Okay, so my ex bf and I stopped talking in the beginning of the year due to not seeing eye to eye. Last week, he started calling and hanging around me. He said he missed the way we used to be: lovers, friends, etc. I told him I still had feelings for him and would like to start over and work on us, our old relationship, and myself too. So he says "I have feelings for u too but I have body needs and if I'm not getting it from u, then...." you know the rest( he'll get it elsewhere). Then he says "U can see who u want just dont tell me about it." So I got mad because while we were hanging out last week, he was kissing me and holding my hand, things like that. So I told him we can be strictly friends, nothing more but he was still trying to say he would like to see me and etc. What in the hell is going on? I'm super confused. Is he in it for sex or is this the way guys really are? Enlighten me people!!
2007-07-13 08:46:51 · 6 answers · asked by Beautiful 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you need to lay down the law, and stick to it, otherwise he is getting confussed, and still will try to sex you, don't go for it. if he can't deal with it, let him go as a friend, not worht the headach!
2007-07-13 08:56:04 · answer #1 · answered by jackie j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everybody needs different things in a relationship, and there is no reason to judge somebody for that, and think that he is necessarily in it only for sex. I, for example, would never even consider being with a woman that would not have sex with me since physical closeness is as important as emotional closeness in a relationship. That does not make me weird or worth less, it is just a requirement, and I am very open about it.
However, telling your 'girlfriend' that you will get it elsewhere and she can do 'as long as you don't tell him,' is BS, since it is neither an open relationship (when you both agree that sex with other people is OK) or an exclusive relationship.
You need to have a relationship with somebody that agrees with you on what constitutes a relationship, whatever that might be.
2007-07-13 15:58:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He misses having sex with you. If you're giving the relationship another shot, and sex was part of the equation before, you cannot withhold it and expect things to work.
2007-07-13 15:50:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If sex was the only thing holding your relationship together, then it wasn't a relationship at all. It's what we call "f**k buddy".
2007-07-13 15:55:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
not all guys are like that, but yeah, sorry,he is in it for the sex. find a guy who genuinely loves you, and who will take care of YOUR needs, not his. he is just a stupid horny guy, lose him
2007-07-13 15:50:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
run, don't walk, run away.
2007-07-13 15:50:43 · answer #6 · answered by randy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋