2007-07-13 11:48:20 · 10 answers · asked by Jason 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
People make mistakes.
If you cheated and it was a mistake, then you need to not only acknowledge that, but be an adult and try and fix it. It may not be easy - trust which is given freely once may require some effort to earn back. But that is what you must do. BE TRUSTWORTHY. And the burden of proof of your trustworthiness will be on YOU.
There is another possibility... it is possible that you cheated because the relationship was a mistake. If you are not ready for a committed relationship, it will be less harmful for both of you to call it off now. Especially if the above seems like a 'penalty' to you (it's not by a longshot).
If your girl forgives you, then you can only be thankful and make yourself worthy of it. Begging and trying to purchase her affections only cheapens you both. She is not a whore nor your master.
She should be your partner... and you should be hers...
2007-07-13 12:05:06 · answer #1 · answered by Doctor Why 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have an issue that is a common but a painful one .Start by trying to find out why you cheated on a girl that you apparently like or care about. If I am correct about your feelings for her,then you can do the following:1)apologize to her2)explain your reasons for doing what ever you did; don't justify or defend it though3) ask for her forgiveness and how you can help her feel better4)answer all her questions without anger honestly and completely5)assuming she elects to forgive you, then do everything she asks of you and also do not betray her again.I hope you have learned your lesson and will no longer engage in this type of action in the future.Good luck.
2007-07-13 19:06:21 · answer #2 · answered by abbeycoolit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well unfortunatly some woman (like me) will just never get over it no matter how hard they try to....others might be able to who knows....but the point is...if youve told her the truth...and shes still stickin around...then remember that no matter how many times she brings it up, no matter how many years from now she brings it up, and no matter how mean to you she is about it, that you r still the one at fault and if there is any chance at all for her forgiveness and making her stay then youll just have to keep saying sorry over and over and reassuring her over and over and never getting defencive, make sure you answer every question she has about it and make sure you dont get impatient when answering...also most importantly get rid of the chick ya cheated with and dont find any new prospects and make it quite clear to the one ya love that it will never happen again and mean what ya say! sorry this happened to ya bud but ya can either move on or take the heat....if you really love her you can do this cuz if you expect her to forgive you after making her feel like a total fool then you need to realize that being sorry and asking for forgiveness really is defined as taking the paine on yourself and relieveing her from it....thus ....it should hurt you as much as it hurt her.....but the other option of course that she may take is to cheat back...if she does well then shell either need the same advice i just gave or shell have gotten even and the relationship will still be broken if not more then before......i dk but when ya cut someone that deep inside...remember it can take a long time...sometimes even a lifetime to heal and probably will still always bear a scar....gl to you big hugs big smiles!
2007-07-13 19:03:38 · answer #3 · answered by kitsrlsyssab77 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Give your soul to her.
Seriously, apologizing would be the first thing. Major begging and groveling would be the second step. Public humiliation is also an option.
If she doesn't accept you back, then move on. You already wasted her time, why waste it some more?
2007-07-13 18:58:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think first you'd have to apologize for cheating on her and prove to her you deserve a second chance. and be loyal
2007-07-13 18:52:31 · answer #5 · answered by anabel <3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
show her that she can trust u again. and that what u did was beyond stupid. buying her things may work in a long run, but its also just a cover up.
try to understand that if she doesn't want u again. its not her it was u. and you both will just have to move on.
sorry to say.
2007-07-13 18:55:23 · answer #6 · answered by cuban cutie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
apologize and, if you really love her, make a beautiful wish for her and for your future! http://www.themostexpensivewish.com/.
It's a good way to express your feelings and to get another chance. Certainly she will be touched...
2007-07-13 18:59:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Once a cheater, always a cheater. Srry but you're screwed.
2007-07-13 18:55:24 · answer #8 · answered by me 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
easy, leave her be! You did enough, let her move on from your pathetic %$^!!!!!! You don't deserve her!
2007-07-13 18:53:08 · answer #9 · answered by glennfiddich 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
beg, beg, buy her things, and beg some more
2007-07-13 18:52:06 · answer #10 · answered by lovely 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋