why won't he propose?

Question

So I have been with my b/f for almost 5yrs and he still has not proposed. He says he wants to get married to me and have children, but wants to wait because he only began to work full time. Now as far as me, I only work part time (due to the economy and not being able to find a full time job) and I have financial expenses that are high (for example I own a horse which costs me $400 for board every month). My b/f says once my horse passes away (which could be soon because she is old) he will propose to me then, but I keep telling him that I will always have a horse in my life, because that is my passion. Can anyone help me as to what he is thinking and why he will not propose, but at the same time tell me all the time that he wants to marry me and have children with me?

Answer 1

Seems to me that he wants to be financially stable. Thumbs up to him!! If he is truly putting you of, straight up ask him what the deal is. Tell him you want to get married before you turn 98 and you want to do it with him but you are NOT waiting around forever. But like I said he may be scared of the financial responsibility. Sounds like he has his head on straight!

Answer 2

Well, I don't think that you are going to like my answer. The truth does hurt sometimes though. I think that you need a serious reality check girl. Relationships are supposed to be 50/50. This means that you contribute equally to the bills and other things. I wouldn't propose to you either if I was your man. You are just a huge financial drain on the wallet. The two of you must be rather young. This guy is dragging his feet because he wants to see if you will ever grow up and actually become a mature, responisible adult that can support herself and yet contribute 50/50 to a marriage. So what if if you have always had a horse in your life? A horse is a luxury, not a necessity. $400 for boarding fees for a horse every month is just insane. It is especially insane when you are not contibuting evenly to the bills. Don't worry about whether or not you have a horse. As a matter of fact, I think that you should sell the horse so you don't have to worry about a $400 a month boarding fee. $400 a month more towards the bills will help out a lot. I guess it comes down to you deciding what is more important to you: a horse that takes almost all of your money to take care of? or becoming financially responsible so your boyfriend wants to marry you? You are the only one that can decide. Don't wait to long to do something. Someone better may come along and take your man. Then you will be left all alone with a horse. Good luck. Take care.

Answer 3

well you boyfriend is worried about finacial stuff
if you pay $400 dollars a month then you wont have enough money for food and other stuff
he is actually worried for you and him
he wants the best for you and him in the future
think about it with the extra $4,800 dollars a year what could you buy
that and maybe he hopes that you will get a full time job to help support the marrage in the future
when he thinks that you two are in the right position he may propose

Answer 4

I would have to say it is because I don't think he is ready to take on more financial responsibility. Try to understand it is hard to take care of everything at once and have money left over to have fun or take you out. If you want to help him, let him figure out his financial basis because he just had a new job so it may be a new payroll he is not accustomed to. Also ask him exaclty how he feels about horses in general, and make sure you ask him for the truth.

Answer 5

I've been with my bf for 5 and 1/2 years...still no ring..lol...but the money just isn't there for us yet....

Have you talked about the horse in detail? I mean, does he help pay for it monthly?

If he does, then maybe he just wants to be able to save up money to buy you the ring you deserve and give you the wedding of your dreams?

I'm sure he doesn't mean bad about your horse.(sorry to hear he's getting to that age:( ) But he may want you to hold off on getting another one until after the money has been saved? Maybe you should talk to him about his intentions behind that?

Best of luck to you :)

Answer 6

ok will if you really do love him and you really do want to get married and if having a horse is what is stopping you well you are going to have to sacrifice some thing.and if you have finicial issues that could have something to do with it to.maybe he dont want to propose cause he dont have a ring or money for a ring.and I know a guy is not gonna get you a ugly cheap ring froma pawn shop to propose to you.cause guy know that is something important to a girl.so just take it easy.and just wait.only time can tell.

Answer 7

Sounds like Pride is what's keeping him from Marriage. He wants to be able to provide for you and what may lay ahead. Have a heart to heart talk with him and tell him how you feel and that if two people love each other they can make anything happen in their lives. Good luck:)

Answer 8

Because he does not want to support you, your horse, & whatever else you have in your life that you cannot afford while you work part time & ***** about the economy.

Answer 9

He's probably just waiting until both of you, especiall him are fiancially stable. Stable enough to pay for the wedding and your horse. He'll come around to it and when he does it'll be perfect so don't worry too much about it.

Answer 10

will those ring do cost alot and if he ready then he ready u dont have to worry because i think he know u are the right one but he wants to make it great for yall and that he waiting for the time that is right and he know that u are right for him