An 11 year old in love?

Question

My sister is 11 and she's 6th grade. She likes somebody that's the same age as her. Is this puppy love? But my sister's EQ is the same as a 20 year old so she's sure that it's really love. She also took lots of love quizzes and they all say that it's real. What advices should I give her? I thought probably they can be friends till they grow up and date. I dunno

I told her about what you said and she thinks puppy love may be what she's into but she wants details about puppy love.

Oh yeah. She's not saying that she wants a boyfriend. She just asked me if she should tell her crush she likes him. They probably won't be dating.

She's not saying that she wants a boyfriend. She just asked me if she should tell her crush she likes him. They probably won't be dating

Answer 1

Excuse me, but even though your sister has the EQ of a 20 year old, that doesn't make what she is 'feeling' TRUE LOVE, because she is FAR TOO YOUNG to be able to 'discern' the difference between 'true love' and a 'bad crush' ... and taking 'love quizzes' (found in magazines and online) is NOT a good way to 'test the validity' of her feelings. Even if EVERY TEST gave the 'indication' that this IS true love, your sister's age MUST be taken into 'serious consideration' ... and also the 'general level of knowledge and wisdom' she has now, and has yet to learn. NO ONE who is only 11 is 'capable' of the discernment to KNOW she has found true love ... but you are correct ... if these two 'share the feelings' and can remain friends, they may end up getting married when they are grown, and live a happy and productive life ... but ONLY if they are 'emotionally mature' enough to realize that if the get married too young, have babies when they are too young, the 'odds' of having a happy and successful marraige will go down DRASTICALLY ... which 'implies' that these two 'prodigies' would also have the 'good sense' to be JUST FRIENDS and even date others, and not 'get together' until they are older, and are more capable of providing a good home and having a high enough income to be 'truly successful' in their lives.

Answer 2

Read this article, and maybe have her read it too.

"Dear Susie:
Is it possible to love a guy even though I’m only 14? He’s one of my best friends, and we have a lot in common, but I wonder if love is taking it too far?
Confused

Dear Confused:
Yes, it’s possible. But there are different kinds of love.

There’s the love you have for a sibling, but that’s not a romantic love. You may love pizza, but again, that’s not romantic. I’ll ask you a few questions that can help you determine more about what you’re feeling, OK?

• Could you be in love with the idea of being in love?
• Are you in love with how fun it is to have a best guy friend with whom you feel close and connected?
• Do you perhaps admire specific qualities about this guy that you’re mistakenly interpreting as romantic love?

You’ve probably heard the term “puppy love.” It’s having an infatuation with someone and deeply caring about another person. But it’s not the love that you’d need to last a lifetime; it’s not the marrying kind of love. That doesn’t mean it’s not real; it’s just not the love you want for a husband/wife relationship. When you’re old enough to be married, you won’t be the same person you are at 14; neither will your guy friend.

And if it is romantic love? That can be dangerous territory . . . because what can you do with romantic love at 14? If you truly are in love—with the kind of love that will last a lifetime—talk with your folks about it. Why? Because you’ll need advice on handling this strong of a love at such a young age."


I took this article from the Brio Magazine website, I did not write any of it, but I found it very appropiriate. Hope this helps! 11 sounds really young to say "I am in love".

Answer 3

this is no longer with regard to the age difference, yet what concerns right it is that on the age of 11, it may be an infatuation yet once you nevertheless love a similar person till ultimately you get 20, then it may be love , because of the fact once you're so youthful for some time you experience its love yet in a span of a few days or months you will experience a similar for somebody else too,so wait till ultimately you get atleast 21,in case you nevertheless love that person in a similar way,then it is love. And some 20 3 hundred and sixty 5 days previous loving an 11 3 hundred and sixty 5 days previous, the two this is a cousin or brother-sister ind of a love , yet while a similar 11 3 hundred and sixty 5 days previous will become sufficiently previous and the 20 3 hundred and sixty 5 days previous too gets forward in the age (for sure) then their thoughts could be what they think of it is now.

Answer 4

its puppy love. taking a test is not going to tell someone if they are truly in love, if you're in love you don't have to question if it real or take a test to assure yourself. At 11 years old she may have the IQ of a 20 year old but she has way more things to learn and experience before she can understand love in its fullest. If she stills feels the same way in 10 years then i'd consider it, but its highly unlikely, she will find someone else and forgot all about this kid she likes now.

Answer 5

How old are you? Just because she's mentally advanced does not mean she is emotionally ready for a relationship. Case and point: If she's so advanced why would she want an 11 year old boy? They are so awkward and stupid? My niece is a super genius and she can't stand to date anyone who is not as intellectual as she is, if they are not on the same plane she won't bother. Oh and yes it's a crush not even puppy love.

Answer 6

Love is totally complicated and it doesn't matter if she's 5 and has the IQ of 170, deep down she's just a kid. I wouldn't recommend reading too much into the quizzes telling here she's in love because, if she was really in love why would she need a quiz to tell her she was? Quizzes are for fun not to tell you how you feel about someone. I say this is puppy love, I think they should be friends.

Answer 7

"But my sister's EQ is the same as a 20 year old so she's sure that it's really love. "

Ah--11 going on 20, huh. Quizes don't tell you if it's real or not.

Honestly, if she thinks it's love there's little you CAN do. Is it love? I can't say, but it's not the emotional connection associated with "love" and "marriage" yet.

Is she going to marry this guy? No.

Until then, just tell her to be careful but to have fun!

Answer 8

It is probably puppy love. A kind of caring for someone that is more shy and on the surface than deep down grow old together love. Just wait and see. 10 years from now she will probably say that it was not love because she will have other relationships to compare it to.

Answer 9

It may be puppy love. Love is something extreme you know. It's the one person you want to spend the rest of your life with, bear their children etc. Love is a crazy deep thing. I'm sure because of her age, she's not really in that true love yet. If anything it may be puppy love. Cute lol

- Those type of quizzes are just for entertainment, remember that.

*puppy love = very strong emotional feelings at a young age

Answer 10

Even if her EQ is the same as a 20-yr-old's (I know mine was when I was 10 or so), the rest of her age don't have it. Let her start as friends and see how things go. Her environment will affect her very much given her age and situation.

Also, scrap those love quizzes and tell her to talk to a real psychologist.