2007-07-13 14:29:50 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Allergies
You don't mention whether or not you two have a friendly relationship. Hopefully you do because the best thing would be for you both to sit down and talk about it and seek out a good solution. You may be able to find an allergy pill that will stop your daughter's reactions. I'm allergic to cats but live well with 2 thanks to Claritin. I can even sleep with one!
When my kids were little and the divorce was fresh (read hostile), I had similar issues with my ex. Our youngest, still an infant, was so severely asthmatic that she had to have breathing treatments 4 times a day. Because of that, I was limiting the duration of her visits with him. When I moved out of town, the girls spent a whole weekend at a time and the courts were not going to stop that.
We ended up having to use a court mediator and he agreed, and we filed with the court, papers saying he could not smoke near the kids, or in his house or car AT ALL because the smoke lingers and still posed a threat to her. We did have doctor's documentation.
However, all that money and aggravation was a waste because he still did what he wanted (though he stopped smoking near the baby) and the lawyer said it was a waste to try to take him to court for violating the order.
So...my point is that making it a war won't change it, so try to work together and make some suggestions he can live with.
Try - asking him to not smoke near the girl,
keeping the room she sleeps in free of cats and well vacuumed, ask your doctor about allergy meds, ask him to vacuum and dust the carpets and furniture throughout the house daily when she's there to keep the irritants to a minimum.
If she is sick and miserable, he's probably just as miserable because a sick child is whiney and difficult, so let's just say he is probably getting "his just desserts."
The courts are skeptical when parents try to block the other from time with their kids so they don't buy into this stuff, even when it is very much true.
In time she will probably get better and/or he may be more reasonable.
2007-07-13 14:45:15 · answer #1 · answered by Lori A 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since allergies and asthma tend to go together it could be a little of both. My oldest son is severely allergic to cats and wheezes when he is around cigarette smoke.
I'd go to an asthma/allergist and have her tested. Hopefully after you have a professional give you a diagnosis and tell you that it is dangerous for you daughter to be around the smoke and cats (and it can be life-threathening for some people btw), you can approach daddy and ask him to change his environment. If he won't you need to keep your child safe and figure out a way to do that.
It seems easy to slip a child a little med to "ease" those kinds of symptoms but can you imagine what it feels like to not be able to breathe? Besides longterm wheezing (and even taking inhalers) can cause damage to your lungs.
2007-07-14 03:00:08 · answer #2 · answered by BoysMommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While wheezing IS a symptom of Asthma, the breakouts suggests an allergic reaction to the cat instead. Give her some Benadryl and tell him to vacuum the house.
2007-07-13 15:52:38 · answer #3 · answered by Paula S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would guess it is probably the smoke. Could be the cats, but I would definitely lean towards the smoke. First, I would suggest you have a heart to heart with your ex. Surely he wants what is best for his daughter. There are dander-reducing sprays that can help with cat allergies. It's the dander that folks are allergic to. And if she is having that much trouble, they should probably be smoking outside. Cigarette smoke doesn't just worsen allergy problems, it can also lead to trouble with ear infections in small children.
2007-07-14 04:34:20 · answer #4 · answered by Bitsy Fairview 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well since you cant change him- I suggest you ask her doctor for a prescription for some allergy medications for your daughter. Have her take them when she goes to Dads and for a couple days afterward. Most likely its the cats, but of course cigarette smoke makes it worse.
2007-07-13 14:33:16 · answer #5 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good chance that she is having an allergic reaction. See a doctor.
2007-07-13 14:33:08 · answer #6 · answered by Beau R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Allergies or asthma. Her pediatrician can narrow it down. Poor kid.
2007-07-13 14:33:55 · answer #7 · answered by ann b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell some court-type people. they can make that smoking bastard do whatever you need him to do to ensure your childs safety. if they ignore you. which they always do, keep buggin them
2007-07-13 14:33:59 · answer #8 · answered by James 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
So, what's your question?
2007-07-13 14:39:58 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she probably has asthma
2007-07-13 14:35:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋