My cousin's daughter has behavior problems. She is 5 years old. My cousin is a stay at home Mom and her daughter yells at her, tells her she is a bad Mom. Whenever she is in time-out she tells her Mom she hates her. Just recently they were on a road trip and her Mom stopped the car so she could have her in time out for 6 minutes and she said "why don't you just run me over with the car so I can die". I told her I thought that was her way of taking back power. My cousin is a wonderful Mom and loves and takes good care of her children. Is this normal of a 5 year-old?
2007-07-13 02:35:54 · 12 answers · asked by TooGenerous 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
All children act this way to some extent. I just think the problem here is that the parent isn't trying the best form of discipline for her child. Instead of punishing severely for wrong doings, why doesn't she try positive re-enforcement? Instead of punishing the child for being bad and yelling, when is being quiet and good tell her what a good girl she is and how you love her behavior when she's like this. This may work better because the child just sounds like she wants attention.
2007-07-13 03:27:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not normal for a five year old but maybe a 15 year old!!! Where is this little girl learning this stuff? Well anyway, your cousin should not let this bother her. In this case "fight fire with fire" is the best answer i can give. If she does that stuff say "well since you don't seem to care that you are in time out, i should give you a punishment you will care about. No TV, AND no play time for the rest of the day. Oh, and by the way You will sit in a 10 minute time out every day for a week." And if she continues "well since you seem to enjoy that idea so much you have two days of not TV or play time and its 15 minutes of timeout instead." Add 1 day and 5 minutes for every time she carries on, do this until you get to 5 days and 30 minutes. At that point she gets an hour's worth of chores. If she's going to act like a brat then she gets treated like a brat, MAKE THAT CLEAR!!!!
2007-07-13 06:56:03 · answer #2 · answered by nylablover93 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not normal for any child to ask be murdered by his/her parent.
Some kids are naturally a little high strung and overreact to all sorts of situations. But I think a child of this age who understands, imagines and tries to create this kind of violence has been exposed to something well beyond what she is capable of processing.
My first thought, really, was that the kid has been watching too many soap operas with Mom. The freaking out, yelling that she's a bad mother and concept of being run over by a car are exactly the types of things that soap operas are filled with. Take a sensitive, dramatic child and expose her to that crap every day, and you can expect her to be acting it out.
Of course, there could be something deeper here. If the child has been through her parents divorcing or if her home life is really dramatic in some other way, there are some personalities that would react in such a way.
2007-07-13 02:42:18 · answer #3 · answered by sparki777 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The proper term is 2nd cousin. I sense that you might want to have a romantic relationship with this person? If that is so, please look up genetics and what is truly right and wrong before starting anything up. Handicapped children is the reason. If you had children together, the odds of handicaps are hugely increased. I think there may be laws regarding how close a blood relationship should or shouldn't before in order to marry. If you are just curious about the term, though, it is 2nd cousin.
2016-05-21 09:52:18 · answer #4 · answered by lauri 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like the little girl has realized the power of her words. She most likely knows that saying certain things will get a reaction and may get an adult to feel bad enough to stop punishing her. I knew a girl who did this and she only did it because then her parents would pick her up, out of her time-out, to cuddle her and try to get her to 'feel better'.
Keep with the time outs. Time does not start until there is complete silence, if she speaks time starts over. Ignore it. When she realizes the words have no power she may just stop.
Now... if she is saying these things when she is NOT angry then take her to a doctor to have her checked out. if she says it only when she is MAD... then she is trying to manipulate the adults around to feel guilty enough to not punish her. Normal 5 yr old stuff.
2007-07-13 04:03:43 · answer #5 · answered by scottishduffy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was normal for my daughter starting not long after then. BUT she had severe issues and ended up being Baker Acted-sent to hospital without anyone elses say-twice by the police department for things she did. These thigns soudn liek trouble to me but I suppose could just be normal for her. I was a stay at hoem mom too and sometimes even then things happen we arent aware of. I woudl suggest a child psychologist.
2007-07-13 02:41:44 · answer #6 · answered by Betsy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time-outs do not work with every child. This child has learned to manipulate. A few swats on the rear for this behavior will probably take care of it.
2007-07-16 02:08:25 · answer #7 · answered by sbyldy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is not. This child needs help in some way, probably the work of a therapist.
2007-07-13 06:06:49 · answer #8 · answered by Heidi W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your cousin's fault.....she's not being firm and consistant enough with the kid's discipline. That is NOT "being a good mother".
2007-07-15 06:02:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have stopped that car and taken her out and gave her the spanking she so richly deserved. yes this is normal for a five yr old that does not get enough disipline.good luck .
2007-07-13 02:40:04 · answer #10 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋