Should We Break Up?

Question

Okay My Boyfirend and me have been dating for a year almost and everything was going good. we were happy and we loved each other and we were committed to each other. but about a month ago. i found out he had feelings for guys, but now our realtionship is going down. he rarly calls me and when i'm online he doesn't talk to me and if i talk to him he gets pissed. he stop telling me things,like we used to have a day were the t.v. would be off and we would talk about EVERYTHING and now he'd rather watch t.v. or go out with friends. he gets mad when i forget the smallest things and it seems we always pick fights. he blames all the fights on me and never on him and the next day everything is fine between us. he says. i always tell him how i feel but if he doesn't like the topic he ends the converastion. he acts different and not him self.he says he loves me and he NEVER wants to lose me but he's acting like he does wanna lose me. do you think it's time for me to move on to someone better

THANK YOU EVERYONE!!!!

Answer 1

Maybe he does love you, but he's confused about what he wants, and doesn't know how to convey that info. to you?

I would suggest you try and talk to him about all this...and if you two can't work out a solution, or he just starts out on another rant, that you guys take a break so you can both decide what you want from the relationship and each other.

Answer 2

Usually when couple start having big fights over the little things, there is usually a bigger issue that is not being discussed. You said you found out he had feelings for guys, how did you find this out? Did he tell you? or did you find out through another source? Maybe this is an issue he is still dealing with and you have the right to know what side of the fence he is on, so to speak. It is not fair to you if you are in love with someone who doesn't return the same kind of feelings. You said he says he loves you, but is it the same kind of love you have for him? This is important for the two of you to discuss. This is something you can't just sweep under the carpet. You could end up getting hurt over and over again if he figures out his gender preference. This is something only he can answer. You have to talk to him and be honest with each other. This is your lives and everyone deserves to be happy. Life is just too short to ignore the important issues.

Answer 3

Okay, first things first... why are you asking a bunch of strangers? Anyway... sit him down and talk to him. Tell him your feelings about the way he's recently been acting. Ask him what is going on in his life and ask him how he feels. An open NON-ARGUMENTATIVE conversation should help you both decide what's best for you. If he decides to end the conversation he's being immature. Let him know he needs to talk to you. Let him know you think your relationship is going down-hill. Hopefully, then he'll be willing to cooperate. He may just be confused with what he wants right now and is going through a rough time. Set aside one or two nights a week where you spend time apart and with you're friends. Everyone needs a girls night out or guys night out every now and then. If you continue to have problems you'd probably be better off ending the relationship before it gets worse.

Answer 4

Well based on the details you wrote down here. If you found out that he already has feelings for somebody else and he's treating you poorly then maybe he isn't the right one for you. A guy can say anything just to keep a girl around. If his actions doesn't show a sign of affection then maybe you just gotta know when to let go. who knows but maybe later on, you'll find someone who loves you just as much as you love him and treat you with 100% love and respect you deserve. I do believe you love him and you're just waiting for him to change back to the way he used to be but sometimes, it doesnt always end up like how you want to. So now the choice is up to you. I can only give you advices now the rest is up to you. Good luck sweetie.

Answer 5

You have a right to ask for certain things out of the relationship. And you have a right to move on if those requests go unmet.

But make sure you make it clear what you are wanting. You want him to pay more attention to you, and even non-sexual attention is fine (am I hearing you right?). You want him to be civil to you. These aren't unreasonable requests for someone who claims to love you. Make these requests out loud, and make sure he knows that right now you are feeling like he does not love you, and does not care whether he loses you, and his actions are speaking much louder than his words.

Unfortunately, I can't tell you for sure whether he's bisexual, or if he's actually gay and not ready to deal with that yet. Go ahead and give him the benefit of the doubt for now - who knows, it may be that part of this deterioration is that he's somehow "convinced" that you "hate" him now that you know his deep dark secret.

Answer 6

mabe he is going through something right now. Could be job stress, money, family, lots of things. When my husband is stressed out we can get like that for a week, sometimes two weeks at a time. You just have to be patient and try to find out what is bothering him. If you love him then don't break up, you might be losing the best thing that ever happened to you.

Answer 7

this is actually your decision bu i think if u find that he's not caring about u anymore , u should break up cuz a relationship means caring respecting each other and loving each other , but if u still love him a lot , just wait a bit longer cuz i don't want u to end up like me , regretting hope u'll find the right decision soon

Answer 8

Well, first you both need to talk about your situation. tell him how you feel. If he really is selfish enough to pick fights and change his mind about wanting you a year into the relationship, leave him. Good Luck

Answer 9

You just said he has feelings for guys. Maybe he´s frustrated and doesn´t know how to let you know. that's why he´s acting like that with you.. Be Honest with him , that should help out..

Good Luck..

Bcn_mimosa

Answer 10

talk it out with him, tell him hwo you feel. If he blows up at you i would consider dumpign him cause he doesnt care about ur feelings, if he considers what you say though, give him time he might be going through soemthing at the moment