Alright -what do you do when over 30 response cards have not been returned and you are meeting with the caterer- who needs final numbers? I asked for the responses to be returned by July 12, and obviously not everyone obliged! Should I order food for all of them, or what?
2007-07-13 09:34:49 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
you need to call the people who have not RSVP. it is not rude or tacky, you need a final count.
sometimes people do forget or they might be waiting to see if they can attend. i would not be too mad at them, things do happen. :) just call and say hi, this is ____ and i was just needing a final head count and i was just wondering if you and ____________ were coming. :) it will be fine, i promise.
2007-07-13 09:37:23 · answer #1 · answered by Christina V 7 · 11⤊ 1⤋
When it says on an invitation, "Return by July 12" that's the deadline for putting it in the mailbox. It's not like a credit card deadline which means make sure it arrives at its destination by July 12th.
I'm sure some people mailed it on July 12th, so you don't have it yet. It's best to allow a 2-week window for an RSVP deadline: 1 week to arrive in the mail + 1 week to call anyone who hasn't RSVP'd.
This being said, I suggest following the advice of the first answer.
2007-07-13 10:40:41 · answer #2 · answered by Ms. X 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is currently the 13th. 1 day past your deadline. You will most likely get a few stragelers in the mail in the next few days but its common for people to send it in close to the RSVP date. i would have made the appointment to give final head count with the caterer at the soonest 2 weeks prior to the wedding. Sounds like you may not have given yourself (and your gurests) enough time to reply before meeting with your caterer.
2007-07-13 10:13:13 · answer #3 · answered by Jessica S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can call them if you are comfortable doing that. Or maybe you know someone else who is better at that- like your Mom, his Mom? the MOH?
Call your caterer- tell them what has happened. See if you need to worry. My caterer had a "formula" for figuring out how much food to prepare based on the number of invites we sent out, how many replied and how many just didn't reply at all. We had no problem with food.
2007-07-13 09:48:17 · answer #4 · answered by Amy P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's only July 13th, they could be hung up in the mail. It would not be rude to call the people whose responses you haven't received yet. Just say that the post office must have lost their response card since you didn't receive it and are they coming to the wedding? Do not just order food for them, you could end paying for alot of wasted food.
2007-07-13 10:54:17 · answer #5 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could call and ask who are coming and what they would like to have. Maybe some do not want to come or some have gotten lost in the mail or lost @ home.
Or you could order all the food and those that do not show their food can be donated to a soup kitchen or a homeless shelter. It is very rare that a shelter of asny kind gets to eat an elegant meal.
2007-07-13 09:48:38 · answer #6 · answered by moose 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to call the people and find out.. There is nothing wrong with doing that.. You dont want to have to spend $ on food that will no be eaten, do you?
Just let them know taht your caterer is needing a head count asap and was wondering if they were going to be able to attend or not.
and when it comes to RSVP's not alot of people really do send them back.. Sometimes I find them a waste of $
2007-07-13 09:43:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depending on who didn't respond, you might want to call and find out what's going on. If they didn't RSVP though, odds are really good they aren't people you're too concerned about having at your wedding.
I wouldn't order food for them. If they said they wanted to come later, you could just explain that they did not RSVP by the date given and that you needed responses by then in order to accommodate for all your guests.
You could end up wasting money by ordering food for all of them if they don't end up coming.
2007-07-13 09:55:35 · answer #8 · answered by Amanda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just call those up you haven't heard from and ask them if they will be able to attend, they won't mind at all, many times ppl just forget to send the responses back. But no i wouldn't order the food for all of them at this time, cuz not all of them will be attending more than likely and that will be a lot of extra food
2007-07-13 09:42:38 · answer #9 · answered by happily married ( : 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Call, call call! If you don't want to appear pushy, you can express your concern that perhaps they never got the invitation. Once you have connected with them, and when they tell you that they did, indeed receive it, you'll have to ask them for their verbal RSVP.
The alternative is that you'll pay for food that they may not be there to eat, or, worse yet, they'll show up and you won't have food or space for them.
2007-07-13 09:45:18 · answer #10 · answered by abfabmom1 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your best bet was to make the rsvp date atleast a week before you needed to give a final number. however, if you didn't.. phonecalls.. you need to get as many confirmed as possible.. you, groom, mob, mog.. start calling people and asking them for their response via phone
2007-07-13 09:57:41 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋