need you guys advice on something?

Question

I'm in a situation here. I am thinking about moving back home, now I can still keep my job, but I would have to commute to work every day which is about 1 hour and thirty min to 2 hours each way. Now the city I'm in is so much more expensive to live in then at home, and honestly I miss my family and surrondings. I'm so confused any advice. Serious answers only. If your under 18 please don't reply.

I guess I should have been more specific. I'm not going back home to live with parents I'll have my own place, but just to be closer to my family help my mom that sort of thing. My grandmother passed not to long ago and then right after her my uncle died. My mom is going through a lot I'm not saying I'm the only child or anythin, but I feel as though I'm the only one that's willing to put in the time. The area I live now I work two jobs and this still isn't enough. 7 days a week combined. maybe about 2 hours sleep at the most. to get from home to work is about an hour and this is on a good day. Now if I moved back home, I'll be saving like 800.00 on rent and bills alone. And I know my surrondings. As to suppose here, and I've been here two years. I work so much I have no time for anything. Atleast if I move home my weekends will be mine. But you all made some really great points.

Answer 1

Well, you will have more money but less time...

So you will have even more money, Cause you wont have any time to spend it....

Hell, Go for it, If my parents were alive today, I would........

Answer 2

OK, lets look at it from a time perspective.
You work 8 hrs.
You sleep about 8hrs.
You will be driving 3-4 hours a day.
You will spend a minimum of 1 hour a day in personal needs.
So you will get maybe 4 hours a day with family. And, it may not be that because you will go to be earlier and get up earlier.

Now, for the money. If you are driving 1.5 - 2hrs each way, assuming a 30mph average communte that is about 50 miles a day. If your car gets 20 mpg ( which it probably won't ), that would 2.5 gallons per day. Or a minimum of one tank a week. If you go through a tank a week right now, then you are looking at 2 tanks a week. A tank will cost you about $35.00, so that is $140.00 a month.

Will you pay rent and board to your parents, or do you plan to freeload?
Are you dating? Living at home is not good when dating.
What kind of condition is your car in? Will it stand up to the commute? What will the increased distance do to your insurance? ( longer commute means greater chance of an accident)
Do you cook your own food or eat out a lot? Eating out costs a lot of money.
Do you drink and smoke? Both are expensive and unnecessary.

Once you take into account all the costs associated with moving home, are you sure you will save money and that it is worth it?

Answer 3

You gotta get enough sleep or soon you won't be able to do your job(s), plus it would be nice to have enough liesure time to shop around to find one better job to replace the two you have.

I would shop around to find a good balance between quality living (cost, low crime rate, easy access to shopping ... eg. grocery in walking distance) without horrible commute time, then plan on spending part of every weekend with friends and family ... you do not visit them every day, so the commute there not seem so bad, even though it may be longer ... plus sometimes you can meet them at some middle ground, some park for example.

Suburbs are generally nicer place to live than in the City.
* Cleaner environment
* Lower Crime
* Goods Schools if you have kids
* Lower cost of living

But then there is the commute time, which can become a drain, unless you are able to rest during the commute, not practical if you are driving, and there is traffic jam stress

Gas prices go up, traffic jams get worse, commute time gets longer, over time, but perhaps there are alternatives
* Can you get in a car pool?
* What is the bus service like ... some buses pick up people in a suburb, then take the expressway to downtown, so you do not have stop every block all the way from suburb to city, which makes the journey 5 times longer than if you were driving
* Is there a rail alternative, like subway

Compare prices ... cost of upkeep of the car, parking downtown ... vs. using public transportaiton

Main reason I not use public transportation
the buses only run certain hours, which at one end do not overlap my working hours
buses do not run close to where I work
buses are not air conditioned ... I can open my car window

I am able to sleep, or doze on public transportation, if I am able to be seated, the vehicle / rail in good repair, and the crime rate not something I have to worry about

In some cities ... Chicago, New York ... there are also ferry boats available for part of a commute

Answer 4

Well aside from missing your family and friends/surroundings you did not say what else is influencing that option (money, lost love, dislike of current home, etc..). We all miss something about our homes, and some people never leave either.. but there is a lot of world out there and at your age there is a lot of growing up left to do. Those are opportunities that you should not short yourself on.

> Spend a week at home... enjoy the commute. Then make your decision based on all the factors.
> Talk to your parents... do they WANT you back home ? Sounds like a silly question but make sure they haven't settled into that empty nest routine.
> If you choose to go.. work out a payment to your parents that's the responsible thing to do if you are old enough to work then you are old enough to share the burden(s).
> Take a look at your long term goals. If you don't have any then its getting toward that time in your life where you need to start making some. Nothing has to be cast in stone, but you need to have direction. Franklin Covey has a book called the Seven Habits of Successful People.. without regard to the application of the book to your problem, one of the first of the seven is 'Begin with the End in mind' and it definately applies here to you.

so.. go ponder.. its YOUR answer that counts.. not mine.

Ok, grasshopper, you are on your own.. watch out for the rice paper on your way out. (you can ask your mom and dad about that if you don't understand it)

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Answer 5

with the price of gas! paying rent may be cheaper in the long run. especially the time of your life spent driving each way, plus wear and tear on car. Missing family is understandable, but the commute is gonna take time away from that anyway. Maybe just visit of weekends more often. I had a two hour commute each way, plus 12 hours shift, seven days a week! wore me out! your looking at around 20 hrs of your life a week driving! that is half a normal work week.

Answer 6

Been there, done that!!

4 hours in a car will eventually wear you down. I would do it for a while, to be near home, while looking for a job closer. The comute will cost you money in gas and war and tear and to me time is more valuable. You may end up being so tired that you can;t enjoy being home with your family. I personally have adjusted my whole life around one element; commute time. I have a 15-20 minute commute and as a result I make less maney, but the time saved and time spent with my family is far more valuable.

Answer 7

i think you should ask your boss if they could relocate you if possible
if you are getting good money then its worth driving plus your family might be a big support and help you out
if you get tired of driving find a job near you that pay the same
hope fully it helps

Answer 8

dont thats a super long commute you will get tired right away plus gas prices is way to high

Answer 9

that a lot of drivin...u will get sick of it quick...and costs big $$$$...change jobs and move...or move 1/2 way back towards home.