Getting married for the kids. ie...."Im pregnant (Im not in real life, just taking a poll) now we've got to get married before I have the baby."
Or you're already engaged or just in love with someone and then get pregnant....would you move up your wedding before you start to show?
AGAIN, THIS IS A HYPOTHETICAL SITUATION
2007-07-13 12:11:00 · 13 answers · asked by LOVE BEING A MOMMY 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
My experience fits in PERFECTLY with your question. My fiancee (now husband) and I announced in Nov 2003 that our wedding was going to be in April 04. I accidentally got pregnant in Jan 04, so of course I was pregnant at the wedding. Looking back, I wish that I hadn't gotten pregnant before my wedding for a few reasons, but most importantly because the pregnancy made me feel that even if I wanted to back out of the wedding, I couldn't. Looking back, I probably wouldn't have gotten married to my husband had I not been pregnant. I am staying put (at least for now) for my children.
2007-07-13 13:57:24 · answer #1 · answered by Stacy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Granted, marriage is about love and making a spiritual and legal commitment with someone that will last for the rest of your life....but, with birth control and condoms, either free or covered by health insurance, accidental pregnancies don't make much sense between two grown, responsible adults. I have been trying NOT to have a kid for many years now, and so far so good. I know how to read birth control labels and my fiance knows how to open a condom wrapper.
So, when I see couples who get pregnant, but they live together and share a life like they're married, then, for the sake of the kid, why not just get married? What's the hold up?
And yes, if I was pregnant before my wedding, I would move up the date because I don't want my big stomach and morning sickness distracting the guests. I'm vain like that.
2007-07-13 13:40:58 · answer #2 · answered by Peace 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I dont think getting married for the kids is a good idea at all, if my husband and I did that we would have never lasted, we had our first child,not married, after being together for 3 years and we had some very rough times after that- not b/c of the baby- but we took some time and got our stuff together and worked things out, we just got married in february and welcomed our second child last August. We have been together for 7 years and got married because we loved each other and have stuck by each other for all these years!
2007-07-13 12:50:32 · answer #3 · answered by mom25 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It can work out if you do...
We were taught in Pre-Cana that Love is a choice. If you make a decision to be together you can stay forever. It doesn't matter exactly what got you started.
I would definitely do it if I were engaged because the choice is already made, its just an issue of timing.
If I was not engaged, I would get into I very intense conversation to see if we were both willing to make the choice everyday. I would want more than anything to try to make it work for the baby, but I wouldn't force it... too much.
2007-07-13 12:24:39 · answer #4 · answered by dante 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think getting married for the kids is a bad idea.. because if you dont love each other and wouldn't be married 'without the kids' then there is a good possibility that youre not going to be happy in the long run - and if mom and pops arent happy it doesnt make for a good living environment for those kids - stay seperated but still help each other in the raising of them to keep everyone happy and healthy!
mmm... if i were to have gotten pregnant before the wedding, it would depend on the amt of time the wedding was away.. if i was going to have the baby before the wedding date came.. id keep it like that, or if i was going to be 3rd tri for wedding id push it back.. 1st or 2nd term showing or not id keep the wedding as is.
2007-07-13 12:19:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
i dated and lived with a guy for about 6 years and got pregnant - we were not engaged or married at the time. I told him that if he proposed to me during the pregnancy i would turn him down.... i wanted him to marry me cuz he loved and wanted to marry me NOT cuz i was pregnant, i didn't need nor did i want a "Pity proposal". He proposed way after our daughter was born and we then had a son 2 years later - a year later we were separated then divorced. Never know how life will go, we are still friends and i am re-married now. Crazy life!
2007-07-13 14:45:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Of course. Would totally get married as soon as we found out. You just scrap the idea of a 'traditional' wedding, because it's time to not be selfish, because circumstances have changed.
2007-07-14 01:34:07 · answer #7 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think if the only reason why you get married is because you are knocked up then you have one of the stupidest reasons in the world to be married.
You don't have to be soulemates to screw and divorce is expensive and ultimatley more tramautic on the children than if you hadn't gotten married in the first place.
Sorry if it's blunt but that's my opinion.
2007-07-13 12:23:11 · answer #8 · answered by pspoptart 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would agree to give the baby to a loving adoptive family who already have their heads on straight and KNOW they love each other and want children.
2007-07-13 12:40:33 · answer #9 · answered by lady_phoenix39 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well im already married. and im pregnant. we were married 10 months before i got pregnant.
but to answer your question, no i would not get married just because i was pregnant. that is the stupidist reason to get married and 9times out of 10 it doesnt work out.
2007-07-13 12:18:29 · answer #10 · answered by Awesome Rockin Mom 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋