she has level four lymphatic cancer. she was diagnosed over 3yrs ago and has not gone back to check on it's progression. she does not want to tell her family because they do not have a lot of money for treatment, nor does she want to bother them with her health and has not mentioned this to them in the same amount of time. I think she doesn't want to tell them because they will be even more strict with her and not allow her to do what she wants (even though she is over 25 years old). Her parents are extremely religious and traditional, which is why they are so strict.
2007-07-13 09:18:40 · 10 answers · asked by Janet M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think you need to tell them. If something happens you'll probably feel really bad for not saying anything. They will get her help!@!!!! No one wants a family member to die. And they are medical plans, payment plans. free health care for poverty stricken homes. Help her!!!!
2007-07-13 09:41:01 · answer #1 · answered by BL 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Much as it hurts, this is not something you need to be telling your friend's family about. I saw a family go into a total meltdown when they had a member dying of breast cancer that had been untreated and had metastasized pretty much everywhere.
I think they would have gone along with "whatever the patient wants", even though that was to do nothing and die a horrible, painful death.
She may know that her family wouldn't be supportive. They may, in fact, treat her worse, or just shut down when they heard it. She knows her family better than you do, and she knows how they might react.
Now, as far as what you can do...your friend sounds kinda depressed, like there's nothing that can be done. That may be the case. Sometimes, the cure is far worse than the disease, especially with advanced cancer.
But even at the end, there may be palliative care. There may be things your friend could take or do to feel better even if she is going to die.
Encourage her to get help. There are programs, funds, organizations...there's help. There might be government insurance for cancer care.
Money is not the issue. It's about the quality of this person's life, and telling her family isn't right, but encouraging your friend to seek help is.
2007-07-13 09:39:07 · answer #2 · answered by SlowClap 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I do not know what the particulars are with that type of cancer, but I know that I lost my husband to lung cancer 1 1/2yrs ago. It is a disease that some people are in denial of having at first, so I have discovered by going to classes, etc. And I know that even though he had so many friends and family trying to help him with suggesting doing this herb or this treatment, it just drove him nuts. I know it was all out of love, but it boils down to the individual. Yes, the treatments and medication where horribly expensive. I always wondered how people without insurance would get good care if they couldn't buy the drugs and treatments they need. Maybe just try to be the best friend you can be with her and if she doesn't want to tell her parents, it sounds like you know them pretty well to understand somewhat how she feels. It isn't something you can blame yourself for if she never tells them and you have known. Believe me, having a true best friend to stick by her thru all of this will be the best blessing she could have. She has her reasons and maybe you can just ask her what they are. But assure her that it is up to her who she tells. That's the best thing I think you could do for her. I do hope that doesn't sound too cold or uncaring. Never stop respecting her.
2007-07-13 09:35:53 · answer #3 · answered by conyoung2007 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-21 04:19:25 · answer #4 · answered by serravalli 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely you may not tell. That is privileged info and I am surprised you even know. According to the HIPPA, health information and privacy act no one should divulge those things. Kudos to her for avoiding the usual final months of vomiting and pain on chemo which I believe can actually be the cause of death.. Stage 4 is not good as I am certain you realize. . But she may even surprise everyone and do better; but ,no, do not tell anyone.
2007-07-13 09:41:03 · answer #5 · answered by barthebear 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think this is a private matter between her and her family. She should be the one making the decision as to whether or not to let her family know.
2007-07-13 09:31:24 · answer #6 · answered by Stareyes 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It's her right not to tell them. Don't tell them. She is living her life as she sees fit. Let her live the rest of her life with what she feels is her dignity.
2007-07-13 09:23:48 · answer #7 · answered by RedRabbit 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
DEFINETLY TELL HER FAMILY! I'm saying this now because my grandpa is in the hospital fighting against his own cancer as I'm typing. If she somehow dies (I'm really sorry for talking about death! PLEASE FORGIVE ME!!!) suddenly, you'll feel guilty for not telling her family before time. Tell her I wish her luck!
-kitty
2007-07-13 09:27:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
no it is not your place to tell her family
2007-07-13 09:23:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, No, No.
2007-07-13 09:24:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋