watch and learn first he will notice trust me and explain where it's comming from I hope this helps

2007-07-13 19:23:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

something's available, in spite of the incontrovertible fact that it takes 2 selfless, open minded human beings to make it paintings. frequently what happens is that the non-believer finally ends up dragging the different individual right down to a place that he/she does not choose to be in. i'm not asserting the unbeliever is "undesirable" yet easily that is much less stressful to permit your self decide for somebody else than substitute that individual. something to think of roughly ;)

2016-10-21 05:21:27 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

If your difference is not something you can live with, I would back the relationship down from dating to friendship until you know whether or not he's genuinely interested in changing his views.

Is he open to hearing what you want to tell him? That should tell you a lot.

2007-07-14 05:36:36 · answer #11 · answered by PediC 5 · 0 0

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