I don't see how my boyfriend can stand to see me naked. I have quite saggy breasts, and I dislike my thighs very much. Other than that I don't really mind the way that I look but I don't get how he wants to look at me. I don't think I'm that appealing at all. And by the way I'm not trying to sound full of myself, I just don't understand it. And it otherwise makes me feel kind of embarrassed because there are aspects about myself that I don't like, which I'm sure others feel the same about their bodies but it doesn't feel that way sometimes.
2007-07-13 04:45:18 · 22 answers · asked by Melissa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well your bf loves more than just your breasts and thighs. He is able to see your inner beauty...which is something that you should also work on.
2007-07-13 04:47:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Most women do not understand guys. They are basically attracted by three different things - what they see, what they touch, and what they think about.
Now, that can be be many things. He will probably never tell you what there is about you that attracts him, because most of the time what attracts a guy is rather embarrassing...
He may really like saggy boobs or fat thighs. Ever hear of a "chubby chaser?"
It can be (and most often IS) weird - he may like the blouses you wear that show off your bra, he may like the shoes you wear (ever hear of a shoe or foot fetish?).
Guys think about sex every 10 seconds or so, and get very narrowed-in on some things. There's something about you he has narrowed in on, and you will probably never know what it is.
Now I'm gonna tell a big secret, and they'll probably kick me out of the club - never show him what he wants to see. Don't got crazy doing it, but the theory is that if your guy really likes ear-lobes, that if you pull your hair back so that he can see them, he will lose interest in ear-lobes after a time. Keep it a mystery. He wants you naked? Then wear flannel PJ's (You know he is gonna take them off during certain activities...) Maybe he likes that you Are embarrassed to be naked - you never can tell...
Good luck...
Ron.
2007-07-13 05:06:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
first of all try to love your own body,then try to find reasons for your bad appearance. but if a women is attracted by a man there are a lot of reasons-may be the first impression is best-and your boy friend sees your inner heart than seeing your physical beauty.if his love towards you is deeper in-spite of the reasoning you have given- then that love will be deep and long losting.please try to see the positive aspects in you than seeing the negativity in your appearance.please note that the skin is not the only thing that decides your beauty.all the best for your happy life.
2007-07-13 04:56:11 · answer #3 · answered by pat ram 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I AM THE SAME WAY. I THINK THAT YOUR BOYFRIEND LOVES YOU AND THAT MEANS HE LOVES EVERYTHING ABOUT YOU. INCLUDING YOUR "SAGGY BREASTS" AND YOUR "THIGHS." YOU SHOULD NOT FEEL THAT WAY. I KNOW US GIRLS ARE SO HARD ON OUR SELVES, BUT IF HE LOVES IT, WHY CANT YOU? TRY NEW THINGS TO MAKE YOURSELF FEEL BETTER, LIKE GETTING A REALLY PRETTY BRA THAT PUSHES THE TWINS UP AND WEAR IT FOR HIM, SO YOU CAN FEEL SEXY. THIS MAY SOUND REALLY WEIRD, BUT TRY TO GET A REALLY GOOD TAN. EVERYONE AGREES, IF YOU ARE TANNER, YOU DON'T LOOK AS BIG. NOT SAYING THAT YOUR BIG, BUT JUST A HELPFUL TIP. REMEMBER WE ALWAYS THINK THE WORST ABOUT OURSELVES, AND SOMETIMES ITS NOT ALWAYS TRUE. GOOD LUCK!!!! **** NO MATTER WHAT YOU LOOK LIKE ON THE OUTSIDE, IT WILL NEVER TAKE AWAY FROM THE INSIDE**** KEEP YOUR HEAD UP!
2007-07-13 04:56:40 · answer #4 · answered by TIFFERS 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My husband is like that.....and i have had a baby. I weighed like 115 when i got prego almost 4 years ago..... i gained 50 lbs... and did not loose but maybe 30 lbs of that...so i now weigh alot more than i did before having baby.... but he still loves to look at me...stretch marks and all....lol..... i hate my body.. until i had my little boy, i never watched what i ate or anything..... now...i eat a salad and cottage cheese for lunch everyday!!! and a small dinner.... but anyway..my point is that no matter what any of us look like, if our significant others love us for who we are, they will love EVERYTHING about us..... i know that i am thankful to have a husband like this!!! I know alot of guys that are only looking at the outside...not the inside!! hope this helps!!
2007-07-13 04:53:58 · answer #5 · answered by blakesmommie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Eveyone has something about themselves that they don't like...and no one knows one's imperfections better than themselves. That's the problem. We look in the mirror and nit-pick every little thing about ourselves. As hard as it is to believe, NO ONE is as hard on us as we are to ourselves. What you find unattractive in yourself, he may not even notice, or if he does, he simply doesn't care. Not that he doesn't care about you, but that he doesn't care about the imperfections BECAUSE he cares for YOU. I know it's very hard to accept that someone could accept something about you that you yourself can not accept, but the fact is, they do. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Just roll with it honey. If he's happy, then be happy. Take things slow, let down your guard a little at a time. Take baby steps outside your comfort zone, give yourself time to adjust and then do it again. Not being able to completely open yourself to the person you are with and care about can do more damage than one thinks. Just live life and be happy. Screw what others think. *smile*
2007-07-13 04:53:55 · answer #6 · answered by adagia27 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You wrote the solution to the problem. You write "I dislike" and "I don't think" Your boyfriend evidently doesn't think the way you do. Don't question it, don't analyze it, accept it and stop looking for negitive things all the time
2007-07-13 04:54:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
He likes looking at you because he loves you. If he loves you enough, you could be 300 pounds and he'd still want to look at you. Don't question it, just go with it! Be glad he loves you that much!
2007-07-13 04:48:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well.. i can kinda understand you.... i have lots of moles on my body, and i really hate them and cannot see how they are the slighest bit attrctive however my previous bf loved them. i think that people love you for who you are. everyone has faults. and you consontrate on your own faults more then anyone elses. you accept your partner for who they are
dont feel embarrased, dont try and understand it. its normal take it as a compliment
hope it helps
xx
2007-07-13 04:51:55 · answer #9 · answered by Mimi 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know how you feel, me to. I have a very hard time with this but you have to think (and my boyfriend tells me this) he loves you and your body.
2007-07-13 04:48:40 · answer #10 · answered by 0 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋