When its just me and her she good and listens to me. but as soon as her dad or someone else comes in the house she thinks that she doesnt have to listen to me and starts running, jumping, and yelling in the house. and she has to constantly be told to stop. Also if she stays the night at someone elses house they always tell me that she is sooo good. but as soon as i walk in the door to pick her up then she starts to misbehave again. So is just me or what can i do to? please help.
2007-07-13 14:03:28 · 12 answers · asked by Mexicangrl 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I too have a almost 3 yr old daughter. She so acts up with me! Over grandma's she's an angel- with daddy she makes it seam like I'm just out of my mind- and telling tall tales about her behavior when he's not at home =(. Sadly, I know it goes with the age - but I read *not sure where* something that made me feel a tiny bit better.
* Children tend to act up around those they feel the most comfortable around. Its actually there way of expressing their innermost feelings- and if its in front of you- take it as a Toddler- I love you *
yet. I must admit- sometimes I just feel like running into my bedroom- shutting the door- locking it- turning up my music like a teenager- and HUM like I don't here her outside my door screaming for me! Hmm... I wish that would work!*
Good Luck! & you are not alone!
2007-07-13 15:04:00 · answer #1 · answered by LuvMy2Kids 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you a stay at home mom? Your daughter may just be spending too much time with you and not enough time around other people. She's trying to show off and act out and see what you'll do in front of other people. As far as her dad, it sounds to me like she doesn't spend enough time with him at all. Make sure they have AT LEAST 30 minutes a day after work for one on one time. Maybe while you're working on supper or taking a quiet bath. They can go outside and throw a ball, etc. And if she continues to act up around other people, don't be afraid to scold and punish in front of these people. My daughter pitched a fit (15 months old) and didn't know her only cousin was in her room and when she saw her she was so embarrased and immediately stopped crying. You may have to embarrass her to get her to stop. Give time outs in front of family members, etc. Dont let her run over you. Anything you would do alone, do it with company. Good luck!
2007-07-19 06:41:53 · answer #2 · answered by Christy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Soooooo common with moms! She is seeking your attention in a negative manner. Just ignore it...what you pay attention to with kids gets bigger, and what you ignore, shrinks.
When Dad comes home, have an agreement that HE is going to discipline her, watch her and play with her for the first, say, 30 minutes or hour. Exclusively! You go to your room and read or take a walk or go to the store immediately. Totally ignore her -- no eye contact, no words. See if that doesn't help.
When she needs to be picked up at another's house, try having hubby pick her up for awhile.
She may need some separation from you! Give it to her.
This will not last unless:
1. You do nothing.
2. You continue to make a big deal of it.
Really!
Good luck!!
2007-07-13 14:20:31 · answer #3 · answered by Still Me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It must be the age. I have the same situation with my 2 1/2 year old. I notice if she is misbehaving, talking quiet to her and distracting her with something else works. Example, if she is getting loud in a resturaunt, I grab a menu and show her the pictures on it. Or point out something on her outfit like the color. That age responds well with more positive than being told "no". Good luck.
2007-07-21 07:48:11 · answer #4 · answered by micheleybelly1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Children are always going to push boundries. She may feel that when someone else is there she is not getting your full attention. And we all know kids, good or bad, attention is attention. You need to reinforce all rules when others are around. Let her know that the rules do not change when others are there and make sure to disapline. Also, when others are around make sure to still pay attention to her and get her involved in conversations. When someone comes over say "doesn't (her name) look pretty today?" Ask her to tell company or her father about her day. She will be involved and not looking for bad attention. Just telling a child to "Stop" will not make them stop. You need to let her know there will be consequences for misbehavior, and enforce what you say. Let her know that is she has to be told to stop again that she will get time out. The next time she acts out do not say a word to her, pick her up and put her in time out. Once she is there let her know why she is there (you are in time out because I told you not to run in the house and you did it any way). When time out is over, give her a hug and a kiss and tell her you love her, but bad behavior will not be tollerated! Hope this helps.
2007-07-20 19:31:38 · answer #5 · answered by dienna c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps this is a time in her life where she is testing the waters. Seeing what she can and can't get away with. She's fine when you are alone, probably because you are consistent with her as far as rules and behavioral expectations go. Also you are giving her all the attention.
When she and you are with others, she is no longer receiving the attention she had, and therefore act out in other ways to get that attention from you. Sounds like it's working too. She's getting it the wrong way of course, but she's getting it.
Maybe you need to sit with her and talk about what it means to get attention in a good way, and what it means to get attention in a bad way -- and the benefits of getting attention the good way.
If she's smart enough to understand about getting attention, the she's probably smart enough to understand that acting out badly will only get her in trouble, but behaving normally and getting attention the good way, will always have it's benefits.
Good luck and be consistent.
2007-07-13 14:15:25 · answer #6 · answered by heeboy3 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She's 3......and all kids act like angels for othe people then act like little heathens when mommy or daddy enter the room. As for acting up when her father comes home, it may very well be excitement over him being home. But seriously, she is acting like any normal child at that age range.
2007-07-13 16:29:36 · answer #7 · answered by Ghost Writer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is a three yr old. Put her in time out chair and spank the skin of her bottom 3 spanks with your hand if she doesn't stay in time out.
2007-07-13 14:45:23 · answer #8 · answered by connie 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She is 3. Mine did that too. Now he is 5 and he doesn't do anymore. Drives you nuts hu? It sure did me.
2007-07-13 16:27:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you tell her that if she does not stop acting out you are going to give her a spanking and then do it if she acts out .she is 3 and she needs to know her limits . good luck .
2007-07-13 14:12:27 · answer #10 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋