2007-07-13 09:26:13 · 30 answers · asked by abzillamonster 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Tell her the truth-on her terms.
She will appreciate your honesty, and it will encourage her to ask more questions of YOU, rather than asking her friends, and getting misinformed, or worse, trying it out on her own to find out.
Good luck!
Calista
2007-07-13 09:31:09 · answer #1 · answered by Caly 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell her the truth, but only answer exactly what she is asking. They also have plenty of grade level books for her to read, or you to read to her while explaining. My 5 year old already asked. I just got really technical and she was bored and forgot about it. I'm a single parent so I couldn't go into the whole mommy and daddy marriage area. I kept it truthful, technical, and boring. Men have sperm that have to fertilize a women's egg, and the egg develops into a baby. She didn't ask about sex, she asked about pregnancy! LOL
Next time, I will break out my developmental psychology books for some pictures and get her more interested in the development of the baby rather than the making the baby part. Kids only ask once they have a slight clue. They know something. You just take whatever angle YOU'RE comfortable with for her age and development.
2007-07-13 16:28:18 · answer #2 · answered by singlemom_of_kaylee_devin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are the mother, then you should tell her the truth. She will need to know sometime in her life but i found out through a system at the school called FLE, it stands for family life education. They will teach you about what time you usually start your period or what happens during your puberty. At certain ages they will teach you certain topics. At age 10 i learned how to get pregnant and the stages of pregnancy. Saying that she is 9 then i would tell her. If you lied then when she does find out the truth she will be like "mommy lied to me!" and you dont want to confuse your child as well. Good luck.
2007-07-13 15:00:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends on what you really want her to know. However, I think alot of sex ed. programs start right around this age (mine did when I was in school several years ago.) So she might already have some frame of reference. You can either go with the something generic "It takes a mommy and a daddy to make a baby...the daddy helps to put the baby in the mommy's tummy," or you can get into more of the details if you are comfortable doing so.
2007-07-13 09:34:27 · answer #4 · answered by maddie1979 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1] make sure she knows the proper terms for body parts.
2] explain it at third grade level - try not to horrify her!
3] answer everything she asks, as simply as possible. then she will get accurate info, and not learn erroneus stuff from friends.
My boys are now 18 and 22 - they asked me everything you could think of, and a lot you can't! If I don't know an answer, I tell them so [ sex question or anything else ] and we look it up.
They have corrected their friends so many times, sometimes their friends ask me questions too! [ I would always call the friends mom or dad and tell them what we discussed ].
They all know I am a nurse, and a Christian so don't condone premarital sex - so far they all behave themselves!
2007-07-13 09:39:55 · answer #5 · answered by Nurse Susan 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Be honest and explain. She is on the cusp of puberty and it is best you tell her how it happened in a way she will understand than to make something up. Kids understand alot more than we give them credit for. When my son asked how I got pregnant with my daughter I told him exactly how it happened, just not graphic.
2007-07-14 10:53:26 · answer #6 · answered by kikio 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to her about it. I was about 9 when I first asked my mom. She didnt explain it to me til I was 11 tho. You dont want her to explore and find out on the streets. I've heard worse things of what 9 year olds can do now a days.
2007-07-13 09:30:11 · answer #7 · answered by Wendie 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't lie or make up some kind of cutesy story - the last thing you want to do is give your child a false idea. you can use a book if you're more comfortable explaining that way - my mom used "where did i come from?" uses real language and a lot of humor to explain in a way that a child can understand. Good Luck!
2007-07-13 09:30:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give her as much information as she is willing to take. She will learn it from you, or someone else, and the only way she is going to get the information that you want her to eventually have is if YOU are the one telling her instead of the 12 yr old boy from down the street.
2007-07-13 10:40:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think i would be honest with her... i remember being in grade 4.. what does that make you??? 9 or so?? and knowing what oral sex was so she is prob. no so much in the dark she prob. just wants to get her facts straight.... if she doesn't want tooo much detail don't give it to her but talk with her and make sure she understands the concequences of what having sex means.... make sure she knows she can come to you with ANY questions she may have... and maybe you will have a girl who wont feel the need to have sex at age 10 like many are doing today :(
2007-07-13 09:31:13 · answer #10 · answered by jamiesparents2004 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to explain exactly how the whole thing works, but you can explain that when a man and woman decide they want a baby, they "put their bodies together" (or something to that effect...) and if it is meant to be, a baby is implanted in the woman's tummy. You do not have to explain how the bodies go together, and you do not have to say that god puts it there (if you are not a religous person). It is honest to give a vague answer.
2007-07-13 09:35:04 · answer #11 · answered by ktbug222 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋