I think dating someone specifically for the rebound is cruel. Do people date someone knowing they are a rebound or is it something that just is? When u date someone for a rebound it ends up that you can't even be friends or have any contact...most of the time.
2007-07-13 12:08:58 · 14 answers · asked by american artist 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
People, when in the throes of rebound, mistake it for recovery!
For better or worse it just exists.
2007-07-13 12:13:05 · answer #1 · answered by Rhiannon 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Rebound dating almost seems inevitable as most people do not like being alone and even those you have had their hearts crushed, still prefer companionship over down time to focus on oneself.
If you can go into rebound dating with an open mind and honesty, then the fall out is minimal ~ if any ~ and a friendship is a possibility. However, this is usually not the case and for many people, the rebound relationship is a transitional relationship where the time comes they can move forward feeling happier and stronger.
2007-07-13 19:20:05 · answer #2 · answered by LiverGirl98 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people don't realize they are rebounding until the new "rebound relationship" is ending. No one really tries to attempt to go into a rebound relationship on purpose. Most times, after being a relationship for a long time, we lose a sense of our self-identity. We don't feel good on our own. We don't enjoy being alone. We forget what we used to do, and what we used to be like when we were thinking for ourselves, and not for two. The loneliness creates a need to pull someone in close to you, and their presence fills that void within us and our lives.
The only problem with this is, when we start these relationships, we become so quickly enamored with the new partner in our lives--ignoring all of the things that would normally turn us off from pursuing a relationship with that person. When you are rebounding, your standards will almost always drop, or change by leaps and bounds.
I always suggest that when you get out of a long term relationship, you have a period of "you time." You don't date anyone exclusively or get into a relationship for at least long enough for you to spend some time with yourself. For some people, this period is a month. For others it could be a year, it could be five years, it could be even more. It all depends on you.
If you find yourself in a rebound relationship, the first thing you should do is to weigh out the options. If you are not seeing this relationship as moving anywhere, its important to tell your partner this. Let them know by using words similar to these:
"My last relationship ended badly, and I was very hurt by it. I did not really realize it until now, or how much it affected me. Because of this, I think we got into this thing too quickly, and I didn't have enough time to recover. I hope you understand that right now is not a good time for me, and that I just need some space to figure out what's going on with me right now."
Nonetheless, try your best to stay away from relationships soon after a break up. You will be better off for it, and so will whoever you choose to date in the future.
2007-07-13 19:22:04 · answer #3 · answered by Miss Alexis 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe that most people rebound date consciously. I think for most people on the rebound they would just like to continue being loved and being in love.
Emotions are messy at the best of times and when you have scrambled emotions on your plate it can be difficult to stay rational and objective. I don't feel that there are cruel intentions on the part of the rebounder. I think there is more confusion than anything else.
2007-07-13 19:18:04 · answer #4 · answered by Melly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer is fairly obvious. People rebound in order to get over a past relationship. It does keep you from brooding around the house thinking about the failed relationship. However, rebounding in general usually leads to new complications, as you are still carrying the old baggage thus dooming the rebound.
2007-07-13 19:15:08 · answer #5 · answered by Rckets 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Isn't almost all of dating someone new a type of rebound from the last one you dated. You should allow yourself some time before dating again if it was a very painful breakup but eventually you have to hop back on that dating wagon. Better sooner than later.
2007-07-13 19:15:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alot of times the rebound is on accident. The person might have gotten out of a really bad, but loving relationship. Their looking for someone to fill in the comforting side and they know they can't be with that person that did them wrong, so to say they end up falling into any arms out of vulnerability. This is speaking from a women's prospective.
2007-07-13 19:15:06 · answer #7 · answered by mahoganay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
usually when you are on the rebound it is a way of dealing with loss of someone you loved. You try to make it easier by being with someone else so you don't think about the one that is no longer with you.
but it doesn't always work out that way and can cause more problems then its worth.
The best thing I think to do when a relationship ends is keep busy, don't think about what if's and move on. Deal with it the best you can and hope for something better to come into your life.
2007-07-13 19:19:35 · answer #8 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think most of the time rebounds end as soon as they realize its not you their thinking of....its not always intentional...some do it to forget their previous bf/gf, but realize sooner or later that it only temporary and that during alone time they still have issues to work out.
2007-07-13 19:13:17 · answer #9 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People rebound because ending a relationship is painful, it's a blow to one's self-esteem, and since you're not accustomed to being without your partner it can be quite lonely.
Thus, people rebound to assure themselves of their desirability, to assuage their loneliness, and to take their minds off the pain.
2007-07-13 19:12:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋