Ok. My boyfriend and I passed up the friend and kissing stage of our 4 year realisonship (Im 24 he's 25)( 2 monthes apart)We both live alone but like 2 minutes by car away. So here's the problem. I dont know how for him to aprove or "clear" the sexual stage. AND NO I WILL NOT BREAK UP WITH HIM!! SHould I show him something or let him ***** me! Plz not smart a.ss answers. I really am confused.
2007-07-13 05:04:51 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
get him alone at ur house oone night, have all the safety materials ready. wear something sexy, and make the room dim, then sit intimately with him for a bit not doing anything. don't do anything and remain silent, he will probably get aroused if you stay like this, and will make a move
2007-07-13 06:15:34 · answer #1 · answered by Elvinia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you need to talk to him. Communication is very important in a relationship AND in sex. If you want to have sex with him then do so, (if)you are an adult. Make the decision and talk to him about it.
And I am not trying to be a smart a s s ---BUT I am willing to bet that you are not 24 and he is not 25. I am willing to bet, because of the childish nature of this question, that you are infact a child, or the most sheltered, uninformed person on this site. The simple fact that you are trivializing sex with the word fu ck is a bit of a give away in itself. Why not re-think the whole sex thing, until you are sure that is what you both want to do. The reality is that if a man of 25 hasn't had sex with you after 4 years of making out, and you have done everything but intercourse---well that just isn't even a rational thought--the rarity of a man that hasn't had sex that has had a girlfriend for 4 years is next to 0%!!! Sorry!
2007-07-13 05:13:29 · answer #2 · answered by Austins Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this something YOU want? I don't want to encourage anything you are not prepared to do. Has he hinted at any type of sexual activity? First, be prepared. IF you are willing and wanting to engage in sexual activity, you must be prepared, and I mean protection. Either birth control, or, preferably, condoms and/or KY spermicidal jelly. Having said that, all you have to do is move on him in an intimate way. Things will go from there. However, if neither of you are ready for this, and want to wait until you are married, then I suggest the latter.
2007-07-13 05:18:16 · answer #3 · answered by enbsayshello 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Plan a afternoon for him to come over and make him a fancy dinner. Put up candles, dem the lights, put out flowers. Have dinner then sit on the couch with some wine. Flirt and start to make out. Slowly you will get to the sex part sometime that night. THIS ALWAYS WORKS! Good Luck!!!!!
2007-07-13 05:11:53 · answer #4 · answered by ♥ LilMsSunShyne ♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure if you are saying you want sex or not? only you can decide that. you are over 21 and know all the risks of being sexually active in todays world. If you are interested in the sexual part taking off greet him at the door naked when he comes to vist. he will get the idea pretty quick. if you are not interested then greet him in flannel pajamas. good luck
2007-07-13 05:12:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you make love not the f*** word. If it's the first time it should be special since you have waited so long. If he has waited this long and is still with you, I wouldn't be concerned about having sex until you are both ready and discuss it. He obviously loves you if has stayed with you with out having sex, that should be a decision between you to.
2007-07-13 05:10:25 · answer #6 · answered by padros 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would try to encourage him to go to that stage, and let him lead, but guide him. If you let him know you want to, he should be willing to, but I would recommend that you only guide him and you let him lead. If you see that it is not going so well, then you should "show him something", but don't do it as to hurt his ego. Do it like saying "ooh lets try it this way". That way it will encourage him to keep going, but you can still take the lead a littlle. Good Luck!
2007-07-13 05:14:03 · answer #7 · answered by P1D1T3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...the best way is to kiss him and then unbutton his shirt and go on frm there...If he stops u then i don't think he's ready...if he continues...make sure u know where the condoms are..
I'm a guy so just letting u know how i wud like it...
2007-07-13 05:11:00 · answer #8 · answered by chaingang325 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are old enough to enjoy a sexual relationship with him.
Give it up and let him have it real good!
2007-07-13 05:09:44 · answer #9 · answered by handyman7799 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just start giving him the hints that you want him in that way, and whens at ur house at night just come out of ur room with sumthing sexi on, and just start other then that idk what to tell you but i hope that helps you out!!
2007-07-13 05:10:09 · answer #10 · answered by Alexis H 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋