Any of you adopted?

Question

how do you feel about it?

Answer 1

i was adopted when i was a baby, only a couple of months old so i dont' remember anything.

but i went through some trauma growing up, i had a great need to know things that i know will be really hard for me to find out now. i have trouble dealing with it sometimes because i feel like a part of me is missing and i will never be able to know it. i wonder what life would've been like if i was still with my biological family. i feel that in terms of nature and nuture, sometimes nature is something that can possibly be more powerful than how you were raised because there are some ways that i behave that are very much like the culture i have been adopted from. and even though i have never lived there, i carry some of these things with me. i think it's very interesting.

Answer 2

I was adopted by my aunt when I was born. My birthmom wasn't ready for a 3rd child and my aunt (legal mom) couldn't have kids. Yay me! My life is alot better than what it would have been if I wasn't adopted. I also recently (last month) gave my 3rd child up for adoption and she was adopted by my cousins (pretty much the same situation). People kept telling me it would be the hardest decision I would ever make, honestly it was the easiest. I knew she was going to a great family and she would get the attention and care that she needs. I have a 4 year old and a 2 1/2 year old and they occupy most of my time. So along w/ finances I was worried I wouldn't be able to offer my time evenly to all of my kids. So I knew it was the best decision I could make.

Very happy about it, about all of it.

Answer 3

I’m not adopted, but four of my aunts and uncles are. In my family it is not a big deal, just the way it is. My Grandparents were wonderful people that gave a loving, accepting home to their natural, adopted and foster children. I never knew there was even a difference, but the facts were never hidden, and everyone is treated exactly the same. In my family everyone is encouraged to be their own person, and so what if we all look different.

Most have a relationship with their birth parents, and it has been encouraged.

If you are thinking about adopting, go for it! If you are thinking about giving a baby up for adoption, then again go for it! If you are adopted, give your parents a big hug and thank them for being great parents that choose you, and if you have a relationship with your birth parents hug them too for giving you a better life.

Answer 4

I was adopted when I was 8. I lived with my biological mother till I was five. Knew her, saw her, and loved her. Unfortantly she was a drug addict. She was unable to take care of me and my siblings. So she signed her rights away and left. For the longest time, i have felt hurt and mad at her, but now that I am an adult, I know she just did the one thing she knew she could to make sure we were ok. Unfortuantley she died back in 1995, before I could find her and tell her that I forgave her for what she did. And it breaks my heart to this day. I was lucky and the family that adopted me adopted my sister 6 years later. All of my siblings got split up. I recently found my brother Johnny two in a half years ago. But I still have another sister out there that I havent been able to find. She is 19 years old and her name is Kimber Nicole Lang. the ironic thing about al this is that my mother and sister lived in Iowa(where I am from) during the time she died. they only lived 2 hours away fro me the whole time. it hurts knowing that they lived that close to me and I knew got to see them or get to know them. Now my mom is gone and I cant find my sister, but I have found my b iological family. Alll my aunts and uncles of my mom and They all remember me and my sister(the one that got adopted by the same family). So i have alot of mixed feelings and wish i had some answers to some things. But eventually I will I have faith that i will

Answer 5

I am adopted and I am not really sure how I feel. Most days, it doesn't cross my mind, but from time to time wonder what lives my biological relatives are living and if they ever think about me (the typical stuff, I think).

Please tell me if anyone has been/is in a similar situation as this:
My fiance and I are both adopted, but he and I have VERY different views on the subject. We are thinking about starting a family and I want to search for information on family medical history as well as just knowing more about where I came from. My fiance thinks it's a waste of time and has this "who cares" attitude about the whole thing. He pulls the "are you happy?" routine and when I say yes, he says "who cares where you came from." I want to do genetic testing to see if we are carriers for any "major" diseases, disorders, etc. He says "does it matter? we are going to love our kids no matter what" and I know we will, but we need to make sure that we can financially support a child who may need more medical attention than the average child.

Answer 6

yes im adopted and i cant speak for everybody else i have mixed feelings about it sometimes i wondered why my birth mother gave me up and i would be mad about it cause i felt like she just gave me up because she didnt love me and whats worse, it was a closed adoption that even hurt more. i feel that i should have the right to know who my birth parents are because i have 3 sons and heaven forbid if anything happens that one of them come down with a certain sickness that is hereditary what can my adoptive family do for me in a situation like that? i love my adoptive parents to death but im always going to feel that void i have for my birth mother and to know that i have younger siblings and a whole other side of the family that i dont even about it just not right

Answer 7

I love it! I was adopted at birth, and I feel so special. To me it means that my mom and dad wanted me enough to go through so much trouble to get me.

This is one of my faveorite "quotes"
One day a young girl in kindergardten or first grade was asked by her teacher to explain explain adoption to the class because she was adopted. The little girl said:
"It just means that I grew in my mommy's heart instead ofher tummy!"

I love that and think that is exactly true! My mom and I are best friends and even look so much alike!

In short, being adopted is one of my traits I'm most proud of!

Answer 8

I was adopted and it depends what kinda parents you got.Like if I still lived with the ppl who took care of me then maybe i wouldnt have a great life like right now.See i didnt even know my birth mom or dad only these ppl that took care of me.I was put up by adoption by them bc they didnt have enough like money to take care of me and stuff.Then my mom right now adopted me and i figured out if i wasnt adopted then i wouldnt have a great life like right now.And yeah every now and then i wish i knew who my parents were but hey if they loved you then they would have tried to keep you.But something tells me if your real parents gave you away theres a reason why they want you to be happier then you would have been with them.

Answer 9

I was adopted. There has always been a feeling of disconnect for me. Don't misunderstand that though, I love my parents dearly and I think sometimes they "forget" for lack of a better word that they adopted me. I have reconnected with my birth mother and now knowing her I can say that I'm happy with her decision. She has a lot of baggage that she will never be able to let go of and not just because of her decision to give me up.

Answer 10

i had a time when i was about 13 or 14 that i really struggled with it. i think that was because i was the only person in my school that was adopted. and that is such a rough age anyway, but i pulled through it.
i am perfectly comfortable with being adopted. i knew growing up there was a reason and i had a very stable home. overall i do feel it was a blessing for me. i have met my birthmother, i never felt the need to ask her why. she finally just told me one day. i think she thought she needed to explain. it was just what i had expected. too young, immature and financially unstable. she is a brave woman and i respect her.
i do know some that really take it to a bad place, they blame birthmothers for everything from fat thighs to choices they made that got them arrested. i actually had one guy (not knowing i was also adopted) tell me it wasnt his fault he had been arrested so many times, he was adopted, that was all his problems. i laughed right in his face. how pathetic is that?
blaming someone else because he commited breaking and entering, drunk driving and physical assult.

being adopted does not represent who i am, it simply identifies where i came from. i have thanked my birthmother several times and i love having her in my life, but she is not and will never be 'mom' to me. i have a mom and dad already.

not to mention it comes in handy when my hillbilly, nasty cousin is around, i always joke that i am not genetically connected to him. *thank god!* i love him, but i am certainly happy i dont share a gene pool with him.