If you were going on holiday for a week and your husband offered your home to his Mother and Father..?

Question

for them to come and stay in, would you be angry?
Now I really don't want them to come and stay and I'm fairly annoyed about this.
I want you to answer the question with what you would do in this circumstance rather than with what you feel is the right thing to say.
Cheers.

I should have added that they are very dirty, I just know that I will come back to red wine having been spilt on the carpet and stains (if you know what I mean) all around the toilet and bathroom floor. We've just moved into a new house and I know that any dishes which they use will have been washed but will need re washed.
They aren't horrible people by any means, they try their best but their unhygenic ways bug the hell out of me.
However, I know if it was my parents I'd definately let them stay and therein lies the problem.

Answer 1

Since he's already ask them, I would let them come this time, but I would let him know that it will never happen again.

You seem to like them, so it's not a matter of them not coming to visit, but that they are not allowed to stay at your house without you there. I would not say anything to his parents as they probably think they are welcome anytime so theres no sense in hurting their feeling. But it's your life, you get to make the decisions about things that are important to you.

Answer 2

It does depend on if you have any pets that you are going to have them take care of like a dog cat etc. and on how far they live away. Then I wold not have any problems with that b/c I know that they are being taken care of. If there were no pets then no I would be very angry with him. And I would flat out tell him that It is not right that his parents move in to our home while we are gone. I would sit down and discuss and let him know that under no way is it going to stay. If he wants them to than he can go on the holiday alone and I will be staying home .
Good luck

Answer 3

Are they thieves? Are they snoops? Are they habitually dirty? Are they alcoholics/drug users? Are they critical of everything about you?

If yes to any of these then I'd be really upset.

If you live in a "destination city" like San Francisco or NYC etc. and they live in some little out-of-the-way place then why not let them enjoy the city on their own terms?

If you feel put-upon because your husband didn't consult you about this first - then you need to explain that to husband.

OK so they're coming. I'd take everything out of the house that you don't want stolen, broken, talked about etc. and put it in a locked trunk in the attic and keep the keys. Or put the valuables in a safe deposit box.

Answer 4

Would you let your parents stay? I don't think you can do anything but go with the flow.