I am in love with my ex boyfriend. Head over heals, I want to be with you forever, you are the one for me - in love. He says he feels the same way, and I believe him - but here's where it gets complicated: We went through a really tough time in our relationship and we both pushed each other away....He didn't treat me very well during this time. Anways....we broke up. Since then he hooked up with another girl....and since then has come back to me wanting to get back together. In the time we weren't talking I had made plans to go to a different University about an hour away...and I was getting excited about it. But now I wrestle with myself every day over what I really want to do. Part of me really wants to stay and be with him. But the other part of me is curious about this new opportunity.I am so in love that I worry I wouldn't be able to enjoy the experience knowing that I chose it over time with the person I love. What should I do?? I feel like I will have regrets about either option
2007-07-13 12:51:47 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hi there
You are in a hard situation. I am a 40 something female and I would advice you to take the opportunity to make yourself all you can be and this means going to the university. Anytime you have the opportunity to advance yourself, everything else will fall into place (love also). He would want you to be happy and content as a human which makes you more attractive and relationships work better when each party is happy within. You will never regret challenging yourself to new heights. If you dont you may feel regret and put to much pressure on the relationship to fill that inner happiness. You will do fine, and the relationship will be there if it should be. Hope this helps. All the best to you.
2007-07-13 13:05:37 · answer #1 · answered by suzanne e 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's only an hour away. I kept up a relationship when I was at University for two years with someone who was three hours away. It was great! You can't let this relationship change what you want to do with your own life, especially at this age. You don't want to narrow your options, you need these new experiences, and you can't turn your back on something you need for YOU for your boyfriend, not when you can compromise and stay together while you do this. He should understand. See each other at weekends! This makes the time you spend together even more special, and you find you actually make good use of your time together and appreciate each other more. PLUS you get to go to university and have that amazing experience and open up all the wonderful possibilities for your future that it will bring. You will only end up miserable in the end if you deny yourself something important for someone else, it will eat away at your independence and sense of self-worth. You shouldn't have to live solely for someone else when you can live for the both of you, even if it means you're not in each other's pockets 24/7.
2007-07-13 19:59:48 · answer #2 · answered by Katrina W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't throw away everything just for love. I'm not saying that you should just ditch him and go to the other university...but at the same time, don't give up such big opportunity. So, for now, stay friends with him. Talk to him a lot, hang out, whatever, but don't become boyfriend and girlfriend again yet. Take some time, so both of you can heal, and also, you both can think about whether you truly love each other. At the same time, go to the university and try it out. If you don't like it and it doesn't work, you don't have to stay there.
2007-07-13 19:56:39 · answer #3 · answered by julia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you give up the opportunity of attending the new University, you will regret it the rest of your life. You will always wonder what it would have been like to attend there.
As for the boy, if he really cares for you, he can keep in touch with you while you attend the University. Tell him there will be email and the address of the University, and he won't have any excuse for not keeping in touch. This way, it will test both of you as far as any kind of future relationship is concerned. Schooling is much more important right now. I hope this has been some help to you anyway.
2007-07-13 20:02:49 · answer #4 · answered by DD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably will have regrets with either option if you chose only one. Why not chose both you said the school is only an hour away and if you chose both if things dont work out with him atleast you still have the school you wanted. I was in a similar situation and things didnt work out with my girl, and if i would of had either my school or my girl i would feel like crap, luckily i still had my school and the education i wanted so it wasnt as bad. Dont get me wrong it still sucked but thats life. Just make sure you have as many options available as possible. Good luck hope things work out for you.
2007-07-13 20:03:44 · answer #5 · answered by David H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should always come first with yourself, Love you more than anyone!! Go to the University it's only an hour away and he can come visit or go to school himself that way if you want to be together you will be able to be both financially secure and have good paying jobs!! GO TO SCHOOL!!!
2007-07-13 19:58:54 · answer #6 · answered by MaRaNdA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Attend the school that captures your interest; true love will endure that burden...a more superficial variety will not. If you sacrifice your educational objectives for "love" you will grow to resent that decision in time. Real love challenges you to better yourself to the best of your abilities. It doesn't seek to hold you back or mold you to its whims. Good luck.
2007-07-13 20:09:23 · answer #7 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋