ok my ex of 4 years dumped me 6 weeks ago and went out with this guy 2 weeks after the break up....she says that she didnt like him b4 the break up... if this is true is it just a rebound? This sucks so bad i try not to think of her but every moment of everyday thats all i do....(im 19) and we broke up b/c she said it felt like we were best friends ansd not bf/gf. Any girls every do this to their ex and regret it? Did u go back to your ex? what can i do to help the situation?
THANK YOU VERY MUCH
2007-07-13 04:15:33 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've never gone back to any of my ex's and I've never regretted losing any of them. When women break up, they really mean it. Sorry! It's time for you to move on. You're very young. You have a lot of women to play with before you settle down. Good luck to you.
2007-07-13 04:21:07 · answer #1 · answered by ♥Xty♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was with a guy that was really a good person and loved me with all his heart. We were togeather 2 years and I really did not feel the same way he did. I realized I was with him out of convenience the last couple of months and that was not fair to him. No, I did not go back to him and unfortunatly he was hurt so bad that friendship was not an option. We tried to stay friends, but he would call me and tell me he was sleeping with this girl or that girl and would be upset when I told him to do what made him happy. Over and over again he told me that being with me was what would make him happy. Finally about 4 years later he had been with this chick for a while and he called me up the night before his wedding and told me that it was my last chance to be with him since he was getting married in the morning. He did not like my responce which was "please dont call me anymore, being my friend is ruining your chances to love another woman, and although you feel that being with me is what you want, its not possible so love the woman you are with". (By the way I was already engaged to my husband at the time) It went over like a lead zeplin... but it went on for too long. Do your best to move on, there is another woman out there for you no matter how bad you hurt now. Best of luck, matters of the heart are the hardest to handle.
2007-07-13 11:32:14 · answer #2 · answered by shadowsthathunt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WE regret past relationships all the time. She definately found the other guy attactive before she broke up. U must give her credit for at least breaking up first instead of cheating behind ur back then breaking up once the other fella decided to make it more permanent with her. I know several ppl who go back n forth from one another. Don't waste ur time though...once they leave u...they will always leave again, n again, n again...too stressful...take the ticket OUT n find a NEW woman. We've ALL felt there is NO one out there but "so n so"...but I can tell u...there are MANY ppl out there just waiting to fall in love with u as well as u with them...just give ONE of them a chance...one at a time...good luck
2007-07-13 11:24:32 · answer #3 · answered by Just me 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been with my best friend for 12 years now and it's wonderful. What your g/f misses is the excitement of a new relationship. Get out of the rut you were in with her and be willing to try new things. make her feel like you are chasing her all over again rather than have her classified as someone who is already 'yours'. Good luck.
2007-07-13 11:21:24 · answer #4 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since she was the one who initiated breaking up with you and decided that it was an illusion you were living in that is, seeing or thining of her to be you gf then apparently she is not and will not be into you.
What is useful now is to find a way in your life and be prepared to another better but real and sincere replacement of that previous illusions.
It does not mean that she left you that you are lacking it all but it is an indication that life is full of oter choices suiting us all coz we are all imperfect but still sincere to the only sincere deserving ones.
Best of luck.
2007-07-13 11:21:06 · answer #5 · answered by Sara007 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok yes i did that to an ex once and it was true i did only see him as a friend and we were only together 2 weeks lol but i think you need to just find a new girl and see what happens and whatever you do do not go back to jher,
2007-07-13 11:19:45 · answer #6 · answered by i should be a councelor 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say that i broke up with my ex of 4 years and it was the best thing i did. Im so much happier now!
2007-07-13 11:19:27 · answer #7 · answered by Lisa I 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the best thing is to get yourself out there and having fun without her. maybe you don't want her anymore either, you just liked the comfort level. bottom line, you can't force someone to come back and you can't do anything to help the situation in terms of getting her to come back. just take care of yourself by having fun, being active. that's fine to think about her, but get out and do things so you are having fun and making memories without her. could be she'll come back, but sounds to me like both of you were spending too much time with each other that you didn't have your own lives -- not healthy.
2007-07-13 11:20:19 · answer #8 · answered by globallylegal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she was just borded with the relationship.
OK let me tell you like it is. I have been married to the same man for 33 years...got married when i was 20 and before that I was "in love" with every guy I ever dated. So let me tell you one thing on how to keep a woman.
We want romance, to be taken care of, be respected, we want space and closeness, be our own woman, NOT...not>>> I repeat..We Do NOTwant to take care of the man with our car, our money, our house. We want conversation, to be held, sit on the couch and cuddle, and her is the kicker....We want a man to inhance our life, not run it. Do you need to read that again...We want a man to inhance our life NOT to run it. OH and Love does not have to hurt to be right...Hurt and Love should never be in the same conversation...So if you love someone do not hurt them to where you will ever have to say....I am sorry I hurt you , I love you and will never do it again...that just does not wash.
2007-07-13 11:32:37 · answer #9 · answered by Jaceroo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is this day 3,4,5 of the same question? Sheesh, get over it already! Stop acting so needy she's not coming back. $hit happens dude it's part of life get used to it.
2007-07-13 11:22:06 · answer #10 · answered by rcButterfly 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋