My boyfriend says he loves me, but seems to be emotionally inept. He critisises me all the time, and tells me that if we don't stop arguing (the only time we argue is when he's been horrid to me and I stand up for myself) then we don't have a future. He tells me what to do all the time and doesn't have time to listent to my problems.
So I've tried to encourage him to spend more quality time with jst the 2 of us, but he doesn't seem to want it, as there's always something else happening that he'd rather we went to.
I asked him if we cld go 4a wlk in the park together & he said "yeah, we'll ask X and X to come too". This is a couple he lives with and he wants us to spend all of our time with them. We live in different cities so I only get to see him at the weekend.
When I asked if it could just be us, he said it would be no different if we went with them. And I said that I wanted a romantic walk, just us. He looked at me deadpan and said "is it cos you want to have sex in
2007-07-13 03:12:59 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The park again, is that it?” and I said no, I just wanted to spend a bit of time on our own. He laughed and said we could have a romantic time the four of us and that I was being too clingy and that the days of romantic walks were over (we’ve been going out 7 months). Then he asked his friends to come. He lives with them, he spends all his time with them, they do everything together and I never get any time alone with him, unless we’re having sex (which he looks after himself and doesn’t bother about me). I’m just feeling like he doesn’t love me the way I do, and I can’t bring the subject up cos when I’ve tried before he’s shouted at me and said of course he loves me and made me feel bad. I don’t know what to do, he seems more interested in his friends and getting high than me. :-(
2007-07-13 03:13:11 · update #1
he sounds like a control freak that only cares about himself.
if you don't like it, you really need to move on.
you're not happy, and you cannot change him. You can do better! Find a guy that cares about you and not himself all the time.
2007-07-13 03:17:27 · answer #1 · answered by Glitter Berry 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get away from this guy as fast as you can. He is in there for sex and could care less about having a future with you. Cut your losses and find someone that wants to be with you, CLUE: Don't have sex until you are married, and you'll find out who is really interested in you, or a booty call.
2007-07-13 03:21:51 · answer #2 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems to me he is selfish, and doesnt appreciate you. Either that or he is thick and in which case things wont change. Dump him or make plans to see your friends and he will have to come along with you see how he likes it, i would bet he wont like it and will be moaning b4 long tell him you like socialising with lots of people not just his two friends and if he still doesnt get it id look elsewhere good luck
2007-07-13 03:22:56 · answer #3 · answered by suzie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
7 months isnt that long, he should still want to spend time alone with you, and the sex thing, seems as tho thats all he sees you as, just sex, especially if hes bein selfish in bed.....and if ya'll live in different cities and only see each other on weekends, then he should def want to be alone with you right?.....but talk to him bout all this, then if he continues, then dump him...you can find better....good luck
2007-07-13 03:22:56 · answer #4 · answered by AJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, your missing the fact that you need to let him go. You don't deserve a guy that wants to control your llife and never spend quality time with you. Ask him why dosen't he date his friendssince they spend so much time together.
2007-07-13 03:21:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like you're missing nothing - you seem to have given us the whole picture and you should re-read what you've written. If it was one of your friends in that position what would you say?
Move on, if he loves you he'll make it known, if he doesn't then it sounds to me like you'd be a damn sight happier!
2007-07-13 03:19:11 · answer #6 · answered by sunshine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your missing that the guy's a looser. If he would rather party and hang with his friends than be with you it sounds like he's just not that into you. Move on, plenty more out there.
2007-07-13 03:21:54 · answer #7 · answered by surfbum68m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him and call me, I like walks in the park or go motorcylce riding or boating or just plain of time togrther.
2007-07-13 03:19:05 · answer #8 · answered by Phil 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to state the obvious he don't love you. he mite grow to eventually but you live to far apart at the moment so he probably finds it hard to commit to the relationship. if you keep at it but try not to nag I'm sure it will work out if not there's plenty more fish in the sea as they say
2007-07-13 03:25:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is a rate loser.
i dont think he will listen if you try to talk to him. he will twist it so it makes you sound like the one in the wrong.
u need to get rid of him. he is nasty and controlling and also on drugs!
why wont he be alone with you? that isnt right.
he will use you and at the moment your letting him.
plz get rid of him b4 it gets worse
2007-07-13 03:18:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋