Me and my mom have been debating, when I send my inivitations out, she says I should invite all of my family (even though I dont like some of them) and include where I'm registered in the invitation. This way if they don't rsvp I might get lucky and they might still send me a gift. I think it's tacky to include where I'm registered at. Who do u think is right? should I include this incase they don't come I will still get a gift? what is the proper etiquette. (by the way, this is a destination wedding, so i dont know if the etiquette differentiates)
thanks for your advice!
2007-07-13 01:51:35 · 15 answers · asked by spadezgurl22 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I agree, i am only inviting them to bridge the gap in our family and extend the olive branch, i couldnt care about a gift either way
2007-07-13 01:58:25 · update #1
when my fiance and i registered at target and at macy's, we were given cards with our info on them that told guests where we were registered. so when we sent out invites to the engagement party and bridal shower, we sent those inserts along with them.
and for those who we knew weren't going to any of those parties (long distance relatives and friends), we sent them those invite inserts with the actual wedding invitation.
so since you said it is a destination wedding, it does differ, so including where you're registered would be perfect!!
2007-07-13 02:01:04 · answer #1 · answered by John Redcorn 4 · 2⤊ 7⤋
You're right. It is tacky to put your registry info in your invitations. What I did was create a wedding website at the Knot with all the information in it and am including a link on our RSVPs (because they can RSVP there 2)! If they really want to send you a gift, they'll get in contact with someone who they think will know where your registered (parents & sibs), so make sure they all know.
2007-07-13 04:54:06 · answer #2 · answered by Samantha B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are correct, your mother is incorrect. There should never, ever be mention of gifts, money or registries in the invitation. If you want money or you are registered some where, the only way you communicate that is when asked directly by guests, and/or you spread the word of your registries through family and friends. Never on the invite, destination wedding or not.
Good luck!
~Kat
2007-07-13 03:08:22 · answer #3 · answered by Kat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Putting your registry information on your wedding invitations is not acceptable. Because guests are not REQUIRED to bring a gift (it's just expected), including this type of information makes it look like all you are doing is fishing for gifts. Registry information is passed on through the grapevine; by your friends and family. Registry information is also usually given by the hostess of your shower, where you ARE expected to bring a gift (hence, the "shower").
As far as the family is concerned, if you are trying to mend fences, absolutely invite them. But since you are having a destination wedding, you need to think about how many people you plan on having there. A good rule is only send invitations to people you actually want to attend. You may just want to send your family a wedding announcement. Start concentrating on your wedding and don't worry about the gifts.
2007-07-13 02:08:51 · answer #4 · answered by trpaz2979 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You are right on this one. It's tacky to fish for gifts or to hope they will get you one if they don't RSVP. You're already asking people to travel to your "destination". Depending on the distance, their presence may be the only gift they can give you.
Do not put the registry in the invitation. Wait and see if they ask if you are registered anywhere. You can tell them then.
If they do not RSVP, you may wish to call them to ask.
2007-07-13 02:29:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't include the registry with the invitation, because that would indicate you require gifts whether they attend or not, which, with a wedding, gifts are not required.
2007-07-13 03:43:35 · answer #6 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not put any registry information on the invitation. That's a rude request for gifts.
Print your wedding website (which happens to have the registry info) at the end of the directions card. That would do the trick.
Good luck
2007-07-13 02:07:03 · answer #7 · answered by Blunt 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋
it is extremely tacky to include where you are registered at in the invitation. most of the time if someone is planning on coming to your wedding, they will end up asking you or your parents, etc. where you are registered. for destination weddings, gifts are probably going to be smaller anyways because people are already paying a lot to get to where your wedding is.
2007-07-13 01:58:56 · answer #8 · answered by jmum82 2 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Putting where you are registered on the wedding invites is considered extremely tacky. You're right and your mom is wrong.
2007-07-13 02:25:48 · answer #9 · answered by Kitten 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Most etiquette experts will tell you it's in bad taste to include registries in invitations. If they really want to send a gift, they can still mail you a check or gift card. But it's also in poor taste to send invites to people you don't like just to get a gift from them!
2007-07-13 01:56:59 · answer #10 · answered by Sarah 3 · 7⤊ 2⤋
You're right- it's tacky, and rude! They may send you a gift, and they may not, but you don't want to send the message that all you care about is the gift!
2007-07-13 02:52:14 · answer #11 · answered by blondissima622 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋