Do you think it's right to go very far?

Question

This question will probably sound weird (cos of the ages) but yeah I'll explain the circumstances. I'm 15 (male and I have a girlfriend whos is almost two years younger than me, but she is REALLY mature. Now my question is how far do you think is ok for me to go with her? Some of my friends think she'll soon want sex because of the stuff we already do. We've been going out for only a month and a half and she is always making out with me and fondling me downstairs. Also the other day her and I and another couple were playing a game which led to her showing me her boobs. After the game I handed her her bra but she said she didn't wanna put it back on and at this she took my hand and put it up her shirt and then she laid on top of me and starting kissing me while her hand went downstairs lol. Now she does a lot but I'm not sure how far I should go seeing as she's pretty young. But I mean what should I do if she wants to do something BIG, as in sex or something?

She isn't easy, I know the guys she's been out with, and she's done nothing with them. And if you're thinking I pushed her to do stuff surprisingly the majority of it has been her moves. I don't just mean sex, I mean what do you think is a limit? How far should I actually go before I say 'i think we shouldn't go any further than this'. And I like lick my food stamps answer :P

jesus Christ, don't tell me to leave her alone, and don't tell me I'm lined up to be a sex offender. All I asked is how far do you think is Ok before I say enough is enough. If you'd learn to open your eyes and read you would see I didn't say I was planning on having sex. So I'd appreciate it if you'd just answer the question I asked.

What the hell is wrong with you Michael?? I never said I masturbated her, where the hell did you read that? I said SHE'S felt me down there, and fondle doesn't exactly mean masturbate. Please don't tell me you're a moderator or something, if you are I really think you should keep up to scratch with your literacy.

Answer 1

I think that you are kind to consider your girlfriends feelings. Maybe she likes you so much that she is just trying to please you? Talk to her and tell her your concern. Tell her that you respect her and that the two of you are young and you do not want anything to happen to her. Don't listen to the negativity of others, let your heart be your guide, sounds like you have a good one.
Sorry that people are so gruff.
Best wishes

Answer 2

You are 15, you have no clue what "REALLY mature" means and in no position to judge on it, even asking the question proves that.

You'll be pleased to know the police have reserved a line for you on the sex offenders register.

i'm sure you'll also be delighted to know that i've abuse reported you for admiting you masterbated a 13 year old girl...the next knock on your door may be the police....yep, you certainly are being mature about all this.

EDIT: I can see you sound outraged. well, that was the intent to try and help you see that you have already done enough ( her hand "downstairs" as you put it, to be put on the sex offenders register. If that doesn't bother you, fair enough, but you should be clear that you are already at the stage where the police would not nesitate in you being placed on the register. All it takes is her parents to find out and pop down to the cop shop. Its happened many times before with outraged parents. Even recently a teacher got the sack when they were 25. The school found out he had doen a similar thing to you when he was mid-teens and been put on the register.

"she took my hand and put it up her shirt " counts as masturbation ( in the law - fondling/touching in a sexual manner all count as masterbation ) unless you are sure you can prove your hand hovered in air away from her body.

Simple truth.

And if you only want an answer to your question, the answer is "no further and back away". But your heard that from many people.

And no, i'm not some random Yahoo answerer, i worked for many years ( 6) on nightline ( the precurser to childline ) trying to help young people who thought they would never get caught.

ignore my answer if you like, I don't care, but just criticising my literacy is avoiding the issue.

Answer 3

You both are very young, no one 13 is mature mentally, only physically. That said if you were my son I would tell you to not engage in such activity. There are adult consequences that go along with adult behavior.
God forbid she get pregnant, are you prepared to pay child support for the next 20 years? I didn't think so. What about STDs, herpes there is no cure for and a condom does not provide 100% protection against it.
I would go so far as to tell you to stop seeing her, I guarentee you within a month she has another boyfriend and will get knocked up before a year passes and you'll be saying I'm so glad I stopped seeing her.

Answer 4

Unless you want to go to jail/prison, you'll control yourself and STOP her. A friend of mine spent 3 years in prison for having sex with his young (mature) girlfriend. It's ILLEGAL for you all to be having sex, especially her. Not only did he spend time in prison, but he also has to register as a SEX OFFENDER everywhere he moves, if he gets a car he has to put a sticker on the car saying that he's a sex offender, he can't go within a certain distance of schools or daycares (anywhere that kids might be). In addition to that, he can't apply for certain jobs, because (I think) sex crimes are a felony which some employers don't want to deal with. Now, do you think that it's worth it? It would be much smarter to wait until you're married really, but right now LEAVE THAT GIRL ALONE!!

Answer 5

U need to tell her to stop, whenever u think u don't want her to cross the line. She is still young even if she looks matured, that doesn't change her age. If u had sex with her, eventhough u might not want to at 1st, but in case u did, u might need to check ur country's criminal law, coz u might be consider as statutory rape if anything should happen. So, u r a guy, u should stop her from doing something that might caused u trouble. Good luck...

Answer 6

First, don't do anything you don't want to do. Don't let her engage in emotional blackmail to make you. Second, go slow. My girl friend played for four years before we took the big step, and then we were 19. Third, if you do think your "gonna" have protection. You don't know how many girls get pregnant the first time. That's because the first time is generally implusive and protection is not available. The best advice is wait until you are old enough AND ready.

Answer 7

Well, at your age you shouldn't - but I can't say much as I have been involved at a much younger age.

Whatever you decide to do, remember that once you turn 16, if you have sex with someone under 16 you will be considered as a paedophile and if caught you will be placed on the sex offenders register. The most important thing though is SAFE SEX - use a condom

Answer 8

Don't do it. It sounds like she has already been sexualized (probably at an early age and not consensually). Kids that have been victimized often become sexual WAY too young and the damage just continues.

You should work to develop an emotional relationship with her and not a physical one. Reassure her that you like her and will stay with her because of WHO she is - not because of what she does.

Remember - just because she wants to and you can - doesn't mean you SHOULD.

Try to do the right thing.

Answer 9

She should definitely wait, otherwise she might regret it in the future. 13 is really quite young to be doing things like that. 15 is also pretty young, but I would be more concerned about her age. If you two get caught, you could get in trouble, and also, if something happens, you could be throwing your young lives away as young parents. I would advise you two to just wait. At least give your relationship some more time to grow too. If you do decide to go ahead, be SAFE!

Answer 10

Whatever happens you are both under age. So all you have to worry about is the guilt thing.
If things go too far just make sure that you wear protection.
Check out too if she has a big brother that just might not appreciate it and cave your face in.