Why is it that men can go do us wrong? Why is it that we just decide to keep holding on? Why is it that we never seem to just have the strength to leave? He's got to go!
2007-07-13 06:15:36 · 30 answers · asked by princess526_2001 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Its usually not that we don't have the strength to let go, its' that we're forgiving creatures. We accept their apologies and truly believe them when they say "Babe, I'm gonna be different, I'm gonna change for you." because we honestly want to believe that they're telling the truth and that they really are going to be different and better.
2007-07-13 06:20:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you allow yourselves to live within social constraints that suppress you.
I have a whole ton of information on this, but I can't write it all here because huge cut and pastes are rude. But if you are interested in some real answers look at the blogs on my 360 page. There you'll see how things like monogamy and rape can be tools for suppression.
But always remember this: No one can give you freedom and independence except for yourself, and you can't have love or happiness until you have those things!
2007-07-13 13:21:55 · answer #2 · answered by Dominus 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men do you wrong only if you let them. It is your decision to hold on. Why to hold on? I can think of no good reason, but my guess is that some women are too weak to just let it go....to insecure and probably feel they can do no better, so holding on to a guy who mistreats her is better than no guy (at least in her mind). I don't understand that way of thinking, but I know plenty of women who let guys walk all over them. It;'s just sad.
2007-07-13 13:19:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was in an unhealthy over 2 year relationship, i cared the world for him and he claimed he did too, but i worked alot paid for rent gorceries, clothes, and whenever he got his little paycheck he would try to spend it on me cuz he wanted to, but i would also cook meals, and do laundry and things of that sort, he would help out too but only if i asked him too. i did this because i was head over heels forhim and didnt care. i too imagined having a long happy life with him, but i was in denial i lied to myself and i was way too forgiving, i forgave him for some pretty sh!tty things, and if i got pissy one day he wouldnt forget it for a long time no matter how much i apologized, oh and he would almost never apologize unless i asked him to. he was immature. i still love him alot, but i didnt deserve to be treated that way, maybe 5 years from now we will bump into eachother and try dating again, (hopefully he will be mature then) maybe not maybe i will find someone who treats me like a queen while i treat them like a king. we have broke up many times and this is the first time i have been actually doing the no contact rule, and i feel great, of course i still cry sometimes but its ok to be sad, doesnt mean you have to have him back. he called the day after and i ignored it it felt so good and i smiled to myself, i was proud of it. (of course he left a voice mail saying i need my tooth brush and charger :/ lol ) i dont have many friends -just moved here for college last year, and he and i did everything together- but even if i have to go watch a movie by myself its a way to get out of the house, go to the mall and just walk around
2007-07-13 19:57:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
those are all generalizations. the fact is that you are that way because you choose to be. you wont be once you realize that you deserve better. men capitalize on that type of mentality but it isnt their fault, its your fault if you allow someone to treat you like that. most women dont realize they have all the power in a relationship, especially before you have sex. instead they allow the men to dictate things and that usually ends up bad. seize the power and you will see that men will do whatever you want them to do.
2007-07-13 13:20:42 · answer #5 · answered by asg_is_chillin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yup. i know exactly what you're talking about. i had the same problem. he was just so nice in the beginning i thought he was everything. then things got bad and i was i was too much in love with him to let go even though i knew it was the right thing to do and i thought i might regret it later. buy eventually i knew what i had to do and i let him go. i felt a lot better and i know i deserve so much better than that!
2007-07-13 13:20:36 · answer #6 · answered by melyjelly05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol, somebody's a DC fan circa Writing's on The Wall
I'll finish the rest for you:
"My man's been cheatin' on me. Been running 'round here with this little tenderoni. Don't think I haven't noticed you've been acting funny. Taking too long to call me..."
2007-07-13 13:31:57 · answer #7 · answered by Belle Noir 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because society still expects women to be subservient to men. What you need is an assertive course so that you get over that hang up and be able to dump him and move on.
2007-07-13 13:20:27 · answer #8 · answered by Aliz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know the details but when your not happy its time to move on. Try being able to recongnize when your nnot happy and ending it on your own rather than waiting for hiim, it just makes you more attached and sometimes your attachment is probly mistaken for your pride on being dumped or dogged rather than hurt. Good Luck on the next one.
2007-07-13 13:19:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Woman ahve the foolish idea they can change a guy. That they don't want to give up on him and have some other girl cash in on her hard work to turn him around.
Guess what, you can't change us. It never works. Whatever he is, he will always be that jerk for you.
2007-07-13 14:04:24 · answer #10 · answered by Jdude 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋