well, i used to beat my gf, but i have stopped all that, and now i am trying to be the sweetest bf that she can imagine. does anyone have any tips??
2007-07-13 11:16:01 · 16 answers · asked by tarzan_man1990 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
HEY BABY! wow....tell all these nice people, that have said really sweet things, that you LIED to them!
people: my boyfriend doesnt beat me. I'm not dumb, I would dump a beater ;) You people are sweet though :)
2007-07-13 13:17:43 · answer #1 · answered by sarah b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow you sound like I did when I was younger. I would guess you're in your teens. That's where I was when I was going through this stuff. I had one bf that I was a control freak, the next I was a doormat, I was good with the next until we'd been together a long time, then I was a control freak, then I went back to doormat with the next one. I flip flopped a bit lol. I think for starters you need to realize your self worth. You know how they say if you can't love yourself you can't love some one else? it's pretty dead on. Switching that mind set can be easier said than done though (I know I was there). After my last bf I was pretty crushed, he ended it, and well I gave him my virginity too, so that made it even harder on me. My friend bought me a book, it's Called "He's just not into you" I read it and it changed my life. It was a first step for me though, It made me realize what a relationship consists of, and trust and faith are some pretty big factors. I decided to stay single for a while to work on myself, and I did. Until I met a guy at my school 8 months later. He was cute, fun, funny, nice, considerate, and so much more. Well I've been living with this guy for 3 years now. I'm a bossy person by nature and I do my best to not be bossy. He is also a guy who sometimes looks for a bit of direction so that works well, he also feels comfortable to tell me when I'm going overboard. Are things always perfect? no, but we both think its worth it to work on. I think my little story may have been a help but I know I ramble too so I think I did a little.
2016-05-17 05:53:20 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first off you need to figure out why on earth you were beating her in the first place. have you seeked professional help and not just stopped on your own? She needs to see that you've done everything possible to stop what you did for her. that's a serious thing and it's going to take a LONG time to regain your respect and trust from her. So be good to her. Show her how much you care about her. Flowers, cards, chocolates, all those things all the time will really help. Show her you're getting help. No matter what you're going to be on a probation period with her so do whatever is in your power to make it right and treat her like the princess she deserved to be treated like in the first place. We all make mistakes but yours was a pretty big one so just know it's going to take a long time and you can't blame her for that.
2007-07-13 11:21:44 · answer #3 · answered by blessed mommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think about what would be best for her life (more education, more travel, having a boyfriend who just can't stop respecting her and being nice to her) and make it your job to make sure she moves in those directions and has those experiences, even if it's not always good for you. Brainstorm ways to make her life better and more enjoyable. Do as many as you can. A lot of people will abuse you for posting this, but you can be a better man if you try. Millions have fixed their minds from this kind of junk and acted the right way.
Good luck.
2007-07-13 11:23:22 · answer #4 · answered by Johan W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First i would show her how much you really want to change, by getting help. Find out what places she really likes and what she likes to do. Show her that you can be sweet by doing little things for her like, breakfast in bed, buying small inexpesnive gifts, just for being in your life. You can also remind her how much you love her by leaving small notes for her to find when you are away. Just don't over do it or do anything that you are not wanting to continue, thats where a lot of guys mess up, when you suddenly stop the woman starts to feel like that may be something else going on.
2007-07-13 11:25:13 · answer #5 · answered by LaTrice B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well for starters why the hell did u beat her up? think this through. You feel bad for this so go to her, be gentle and then start saying sorry and just say sorry for everything bad you did (and mean it as well!) and say with ur heart, pour it out. get a few tears. ask if u 2 could start over. when she says yes then be gentle and pretend the stuff b4 never happened, it will be ahrd, she will prob. be scared of u. understand those feelings and be gentle, don't push. crush ur sexual feeling for at least a few months. mend everything. make time for her and show her u care by putting post it's on he rbag or locker saying "i love u by"name". Suprise her by a bunch of good smelling flowers. make her happy but don't make ur life misreable 2! cuz if u start to look misreable then she might think that ur unhappy cuz of her!
2007-07-13 11:27:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say this, but if you don't know how treat a woman right, and you see her like something to beat on and off, than all you need is a shrink and all she needs is to be smart and get rid of you!
2007-07-13 11:19:33 · answer #7 · answered by Rute A 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
make her feel like she's a princess, buy her flowers just because...and treat her like there's no where else in the world you'd rather be than with her. she must love you if you beat her and she didn't leave you
2007-07-13 11:19:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need anger management. Otherwise you could revert to your violent tendencies. No woman should date you unless you get professional help.
2007-07-13 11:19:07 · answer #9 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea, keep it up. Help with laundry, sweep, mop, be available and senitive to her and her family. Go to church service, counseling (anger management) its sliding scale so go!
2007-07-13 11:24:10 · answer #10 · answered by kim 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋