Can some one help me with my boyfriend problem?

Question

I am a Christian and i though my boyfriend was too because he went to church and he prayed. But last night he told me that he wasnt because he couldnt believe one religion when all religions think they are right. This made me really sad, but i didnt show it. In the Bible is said to be equally yolked and before i went out with anyone i promised myself that i wouldnt go out with anyone who wasnt a Christian. I am still growing in my relationship with God. (im 15 yrs old) So, when he said those things it made me feel mad and sad that he didnt believe. If someone could help me with this or give me some bible refrence that would help me so much. I really need some help. Thanks.

Answer 1

You've made an excellent choice to only date Christians. I am very proud of you, especially to only be 15. But this doesn't mean you need to abandon your present boyfriend. You could be God's messenger to him. And he obviously has some Christian upbringing. I wouldn't go steady. (Is that still a modern term?) I would stick to double dates and chaperoned parties to help keep things from getting too serious. As a Christian, your goal is to help your boyfriend (and anyone else) find their way to Jesus. At 15, your dating goal is to just have fun. But it won't be long before you are looking for someone to marry. That's the time to stick to someone who not only is a Christian but also goes to church with you. Otherwise, when you have children of your own, you'll argue over where they go to church. Again, I'm really proud of you and I wish we had teens in my church like you.

Answer 2

While 15 is a bit young to start worrying about being 'equally yoke' (that's a marriage issue), I think it speaks well of you that you have the maturity to discuss such things with your bf, and the apparent moral strength to walk away from a relationship where the other person doesn't share your values.

Stick to your values, in the end it's all you really have anyway. And if this boy is not in the same place and seems to be moving in a different direction, be ready to move on. At your age, committing yourself to another person is usually not very wise. Learn from the experience and retain the positive memories from it. I guarantee there are many fine young men who will appreciate your moral stance and agree with and compliment your strengths.

Don't let youthful physical attractions dull your moral compass.

Good luck.

Answer 3

Live your own life, believe what you wish, and do not worry or try to influence a boyfriend. At 15 you'll have many many more experiences with males, no reason to become serious now. Move on and find someone else who believes like you do.

Answer 4

Next time you read the bible, let me know where it says you must be a Christian. God requires faith in him and goodwill towards your fellow man. He doesn't require you be a christian, muslim, catholic, jew, ect. Man requires that of you. Lead a good life, grow in your relationship with God, Don't feel angst towards others because of thier individual beliefs, just carve a path that others will follow.

Answer 5

...another brain-washed Christian is coming to join the rest of the flock....

Let him believe what he feels is right! Who are you to put him in a situation like that? "Hey, you either believe what I believe, or I'll leave you", maybe he should leave. You will never find real love with the mentality you will have if you continue thinking so stupidly.

Answer 6

First of all, you're only fifteen. I know, I know. But, you are just starting out.

Second, if you are set on only being with another Christian, then I think you already know what you have to do. Don't change your own plans or standards because of a boy.

Answer 7

Just be an example.

God appreciates a well-thought-out, well-conducted personal search for truth, even if the person's search leads him away from God for awhile.

God is, after all, a Father.

Answer 8

You're 15. You still have a lot of life left to live.

If that is not the answer you wanted to hear, how about this one: If he loves you, he'll come back to Christ.

You decide which answer you like better.

Answer 9

Hi,u continue in ur faith and belief and ur example in following Jesus may turn him back if not u keep going.
God bless.

Answer 10

Here are some bible references for you, arranged by category:

Injustice
http://www.skepticsannotatedbible.com/inj/long.html

Absurdity
http://www.skepticsannotatedbible.com/abs/long.htm

Cruelty and violence
http://www.skepticsannotatedbible.com/cruelty/long.html

Intolerance
http://www.skepticsannotatedbible.com/int/long.html

Contradictions
http://www.skepticsannotatedbible.com/contra/by_name.html

Family Values
http://www.skepticsannotatedbible.com/fv/long.html

Women
http://www.skepticsannotatedbible.com/women/long.html

Science and history
http://www.skepticsannotatedbible.com/science/long.html

Prophecies
http://www.skepticsannotatedbible.com/proph/long.html

Sex
http://www.skepticsannotatedbible.com/sex/long.htm

Language
http://www.skepticsannotatedbible.com/lang/long.html

Homosexuality
http://www.skepticsannotatedbible.com/gay/long.htm


If you can't accept him, he deserves better than you. Let him go.

Read Letter to a Christian Nation to understand what non-christians think of your religion.