plans? I invited my friends daughter on an outing (she's 9), and my friend said yes, thanks. This was a week before we were going. Two days before we were meant to go, I checked with her about it, and she said "oh, no she's not going now sorry, I made plans for her to go to my mom's house to sleepover". Is this rude, and would I have the right to say something? Last time this happened, she was messing me around for nearly a week before I got a straight answer out of her. Also, I'd left the day free last week to go, and turned down other invites because I thought I had plans, do you think I should speak up now?
2007-07-13 02:36:01 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
that was rude........... well now think twice about inviting her or keep checking with her everyday so she does not forget.......
2007-07-13 02:39:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't mention whether or not you have other children or if this is just a date between you and the child.
This is rude of the child's mother not to inform you of the change of plans. It's also rude not to give a prompt RSVP - rather than hemming and hawing about whether daughter can go with you.
Now then, it's time to ask Mom if she is uncomfortable with you asking her daughter to join you on outings? If so, then respect Mom's wishes and invite some other youngster to accompany you.
2007-07-13 03:12:10 · answer #2 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is extremely rude and inconsiderate. But speaking up will do you absolutely no good. Someone like this will not change, so save yourself the aggravation of an unproductive conversation.
Here is a simple solution that involves absolutely no conflict: do not invite her, or her daughter, to do anything, ever again. If she asks you why, you can simply say politely, "I've had other plans lately."
Good luck!
2007-07-13 02:51:50 · answer #3 · answered by meatpiemum 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I invite a new friend of my child's twice. If the mother backs out both times, I no longer invite that child again.
If that child's parents invite my child to an outing after that, then I accept, making sure not to back out (to give them an example of what the right thing to do is, in case they had not noticed). And then take it it from there.
But with your case, it seems to have happend more then once. I wouldn't speak up. I would just not invite the child anymore. Actions speak louder then words.
2007-07-13 02:48:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes, things do come up that are more important then previous engagements, but in this scenario, the second event was not crucial or even more important. Yes, it is rude, and to make the matter worse, your plans where set a considerably long time in advance. Next time you should think twice about making plans with that person.
2007-07-13 02:44:18 · answer #5 · answered by ethanb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that there are bigger things to worry about in life. Yes it was an inconvenience to plan for her to go, and yes it was rude, but is it worth worrying about? No, just don't invite her or her daughter out anymore. No big deal, move on to a more worthy problem that deserves more of your attention.
2007-07-13 02:48:22 · answer #6 · answered by GLSigma3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes....she told you something and she should have stuck by her word. Tell her that you dont think that what she did was right, and that you just will not be asking her daughter to do any thing else with you and your family. It will probably affect your relationship, but she doesnt seem like a very forthcoming person anyway. I hope that if you have a daughter that her feelings didnt get hurt because of it! Good luck!
2007-07-13 02:41:30 · answer #7 · answered by Princess*J* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rude
2007-07-13 02:40:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wouldn't it be just easier to NEVER invite again? You do not need to make an issue of this now, just don't ever let it happen again. (I am a bit evil, I would have a great time with other kids and then relate all the fun to her at a later date.)
2007-07-13 02:40:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would not invite the girl anymore since they make a habit of being rude.
2007-07-13 04:08:08 · answer #10 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
definately rude. I would presume she doesn't want her daughter to stay over. She should just tell you the truth. Confront her and ask her, if she doesn't trust you, or what, because every time this comes up, she never lets her come over.
2007-07-13 02:43:06 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋