I have had my cat for 4 years since he was a kitten.He is an indoor cat. He is badly trained as we always treated him like a baby. he pees on the carpets, in the bathtub poops in the bath and on the bathroom floor. His fur gets everywhere and i woory about the health of my baby. My baby is now three months old and is very demanding but not as demanding as my cat. I take my fustrations out on the cat and shout at him all the time. his behaviour just gets worse and he seems so miserable too. Do i get rid of him he might be happier?
2007-07-13 02:44:06 · 42 answers · asked by starbabe 2 in Pets ➔ Cats
This is tricky though I completely understand having a 4 mnth old baby and two rather naughty indoor cats. Think so long as you keep house as clean as you can then you shouldnt worry about them harming your babys health, babies survive much worse environments than a messy cat. It is hard to be patient with a cat when they just make more work when you already dealing with a new baby and I think if you really cant cope with it you should re-home your cat, it sounds like it may be best for you both. Make sure you put the effort in and find it a decent home where its going to be cared for, maybe have a word with your vet and see if they have any advice/recommendations. My cat likes to drag its butt along the floor, its a pain. Good luck with baby and cat!!
2007-07-13 09:41:51 · answer #1 · answered by chelleandben@btinternet.com 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Is this a serious question or are you just winding people up?
If this is true, hell yes, give him to a rescue centre who will look after him a damn sight better than you do.
Ok. All those people saying that you should keep him and train him properly are WRONG. You obviously don't want to train him. You've created all of his behavioural 'problems' but I personally don't think you're capable of fixing them. Let someone else, who actually wants to help him, fix them.
All those people saying that he will get killed in a shelter are WRONG. If the shelter has space for him, they will take him in. If they don't, they will put him on a waiting list to be taken in. Tell them that your baby is allergic to your cat's fur, that it is urgent, and they will take him from you.
Don't try to find a new home yourself by putting an ad in the newspaper, or giving him to a friend of a friend. You don't know what a stranger's home will be like, or how they will treat him. They could treat him even worse than you do. You probably don't really care, but I do.
Thirdly, those people suggesting you should let your cat outside to fix the problem are WRONG.
The problem is that you didn't train him, you are horrible to him and you don't want him anymore. Simple as that. Do at least one decent thing and send him to a shelter so that they can find a great home for him, rather than letting him outside so that he can run off and become a stray.
Will he be happier? Let's see...
* He will be treated like a cat, not a baby
* He will be shown how to behave properly instead of being confused about what he is supposed to do
* He won't feel the need to eliminate inappropriately in his new house, as his new owners will make him feel secure and loved. He is doing it at your house because he is tense and very unhappy, from the sound of things.
* His new owners will be intelligent enough to realise that cat fur does not harm babies, and that in fact, having a pet around is hugely beneficial to a child's development.
* His new owners will love him and care for him the way he deserves to be cared for, rather than shouting at him.
Yes, he'll be happier with someone else. If you live in the UK visit this website http://www.catchat.org/adoption . Call every shelter near you until someone will take him in. He is still young and will find a much better home that yours quickly, I imagine.
And by the way, I strongly doubt that it is your *cat's* happiness that makes you want to give him up.
2007-07-13 06:27:41 · answer #2 · answered by Sparklepop 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Studies have shown that children who grew up with a cat or dog in their home are far less likely to have allergies. To animals or anything else.
The best time to start thinking about this was before you brought your new baby home. But with a little love and understanding all can still get on well.
Yelling at your cat is about the worst thing possible from his point of view. Do some research, find an expert if you have to. Take steps to understand whyhe does what he does and what he is trying to tell you.
Finding a new happier home for your cat may still be an option for you but as you mention "getting rid of him", perhaps try to think of him as a living breathing intelligent being rather than an object to get rid of. Or keep as the case may be.
2007-07-13 02:52:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
If are asking this question it means that you shouldn't have a cat to start with.
I hope when you have a second child you won't ask if you should get rid of the first.
Obviously my answer is: No, you shouldn't get rid of your cat. But if are going to keep on behaving as you have, then it would be better if you find a suitable loving home for the poor animal. Cats are very intelligent animals, if you start training him (even with 4 years old), he will learn very quickly what he should or shouldn't do. Start by buying a potty for cats, toys, a brush and start taking care of him as you should have done from the beginning. And buy a book about dealing with animals, obviously you know very little about them.
2007-07-13 03:05:14 · answer #4 · answered by . 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
The cat deserves a better home where he will be loved and trained properly - it is YOUR responsibility to find him a new home that is good enough. Looking after a cat is a big responsibility. If he had been trained properly then he would not act the way he is acting. Cats and babies can live together great - in fact kids growing up with animals around them helps them understand that animals are a responsibility to take seriously. If you do not know someone who can offer the cat a home if you are in the UK try the Cats Protection League. Please think carefully in the future about having animals. They like us need security and a loving home.
2007-07-13 02:59:31 · answer #5 · answered by nickywireobsessive 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have crated this poor cats problem and now you want to pass it on to someone else, no matter how you feel about the cat he loves you and as you say up until you had your child you loved him like a baby, how could you treat this poor dumb animal so badly and yet say you loved him like a baby, are you going to do the same thing when your child grown and makes a mess in the house no of course your not and nor should you abandon your cat start to teach him house training he will learn very quickly, and have a bit more patient with him it not his fault it yours.
2007-07-13 05:17:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you know anyone who is willing to put up with your cat's eccentricities and behavioral problems? Dumping him in a shelter is unfair since you made your cat into what he is today by not training him -- shouting at him now for things he's done his whole life is not the right approach.
If you're not willing to spend the time to train him correctly, you should find him a more appropriate home yourself. If he ends up in a shelter, he'll probably be put to sleep.
Anyone who uses the phrase "get rid" when talking about a pet probably shouldn't have had one in the first place.
2007-07-13 02:50:12 · answer #7 · answered by Catherine F 3 · 7⤊ 0⤋
I would say a definite yes. Your poor cat, no wonder he is so miserable being shouted at all the time. I have four children and 4 cats, plus other animals. I never shout at my cats. Cats aren't naughty. I would ring Cat's Protection Society. They will re home your cat so he can have a better life, do it as soon as possible.
2007-07-14 08:16:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please dont get rid of your poor cat,hes probs feeling very pushed out...find abit of time to give him some fuss and love in the day just for him..You really need to clamp down on getting him trained,it isnt too late. Have a good scrub where hes been toileting probs have to buy some proper cleaner or if can afford to rip up carpets and replace mats,they always go back to their scent! Dont loose your temper if you can help it,encouragement is best way..Obviously groom him as much as poss to cut down how much is moulting,it may calm him down and enjoy the bonding time you'l have doing it? Best of luck to you,if you really get so down about it you could always ask your vets advice.
2007-07-13 13:38:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
please dun think this way~
ur cat is jealous of the baby and what you are doing is forcing him to be a bad boy~!! what you should do is let the cat knows that he is still very important in the house, and everything are going to be fine and no one will take his position! u can train you cat to let him not poo and wee in the wrong place
imagine u give out ur cat and the next owner didnt treat him well.. ur heart will hurt rite? he is only 4 years old.. still very young and need your love very much~! please give it another go before giving up~! remember.. its not his fault that you have a new baby and all his behaviour need to change~ he didnt ask you to have a baby~
2007-07-13 02:51:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋