What is about a nice guy that turns you off. Women always say that there are no good men out there. The fact is that their are plenty of good men out there, they just don't want them.Women always go straight to the guy who don't care anything about them. I've been in a relationship where I treated my girl like a queen and in the end I got screwed. So should I start acting like other guys or should I continue to be a nice guy because I think I'm done being nice. Not worth it.
2007-07-13 07:29:36 · 43 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No - don't turn into a jerk! Believe me, the type of women who go for the "bad" boys aren't the kind you want to end up with. They are usually very immature, have very little wisdom, and end up learning later in life that they made some very stupid decisions.
Continue to be true to yourself and who you are. You're a nice guy - don't make apologies for it. There ARE women out there who appreciate a nice guy. One reason some women are turned off by a typical "nice" guy is that he may come on tooo strong. Women like to be treated nice but they don't want a WEAK man. Women can sense if a guy is the type of person she can walk all over and even the nicest girl will get away with as much as you allow. I'm a very nice girl and am married to a wonderfully nice man. But make no mistake about it - he would NEVER allow me to treat him badly, disrespect him, etc. He puts me in line and I do the same for him. You have to balance being nice with also respecting yourself and not taking sh*t.
2007-07-13 07:34:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The actual problem here is that women want different things at different times of their menstrual cycle. When a woman is most fertile, she wants an "alpha male" type, the bad-boy biker dude. But most of the time, a woman wants a nice guy who can support her and take care of her. The problem comes when you're ALWAYS nice...it's good to have a little bit of a bad-boy edge. Try taking up a hobby that makes you seem a little more "dangerous." Do treat your girl like a queen, but find ways to make her feel like she's with the "alpha male" and she won't end up leaving you for a harley-riding tattoo artist. It's all about confidence and body language.
2007-07-13 07:37:34 · answer #2 · answered by Nina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All women don't go to guys that will treat them like crap but if a guy is too overbearingly nice its intimadating. When you said you treated your girl like a queen did you ever notice how whenever someone talks about being royalty they compare it to prison. You should keep being a nice guy but you don't always have to spend time together with the girl you love. Everybody needs space so let her do somethings by herself and then the things you'll do together will be more special and don't do everything for her because you might not do it the way she likes it or she might just like doing it herself. Besides if you found a girl that liked being treated like a queen all the time she might wear you out. So basically women don't always go for the guy that will mistreat them and women say there aren't enough nice guys out there because they haven't found one yet. Just stay strong and you'll find your dreamgirl.
2007-07-13 07:38:48 · answer #3 · answered by parchessey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've dated both types. For me, the difference was that the nice guys tended to be the type of guy I felt would not be strong enough to protect me, or emotionally able to support me in a time of need. The "bad boy" type made me feel physically protected, and secure that he would not let anyone mess with me (of course he could). Ultimately I lucked out and married a guy who was both...he has a sensitive side that nurtures my emotional side, and he is definately not the type of guy that anyone would try to mess with. I think a guy has to find a balance between showing strength and sensitivity. Also, for me, treating me like a Queen pretty much turns me into a whiney little snot, and I don't like the person I am when that happens....some girls love that, not me. Every once in a while my husband will tell me no....lol...but he doesn't really mean it.
2007-07-13 07:38:01 · answer #4 · answered by TxsWitchWAB 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok i dont know about anyone else but I want my man to be my friend as well. I love the sweet romantic stuff but the friend part is very important so when a guys is nice and caring and basically worshiping you its a turn off. And you wouldnt be completely nice to your friend all the time, you'd joke around, you'd fight, you'd disagree. Maybe that is it.
So please don't stop being a nice guy because I know I havn't found to many and I would love to have the a** holes to nice guys ratio be more nice guys then a** holes.
2007-07-13 07:44:08 · answer #5 · answered by Shawn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, stay nice and don't forget there are a lot of fish in the sea. Don't become something that you aren't, if you are a nice guy stay that way because if you become something your not and end up hurting a nice girl then you will feel like crap because you know what it feels like to be hurt. Hang in there, keep trying, never give up on love, I'm sure there is someone out there looking for someone just like you.....
2007-07-13 07:34:14 · answer #6 · answered by Scooter Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A girl will treat her husband/boyfriend like she treats her father. Try to watch and see how she treats him. If her father bosses her around a lot, she might want a guy that doesn't give her everything she wants and takes control sometimes. If she doesn't have a father then she will just want someone that will cherish and treat her like a queen. If her father gives her everything, then she will probably be a bit snobby and always need to get what she wants. If she treats her father really well and obeys him, but isn't bossed around, then she will want someone that will sometimes take control, but then let her do her own thing sometimes..that treats her like a princess but will tell her when she takes things too far.
2007-07-13 07:41:03 · answer #7 · answered by gracie_thunder 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women usually want someone who is the perfect mix of tough, sensitive, loyal, but opinionated. Maybe you bow down to women, and you dont voice your opinion. Sometimes we need a bit of a challenge. Too much of anything is bad...and that includes nice...Overly nice and sensitive guys are fine for awhile but it just seems like they say and do everything just because it is the right thing, and not because it is how they feel. Dont give up yourself and your values for a woman! Thats crazy,.maybe you are too nice, and some woman will love you for that, it is just not the ones you have met so far...and yes, women fall for bad boys, but we learn quickly that too much of that gets old quick! And by that time all the nice guys are taken!!
2007-07-13 07:37:50 · answer #8 · answered by Enchanted One 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the thing that turns me off is if the guy is really touchy with me when i dont even know him that well. Or if a guy is way too cheesy with me, like he's *always* saying corny stuff or something. No you shouldnt act like the other jerks because in the end they dont actually win. I dont think you've met the right girl yet. How old are you? You also dont want to act like a wimp. Thats another turn off if you cant even stand up for your girl.
2007-07-13 07:33:11 · answer #9 · answered by one_thing 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if being nice has anything to do with how much I like a guy. If I have chemistry with a guy and I'm attracted to him, I'll want to be with him regardless if he's nice or not. That being said, I lose respect for guys that allow others to walk all over them and I don't want a guy who is kind of a stalker. There's a certain level of "nice" that is too nice.
** I totally 100% agree with NAQ's answer below **
2007-07-13 07:33:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋