Ok here is a example. there was this one time he was just really being a jerk, so i got so tired of it i was like i dont think this i going to work out anymore, and i was staying with him. So i got my clothes and what not togeather and he told me to put the bag down, i was like no and contuied to walk out the door, he grab the bag and throw it, threw me on the bed and held me down and told me i was not leaven he broke my cell phone and took my keys he hit me and well stuff like that. so when i did get my keys to leave i got in my car and he followed me in his truck a hit my car in the back end alot of diffrent times and i stoped my car he climed throw the window and told me i better get back to his house, i did an then he told me i love you i dont what you to leave me, he broke all my things and so on, and we have been togeather for almost 3 years and it just started a year ago and now im pregnant with his baby, why does he do this is it becasuse he loves me and really wants me?
2007-07-13 04:17:40 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He acts this way because he wants to have control over you and believe me you don't need to be in that kind of relationship. I believe you need to get out of this relationship because he will never change and things can only get worse and not better.
2007-07-13 04:25:24 · answer #1 · answered by marie897 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He's extremely afraid of losing you and probably using violence as a means to scare you into staying with him. Absolutely DO NOT go back to him, he does not love you, he is scared of losing you and being single. If you go back to him, he will think to himself "yes this technique works so anytime later on she wants to leave I'll just do the same thing." Do not fall victim to this or you will be trapped and it will be hard to get out. This man has absolutely no respect for you. Tell him you will call the cops and put a restraining order on him and go out and find someone who can respect you and care for you properly.
I speak from experience; my current girlfriend had an abusive boyfriend who was afraid of her leaving him so he started to hit her constantly and destroy her things. He would use threats and would harass her and me as well. I took care of him by beating the s**t out of him with some friends.
2007-07-13 04:25:25 · answer #2 · answered by Knowing 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Call the police and leave him he is a dangerously abusive man. You can get help and support from a woman's abuse organization in your area. Including a "safe" house to live in.
You need to get out of there before the baby is born.
If he is not an abuser time will tell, but you need to spend that time away from him and concentrate on you and the baby.
Good Luck
2007-07-13 04:24:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
For pete's sake, what are you doing in a relationship like that? Don't you know you are not going to come out a winner in this even if you survive?
Of course he doesn't do this out of love. This is a control issue. Men or women who use violence like that are not people who want a loving relationship. You need to talk to a counselor. Do you think Dr. Phil, the social services organizations, the police or the courts would waste their time trying to combat this kind of behavior if it was what love is about?
And now you are bringing a baby into this and will forever be tied to this maniac. If you have parents and family, talk with them about it. PLEASE! This man is too violent for you to be with. Apparently you have Internet access so please do a search on violent relationships and pay attention to what is said.
Please...
2007-07-13 04:28:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If this is a serious question, than you need to seriously get out now and get help. He does these things because he's an insecure loser who feels he has to threaten you, scare you and hurt you to keep you around. Leave before the baby is born, unless you want him hurting your baby too. He doesn't love you. If he did, he wouldn't treat you this way. You're a possession to him, and he'll treat the child the same way.
2007-07-13 04:21:39 · answer #5 · answered by misguidedrose18 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no he is very insecure and cant stand the fact you would be leaving him which you need to do especially since you are pregnant tell him look you ever get help with you abuse you will have not rights to you baby here are some red flags sites that might be of help to you. if you don't feel safe in there he is disrespecting by hitting you and breaking all of your stuff does that sound like love no it sounds like an insecure man who can't control his action and he will do it again and again. unless some takes action like you.
2007-07-13 04:31:16 · answer #6 · answered by ladylynx26 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are you asking? It makes no difference. You need to leave, and now. I'm not kidding with you. Leave while he is at work, go stay with your Aunt or someone not immediately obvious and tell everyone if he comes looking for you to not let him in. If he gets violent again get a restraining order. This is crazy and you know it.
2007-07-13 04:23:58 · answer #7 · answered by Badtemper 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
first of all HE SHOULDN'T BE HITTING YOU!!
CALL THE POPOS!!
cause he should not be doing this. and tell him if he keeps acting like this then tell him you'll leave him and he wont see u or his baby till he calms down(if it takes that long) And you could also lose the baby cause of his fault. One day he may push you or something(cause of his anger) and then if something really bad happens you could lose the baby! i don't think you want that cause i wouldn't!!
That dosent work you could always just put him in jail...dont know what that would really do (but if he goes to far leave!! and call!)
2007-07-13 04:25:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
o m g !!!!! u really have lots of guts and patience. i guess u should stay away from ur bf as u r pregnant. he seems to be a syco to me. if he loves u he should take proper care of u and not torture u like this. this may even affect the baby. love means respect for each other. if he dosnt have respect for u how dose he says he loves u. take help of counsilor or police if necessary. i think he is obssed with u but dont know true meaning of love. may god bless u.
2007-07-13 04:28:36 · answer #9 · answered by anjish 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should never be with or stay with a guy who hits you, period. You should have left before getting pregnant (and filed a police report). I feel bad for this child. My best advice: leave him (do it safely - get police involved, restraining orders, etc) and put up the child for adoption.
2007-07-13 04:23:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋