Did our "break" ruin our relationship?

Question

I think it did, but my bf refuses to think so. we have been dating for 7 months now and about 2 months ago because of my work schedule (we hardly ever get to see each other) he wanted to take a "break". The break did not last long at all, he comes crying back telling me it was mistake and what not. He said alot of hurtful things to me and I think that moment ruined our relationship. Now I cant even be around him for a long period of time or anything. But he is even more in love with me than before the break. Its hard for me to get over what he said and get back emotionally where we were before the break. Why did the roles switch? Is there anything I can do to repair it? I dont wanna hurt him but I am afraid this is the end.

btw, our break was only like a day. Like I said it was not very long at all.....and before that I was also finding him talking to another girl about how much he missed her and then i found him asking another chick if she wanted to do anything and he admited he liked her. I confronted him about it and he said he was just testing to see what she would say. This was all about 3 months before our break

Answer 1

*WHAT?!!* LOL.

You bum...

I just read your "additional details" and you ought to be ashamed of yourself.... Making me type all of that and you've only been away for a day - from a CHEATER? Well, you still need to talk. Why is he chasing other women when he and his girl are only taking a break? Unless, he is trying to pursue other women or doing it out of spite. Anyway... You two have problems besides relationship issues. lol. Work 'em out.

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First, go to him or call him and tell him you love him or you care or whatever. That's your ice-breaker. Then tell him you wish that you two had never taken a "break" from each other because you missed him (even if you didn't just say you did to make it easier to talk to him).

Next, ask him how he feels about being away from you. Tell him you don't wanna go through that again.

The thing that many people don't realize is that when a man or woman is busy all the time or away for too long, the other person can get lonely, frustrated, aggravated, and desperate for attention. Sometimes they'll ask for a "break" just to scare you into giving them more attention. They think that if they threaten to leave the relationship or "take a break" that their lover will be like, "Oh no, baby, let's not do that. I'll spend more time with you. Blah, blah, blah." So, some people do it out of spite or as a way to punish the person who is busy all the time. It's like the old saying: "There's a thin line between love and hate." The dude loves you so much that when he doesn't feel that love being returned, he gets jealous, angry, and starts imagining all kinds of crap. He probably thinks you wanted the break so that you could meet someone else or something.

But you have to be tactful and talk to him. And assure him that you really care but that you have a job to do and other things in your life that take up your time. Let him know that if you did have all the free time in the world that you would spend it with him because he's an important part of your life. That's what you have to do. He'll apologize, but help him and give him the chance to do it. Show him you care.

And also let him know that you don't think it was cool for him to act like that or say what he said if he truly cares. If he keeps that kind of behavior up, you might not wanna be bothered with him anyway, because he could get worse. So, DO NOT LET HIM GET AWAY WITH THAT. Remember, you're his Queen and he should treat you like one. And vice versa.

But y'all can make it work. Just learn to communicate and do what you can to show each other that you care.

Answer 2

Sounds to me like he got a little something extra on his break and regretted it... that is why he loves you more than ever before and says it was a mistake.

Look out for yourself.

Answer 3

If you're hurt, it's up to him to apologize.

Answer 4

THE END its is.