I'm an uncle to 2 nephews and 1 niece. One of the nephews and my niece don't get along. My nephew is 10 and my niece is 9. I was just wondering if there are things to build their relationship because I hate the fact that they don't get along.
2007-07-13 15:50:09 · 14 answers · asked by M4VT4CUL4R [USAF] 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well I had this standard rule in my house, if you can't play together and learn to get along, then you can't play with anybody else until you learn family is first, and others come second. As a result of their constant bickering and fighting I would put them in a room together, and either they learned, or they played with no one. Because all they had was each other. Believe me it worked, and it didn't take all that long. The room got so quiet I had to check to see if they had killed themselves. LOL. Try this it worked for us and we had five to go through with this training program.
2007-07-13 16:17:24 · answer #1 · answered by Butch. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Almost all siblings fight, but it is important to teach them to try to get along, because, in the long run, all they really have is each other.
When my son and daughter, who are five years apart, would get too bad, I would sit them down at the table on Sunday afternoon and put a game in front of them. I told them that they were to play without fighting for a prescribed amount of time. If they fought, the time started over. But, if they played nicely, they could get up at the end of the time.
Most of the time, when their time was up, they would play until they finished the game. And they got along a lot better for a week or two after that.
2007-07-13 15:55:57 · answer #2 · answered by Terri J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you find out please let me know. My brothers and sisters we are in our 40's and we argue or just don't talk to each other for years, very sad! I hope you find a answer for your niece and nephews. Because you hope for them to be there for each other through their lives. I am here to tell you that is not always the case.
2007-07-13 18:14:54 · answer #3 · answered by lucy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do agree that they have to work it out between themselves BUT.... Some times a parent needs to facilitate this. Suggestions could be finding a hobby or exercise that they both enjoy and can do together. As long as it is not to competitive and they can work together it will assist in their bonding.
Also making sure that you don't give one to much more positive attention then the other or get angry at one child in front of the other. When one child sees this they can work out how to get more attention and often become the "favored" child
2007-07-13 15:56:10 · answer #4 · answered by Xavie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At the ages they are Im not sure there is a way to make them get along besides trying to talk to the oldest to explain the concept of tolerence, I can promise you that in time they will get along! My brother and I are exactly that age spread and at that age ...well... it was not good... Now We get along very well. We appreciate each other. If we need each other(and we have) we are there.I love him very much.
2007-07-13 15:58:48 · answer #5 · answered by Sherry D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Art is an excellent way to help bond siblings. There needs to be supervision of course but if you can get them involved in an art project that would be great. If you need ideas, email me.
Another idea is a small business partnership for them and this also needs to be supervised. There are all kinds of things they can do.
Best wishes to you.
2007-07-13 16:40:13 · answer #6 · answered by Jael 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have two brothers, one older and one younger...when we were kids we treated each other horribly, i don't know how my mom put up with us. We still aren't very close, I talk to the older brother occasionally and the younger hardly ever.
Something that always brought us together as kids tho was work. Washing cars, yard work, housework etc. Make them work together.
2007-07-13 15:57:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think its all BS when they watch movies or TV shows usually when there is a brother and sister they dont get along since its so common in movies and TV shows kids that watch them think that its a natural way to act when u have a brother or sister......
2007-07-13 15:54:53 · answer #8 · answered by Armen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find common interests. It's not really something that can be forced on them. They are just being kids. Once they become mature adults they will probably be really close. Not your problem to worry about.
2007-07-13 15:57:53 · answer #9 · answered by Lisa B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could get them doing things together and show them how fun it is to work together and when they do reward them as an added way of saying hey working together is fun and there's rewards for it
i wouldn't make it the main focus but it's a way of easing them into it
2007-07-13 16:11:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋