I found out my fiance cheated on me while we were dating. He slept with the girl once but emailed and talked to her the whole time we dated (1 yr and 8 months) and even after the engagement he still wanted to keep in touch with her even after she wanted to cut contact. I have one friend that says I over reacted by ending the engagement and relationship when I found out and she says I should have stuck it out. Did I jump the gun by dumping him????
He is 42 and this would be his second marriage.
2007-07-13 16:08:10 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
dump your friend too! she should support you in any decision you make especially when you make the right one! you may be experiencing pain now but that wuld be nothing compared to what you might have to go through. These men know that some of you females would put up with that crap but your not one of them. Be proud of yourself beacause i am,.you showed wisdom and strength and did not let your emotions dictate. Where do you think he is right now? or Who he might be talking to? Exactly....You go girl and hold that head up high!
2007-07-13 16:15:58 · answer #1 · answered by Esoteric 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you did the right thing.
I say this because when I was married it was much the same thing. She had a lot of guy friends and she made as though that it was nothing, until I tryed to have lady friends; thats when I noticed the change in "venue" so to speak. A "red flag" that I ignored threw my marrige until later. It wasnt a matter of infidelity that ended my marrige, but rather that I should exist in a different manner than her, that some how my way of life was held to different rules than hers. A problem that manifested its self in many ways and not just in this regard.
Me personally I realy dont see the harm in friends of the oppisite sex, though I can identify the problems and questions that may arise from such things, exspecially in relationships that havent existed long enough to withstand the tests of time to earn such trust.
2007-07-13 23:24:16 · answer #2 · answered by Andrew 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you did the right thing. If he couldn' tell you about this other girl, then obviously he was lying and hiding things from you. He wouldn't like it if you had a male friend behind his back, that you slept with, would he?
2007-07-13 23:16:29 · answer #3 · answered by bumble1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would call off the engagement. if he still wants to keep in contact with the person he slept with, then that means that he doesnt feel fully guitly about what he did
2007-07-13 23:11:39 · answer #4 · answered by Cris 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You had good reason to leave him. He had basically been cheating on you the **entire time** you were going out with him, after all. I'd say he's not to be trusted.
2007-07-13 23:12:27 · answer #5 · answered by Casimir Alexander 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could you have lived a life with someone you didn't trust? That type of character flaw doesn't change. You made the right choice!!!
2007-07-13 23:14:50 · answer #6 · answered by odd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you did the right thing. Now you know why his first marriage didn't work.
2007-07-13 23:21:43 · answer #7 · answered by kati9 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl! dump this piece of ****. hes not worth it. there are plenty of men that would treat you much better than he is. like they always say 'there are plenty of fishes in the sea'
good luck hon [:
2007-07-13 23:12:39 · answer #8 · answered by May 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you did not jump the gun. His loss
2007-07-13 23:12:33 · answer #9 · answered by Carol B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no, you didnt. if he lied to you about that? what else did he lie to you about. he just wanted his cake and eat it too.
2007-07-13 23:11:46 · answer #10 · answered by Ms. Lady 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋