What would you think of an immature 37 year old woman?

Question

Hello, I'm 37 years old, and I act more like I'm 17.

Is that bad?

I go to clubs and parties whenver I get the chance to go. Most of my friends are between 23-28. We go to clubs together. I have had many boyfriends and have been divorced 2 times. I even dated a 19 year old a few weeks ago! Shhhhhh!

I have four kids ages 15, 10, 10 and 7.

I NEVER LET MY IMMATURITY GET IN THE WAY OF MY PARENTING

ITS MY LIFE, and I'm going to enjoy it!

I am a free spirited woman, no ones going to imprison to the shackles of adulthood.

I even got drunk one night and drove home naked and crashed into the garage door. The garage door nor the car was damaged!

The kids were with their grandparents.

Answer 1

addme2urfriends,

I think a more appropriate question is do you think it is bad? You have to live with you and the decisions that you make in the end you might want to think about the example you are setting but if you feel comfortable with the decisions you are making then continue to do you good luck shug!

Answer 2

That's pretty bad when you think of yourself as immature... imagine what other people think (like... maybe you're pathetic?).

If you have 4 kids, you don't need to be going to clubs! Maybe on your birthday. And you certainly don't need to be dating people and bringing to the house when you have a 15-year-old! What kind of example are you setting for your kids? You never let your immaturity get in the way of your parenting? Parenting is also leading by example! It's not just feeding and taking them to soccer practice.

You've had many boyfriends, divorced twice... you can't do both. You can't be a mother and a party girl. (By the way, do all these kids have the same father? Something tells me "no." Do you want a couple more by random people? I hope to God you're fixed.)

The question is "what do I think of a 37-year-old who acts 17?" I think she's pathetic and probably looks like the old, desperate, easy chick in the clubs.

Answer 3

Hi,

I believe that being mature is to be responsible. You can be a good parent and still enjoy the company of a much younger companion. I am 47, so age is not a barrier. Especially if you are hanging out with a younger group, You have a tendency to forget age. I don't think people should be judged on their friends etc., but we live in a society : -)). If you are a good person, responsible, and a good parent, then I don't think you should worry about what people say. Having a love affair and a committed relationship are two different things. Relationship is about interaction with two people (willing to understand, and tolerant, etc). So, as long as both parties can deal or handle their situations, then I believe they will be fine. Cherish your life and your children. Best, nd

Answer 4

What do I think? I feel sorry for the children knowing that their mother is out clubbing and partying and dating men half her age just so she can feel good about herself.

It sounds like its time to get your tubes tied and your head checked.

You sound like you a dangerous person if you are drinking and driving. I honestly question the parental integrity of ANYONE that drinks and drives and has four children, regardless of WHO they are staying with. If you are dead you are dead and then they will have to stay with someone else permanently.

I would also be concerned that you have a drinking problem, I question how sane you are, frankly, I think you think this is all a game and its ok, someone else wont mind raising your kids when you drive headfirst into a building at 65 mph coming home from a club naked at 4 am.

Frankly, you sound friggen loony.

Answer 5

I wouldn't say bad but I would probably just shake my head, maybe laugh a little and walk away. I know you. I see you all the time. wrinkles and spandex. Trust me both age ranges either laugh at you or pity you. You see yourself as the free spirited wild woman.

But you're really just the comic relief for the night. You're the easy lay for the guy who wouldn't be caught dead beside you in public. You're the 'old woman' who will buy the drinks just so she can hang around with the kids. You're the car they borrow while you're passed out.

And for people in your own age range you're just an example. Someone people can look at and say "man, I hope I never look that desperate and pathetic."

I have no advice for you. But your kids? God do I feel sorry for them and the humiliation they feel every time they hear that their mother is the town skank. Trust me I know because you were my mother.

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Honestly you're wrong it isn't your life. When you brought 4 new lives into the world you gave up the right to be a pathetic loser. You have the right to be a single pathetic loser but you have no right to be a pathetic loser mother. And you clearly don't realize that your pathetic loser lifestyle does get in the way of GOOD parenting. I can promise you that your kids will remember to their graves every embarrassing humiliating moment that you inflicted upon them.

Answer 6

Firstly, acting young is not a sign of immaturity if you are truly being yourself. I am 28 and I like to go clubbing. I like to watch cartoons. I love to play with son and my nieces. However, I don't think I am immature. My mind is mature. So mature that I can do all of the above and not care that other 28 year olds may not because I am old enough to know what I enjoy and mature enough to not care what others think. Your situation sounds different though. It sounds like you are trying to hard to be young. Just do you.

Answer 7

There could be some social problems, but it really depends on the man and the woman, as well as the nature of their relationship. Is it going to be a relationship that is going to last until death to they part? Maybe not, but there is more to relationships than just finding someone to settle down with once and for all. One of the biggest problems with our society is that we can't distinguish that there are levels between a one night stand, and soul mate. For one thing, the later probably does not exist. What is important is that people treat each other with respect, and openly communicate what they want from their relationship at each stage, and use responsible planning to assure that their relationship does not slip beyond what they are ready for at the moment.

Answer 8

It's not necessarily "bad" really. You're young at heart. I can just see it causing problems with people respecting you, and with men using you. And also with your children being embarrassed by many of the things you do. Before long, your 15 year old will be acting more like an adult than you do, and that'll cause some serious emotional trouble with your kids.

Answer 9

As long as you're responsible with your kids and are taking care of them emotionally and financially then there's nothing wrong with liking to have fun and being young at heart. The 2X divorced thing is a little rough though. It must be hard for the kids to cope with the lack of stability. I'd keep the men out of your family life unless you're entirely committed to having a lasting relationship and feel that you've matured enough to do so.

Answer 10

It's kind of pathetic and classless. A 37 year old woman should have mastered the art of being a "Lady" by then. If she's acting like an immature teenage, that's kind of pathetic and I would feel sorry for her.