I don't want to be mean to my son?

Question

I dont' want to be mean to my son and his father says that i have to control him or he's just going to walk all over me. I understand what he means but I only get so my time with him his father stays at home with him and i work 2 jobs so i don't get to see him very much and i don't want to spend the hole time yelling and punshing him. He listens fine outside and in the store but when it come to being in the house he just does what he wants to do no matter what i say or do. Please help

Answer 1

Stick to your guns on this, plus change his diet - change his behavior. NO JUNK FOODS AND NO SWEETS!
Children need love, care and discipline from both parents - NOT just one.

Answer 2

You have to take a stand and punish him as well. It isn't that you are being mean, you are teaching him to behave. You need to teach him to respect you. Once you stay on him, he will learn that he cannot run over you and he will mind you. It will be satisfying for you both in the long run. He will love you just the same. This is the problem with many families with children, and it causes bigger problems down the road. Start now so that you will not have to deal with major pitfalls later on. It takes discipline from BOTH parents. If you do not punish him, he will never respect you and will continue to run over you, while he will respect his father. How fair is that? Listen to your hubby, he is right.

Answer 3

Well your husband is right this time. If you take the time to let him know you mean business then you will not have to yell so much later. Why dont you tell your husband to get a job so you can just work one job and be home with your family? I would!!

Answer 4

Try exchanging what he is doing for something you would like him to do. Kids are not born with the knowledge of right and wrong-or even how to play.
If you give him the appropriate things to do, he is less likely to do inappropriate things. Some times it takes a while to change his habits, but with patience and instruction, he should start making better choices after awhile.

Answer 5

I believe your husband wants you to be the bad guy in this. If he's at home with your son all day, then it is up to him to train him properly. I feel for you, having to work two jobs and not having enough time for your child. Tell your husband that he is not going to make you out to be the horrible person in your child's life. That he has to take on the responsibility of teaching your child how to behave at home.

Answer 6

Be resolute, not mean, especially if it is about nutrition, safety and daily schedule. If he has learned that he can get his way, he will keep acting out a while longer, but after some time he will get used to the new you.

Answer 7

Your child craves and needs you to set boundaries for him; and you'll be helping him to grow into a responsible and mature young man by providing them for him.

Yes, it's going to be tough. Yes, it'll be easier to cave in. But if you love your child, you know that this is the best thing for him.

Answer 8

Instead of yelling at him when you tell him to do something, go take his hand and quietly help him do what you say. You don't want to let him ignore you or disobey you, but you can handle it without yelling.

Answer 9

if you dont nip this in the bud NOW he iwll be walking all over you.

i am in the same situation...i work and daddy stays home...my kids dont listen to me for squat but you better believe if daddy says something, them follow it without hesitation!

Answer 10

Actually it all depends the age of Ur son. if he is older then 7 then u will communicate with him . children are much more sensitive to their environment . they know what is going on . if u try to communicate it will defiantly help.