ok, so there is this girl that i really love (not just like, but love). we dated for the past year and a half, but broke up at the beginning of the summer. I was an idiot and i dumped her. after being single for some time, i realized that she is the one i want. im never happy unless im around her. i tried asking her out again on her bday, and i gave her a pearl necklace. the problem is...she just wants to be friends. she said she cares for me still. I NEED TO KNOW HOW TO GET HER TO FALL BACK INTO LOVE WITH ME! i want to be with her again.
Additional facts:
we are both 16 years old, and in highschool. we live right down the street from each other. I am MADLY in love with this girl and i would do anything to get back together with her!
2007-07-13 10:42:12 · 25 answers · asked by Donivan 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, you are 16 and think you are in love. You will both change too much to keep this thing going. I have never seen a highschool couple stay together through college, and the ones I have heard of got divorced anyway.
2007-07-13 10:45:21 · answer #1 · answered by 1235 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okkay. asking a girl that you dated previously and YOU broke up with and then deciding to ask her out again on her bday, bad move buddy.
Well you may think that you are madly in love with her and that she is the one but maybe after you broke up with you she realized you werent the one for her.
Ps. You cannot make her fall back in love with you. No tricks, potions. nothing. Just try being her friend for a while maybe she will come around if she realizes how bad you know you screwed up.
2007-07-13 10:48:20 · answer #2 · answered by ALI 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot make anyone fall in love with you. You probably broke her heart when you broke up with her and you cannot force any issues. You can be nice and caring and be yourself. You have already apologized and now it is in her court. If it is meant to be it will. If it isn't, you will find someone else in the future that will knock your socks off. You are only 16 and you have your whole life ahead of you. Just be her friend as she asks. Don't push for anything. Give her time and maybe she will change her mind. Best wishes to you.
2007-07-13 10:47:24 · answer #3 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She still wants to get back together with you secretly, trust me on this one. You just need to grovel to her and realize your mistakes. I am in a very similar situation, with a bit of a difference. Before I came along, my boyfriend was dating a girl for 1 and 1/2 years. They claimed to love eachother but suddenly I came and changed everything, I didn't do any of this intentionally. Before I knew it he broke up with her for me, not telling her anything. I never meant for this to happen and I was only his friend in the begining. I fealt as if we were having an affair the entire time we dated, but I had never been so happy in life. We fell in love with eachother but he is going to college while I am still stuck in high school. We are no longer together because he decided to take the easy way out and go back to her (she's going to the same college as him) and leave me in the cold, heartbroken and alone. I need help too. He keeps trying to talk to me and see if I'm better but I refuse to talk to him. I'm heartbroken and I want him back but somethings can never be.
But anyways, your girl will take you back and i'm very happy for you having found love, never let go of it.
2007-07-13 10:54:59 · answer #4 · answered by Heidi Ho 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love her dearly, apoligize to her saying "I am sorry that I had dumped you earlier. I had made a terrible mistake and all I want is your forgiveness."
If that dosent work get creative and write her a song, poem, and etc. If that dosent work you got to get to the point with her. Tell her you love her, that you wish the best for her and move on with you life. She might feel sorry for you and get back together. You never know she might be feeling the same way.
2007-07-13 10:49:07 · answer #5 · answered by qtchick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry but you already dumped her. if you loved her so much you wouldn't have dumped her at the beginning of summer which seems a bit shady to me. but at the same time you are only 16 so my best tip for you which has the best chance of working is to not call her a lot and play hard to get. make her come to you...sounds cliche but its true. Just don't get all needy and weird because she won't like that. Just be cool
2007-07-13 10:46:03 · answer #6 · answered by ladyfang 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you dumped her you did two things. 1. You lost her trust and
2. You hurt her
You need to prove to her she can trust you again. Take it slow by talking with her. Talking on the phone is good. Talk about things that are important to her, ask her about her self, show interest, get her to talk. Also, tell her "secrets" about you. Let her know that you trust her, and that she can trust you again.
Take the time, go slow and be open.
Also, get her to laugh (very important), and take her places, like the pool, or the mall. Find out what she likes to do, and do that. Let her know that what she likes and wants is important to you.
2007-07-13 10:52:03 · answer #7 · answered by Ann B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She does the right thing to protect herself. Stop dragging her into those emotional doldrums again if you truly love her and respect her.
Be friend and close to her. You never know when time ready, relationship will gradual improve back to as it was. 16 still young and lots of time to define who you really are.
As old saying: a broken mirror is always a broken mirror.
2007-07-13 10:49:24 · answer #8 · answered by jean l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off, u cant make her fall back in love. try being just friends and maybe she'll see what she once saw. but dont be her friend just because u want to date her, do it because ur happy when ur around her. show her ur happy with her. let her know u screwed up but now u want to make it up to her and u want to be her friend and that u do care for her. it might take a while but maybe one day she will love u again.
2007-07-13 10:46:25 · answer #9 · answered by . 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest just being friends with her for a while and not think about love. Give it some time and see where things go with both of you, most of all never give up, and be a true friend. Good luck!
2007-07-13 10:46:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋