Ok.. me and my fiance were planning to get married in october. we are pregnant and due in February. We decided to put the wedding off until May cuz we have so much stuff going on. But he insists that we be married before our baby is born and wants to get married and then we just have a ceremony. But will this be weird?? I mean how would you word invites and stuff?? if your name is already changed?? Im so confused any advice????
2007-07-13 03:10:59 · 22 answers · asked by happy_gurl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Go to VEGAS now & have a nice and legal wedding - get a video & stuff! Have a big reception later with a dress & all. Show your video there
2007-07-13 05:56:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with getting married before the baby is born, then having the ceremony after the fact. I think that he's sweet to want you to have his name before the baby is born. About the invites, they would read, Mr. & Mrs Joe Blow. This is no different then sharing the renewal of your vows after 25 or 30 years of marriage. Girl, don't sweat the small things, some women will be lucky to marry the same guy once. This way, you have the cow, the milk and the cream. LOL You're probably just stressing from the pregnancy and pre-wedding jitters. Congrats, by the way. Weird, no.....this may be once in a lifetime, so go ahead and jump that broom. Don't worry about what others think. This is about you, your man, and the baby; your family. WOW!! I'm excited for you!! Best Wishes!!
2007-07-13 03:21:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, this isn't weird. My wedding was last september, and since my husband and I currently live in Germany, under German law we had to have a courthouse marriage before we could do the actual ceremony (walking down the isle, in the church, the whole shibang-you know)...which we still haven't done, and in 2 1/2 months we will be married for 1 year.
If you do decide to go through with a small courthouse marriage (and there's no shame in that), you can always do an actual ceremony later down the line and renew the vows. It wont be weird if your last name has already been changed and your invitations read "Mr&Mrs...Anderson..." for example, you'll just be renewing your vows in a wedding like way.
Since you have a lot on your plate right now, especially with a baby on the way, wait a little while for the BIG THING.
2007-07-13 03:25:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I had a civil ceremony at the court house when I was 8 months pregnant, it was short simple and too the point then 6 months after my daughter was born we had a small re-commitment ceremony, I planned it just like a wedding, one exception instead of saying exchange vows or there nuptials on the invites I put re- commitment ceremony and renew there love fro each other and their child. Corny "yes" still it was a great day, that I will treasure always. Oh and everyone invited new the situation and was fine with it.
2007-07-13 03:41:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm kind of in the same boat you are. ( no baby just my fiance and i are getting married in December then having a ceremony when he gets back from Iraq.) What you can do is have a renewing of the vows ceremony, mainly you have a ceremony but you are just redoing your vows. Your name would be changed, and legally you would be married, but you could do the ceremony in may and still make it enjoyable for your family.
my suggestion for wording... "Join us in the celebration of our union" <~~ doesn't have to say anything about getting remarried or renewing vows, just a celebration. Not to mention you could also just do a reception in May, which would be for friends and family and would most likely be more economical for you and your new family! GOOD LUCK!! congrats and i hope everything works out for the best!
2007-07-13 04:33:57 · answer #5 · answered by Gonzo's Wifey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a friend that did this. She was pregnant and they married at the Justice of the Peace before the baby was born and had a formal wedding after she was born. There is nothing wrong with doing that. Think of it as your renewing your vows. They had a traditional catholic wedding about six months or so after their daughter was born complete with reception. As far as invites go invite immediate family (parents and siblings etc) to Justice of Peace ceremony and invite everyone else to the actual wedding as you would now. Don't sweat it honey YOUR GETTING MARRIED!!!!! Congrats and best of luck sweetie!!!
2007-07-13 03:17:30 · answer #6 · answered by handvict81 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is RIGHT. Get married ASAP, so the baby is born to married parents. Just have a small ceremony with family and close friends, and just a little dinner and/or party. Now that circumstances have drastically changed, you just don't have that 'other type of wedding' you were planning.
Congrats!
2007-07-13 09:49:47 · answer #7 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were married before you did the 'ceremony', then you'd be doing a vow renewal and the invites would be worded differently. There is a website all about second marriages and vow renewals, it seemed helpful but I can't recall what it was...
Why not just do it before baby?
Good luck.
2007-07-13 03:14:16 · answer #8 · answered by I ♥ old VW's 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you can get married now, before the baby is born (congratulations!) and then when you have a ceremony, it will actually be a vow renewal, or recommitment ceremony. You'd word the invitation something like (please join us as we renew our vows in front of friends and family) or something like that. It will not be wierd, we perform many ceremonies like this, it is actually very common. Best wishes!
2007-07-13 06:37:03 · answer #9 · answered by LoveWithNoBoundaries 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For different reasons my wife and I got married by JP and then got married in the church 6 months later. We only told a few close family members about the first ceremony and no one knew (or needed to know) the difference.
2007-07-13 03:15:36 · answer #10 · answered by Rod 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex-bil did this... They were married a month before thier weddign actually took place.. Not to many people knew about it.. probally about 5 or 6 of us..
Anyway.. They done the whole original wedding nothing different.. They planned it and worded it like they werent married.. Everything premarriage..Like I said not alot of people knew about them being already married so it was like they had got married on that day..
I dont see anything wrong with it..
2007-07-13 03:19:03 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋