does annybody have advice about parents divorce
2007-07-13 13:36:48 · 11 answers · asked by julianne w 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
just go with it....let them do whatever makes them happy...i gave my moms boyfriend HELL for the eight years untill i became mature enough to actually realise why my parents got divorced.
Being so young my mom didn't tell me the real reason why they got divorced so i always thought it was my moms fault but now being older i asked and found out exactally what happened, it was my dads fault but i still dont blame him because if my parents didn't split i wouldn't have had the opportunities which i have now.
2007-07-13 13:40:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A parent's divorce is really something that is out of the child's hands. Just remember this, it is not your fault. Also, many kids take out the anger of divorce in bad ways, such as drugs and crime. Please, try not to go down this path. Find good ways of handling the pain and keep loving both of your parents!
2007-07-13 20:41:27 · answer #2 · answered by DeltaKilo3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been through this, when I was 14 and I found out long before they split. I overheard my Mum on the phone with her boyfriend, I confronted her and she said it was true. I was so angry she had wrestle with me to calm me down. I wish she had lied to protect me! I then had to keep this secret from my Dad. My whole world fell apart.
The worst thing is a lost interest in my studies as I had no support at home. My Mum had her new boyfriend once Dad left so she told me to stay out of her way, my Dad just stayed away, I rarely saw him, my grandparents and aunties all disowned Mum (& by extension, us 2 daughters) so I lost everyone I loved in one fell swoop. How was I supposed to study for my big exams with all this weighing on me?
I didn't do half as well as I'd been predicted to do and the rest of my life has been very hard because of that! If you want any direct advice, support or just to vent your feelings, please email me love. Most importantly of all, you must throw yourself into your school work because that's what will carry you through! BIG HUGS xox
2007-07-14 01:23:44 · answer #3 · answered by SEJ71 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just don't ever think it had anything to do with you. and if either parent ever bad mouths the other put your hand up and say you don't want to hear it and tell them you love both of them and it's their divorce not yours. try to spend as much time as you can with each parent. kids don't need to know the details.
2007-07-13 20:50:16 · answer #4 · answered by jeanniep 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only advice I can give you is it's not your fault because they are getting a divorce. They just can't get along. SO don't worry about it and just be therte when they want someone to chat with. ANd if you need to chat with someone just IM me anytime
2007-07-13 20:48:53 · answer #5 · answered by Always ready for anything 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just stay neutral, don't try to side with parent over the other. And don't take blame for your parents divorce, you had nothing to do with it. Your parents just fell out of love and can't live together anymore, but they still love you.
Good luck.
2007-07-13 20:40:59 · answer #6 · answered by Ms. Angel.. 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is hard on the kids when the parants get divorced,the thing you have too do is not too take sides with mum or dad,,let them both know you are still there for them both,,,you probably think your life is on hold dont let it be,,
my son was really torn when my ex and i got divorced,but he can now see that we are happy with our new lives,so he is happy,
just be there for them both,and let them know you love them no matter what, xxxxxx
2007-07-14 07:45:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is your parents that are divorcing, don't let each of them slam the other. That's very important. My ex slammed me in front of our kids any chance he could get. They sure don't respect him very much now.
2007-07-13 20:42:00 · answer #8 · answered by Clueless 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love them both no matter what and never take sides. dont let them make you either. Try to be understanding and dont be sad. It happens to everyone.
2007-07-13 20:40:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
life's too short to be wiz someone who you don't get on wiz, it also effects the children coz all they see is mum and dad fighting and arguing all the time, wat does that tech them. isn't better to live separately from each other and see the kids on whatever arrangement yous come to than living together in a misery
2007-07-14 20:57:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋