well i met a guy briefly but didnt get to know each other very well so we exchanged e-mail addresses and i may have told a few lies and now i want to meet with him again on a date he will realise i am lying? please help on how to correct some of the lies i have told
1. i have smaller breasts than i told him, also i were padded bras so he thought that they were that big when we met for the first time too!
2. i told him i was going on holiday to papua new guniea this summer when i am not i am going next year.
3. also i said i was 1 or 2 inches taller than i am (we were sitting down when we met!)
please help i want to undoe these lies without saying that i lied!
thanks xxx
2007-07-13 00:30:22 · 24 answers · asked by Zalia 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he is only interested in the size of your t*ts or how tall you are, he ain't worth knowing. And, at least you are going on holiday where you said eventually. Meet up and then decide if you want to take it further. He may have "exaggerated" too, ya know! Most people do it a little when they first meet. They are hardly life changing lies, are they? Being married, or a different gender might be reason to be shocked, but not the size of your t*ts!
2007-07-13 00:37:24 · answer #1 · answered by Pixxxie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These are insignificant lies. If you all really get along good just say you said those things to see how he would respond. I bet after actually meeting you he wont care 1 bit about them. This should teach you a lesson however. Never be ashamed of who and what you are, each of us are different and I thank God for that. So you had a little fun with him, he may have had some fun with you to. Heck he might be a 43 year old man. wow bet that would shock she padding right out of your bra! (lol) Just make sure you all meet in a public place and are able to talk. That way if he is a little creepy you can run like hell. Good luck and don't worry about the lies just say you were having some fun and seeing what he would say in return.
2007-07-13 00:42:28 · answer #2 · answered by Prof. Dave 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt worry about the padded bra, show me a guy who hasnt discovered theyre a lot smaller without the bra and ill show you a liar. unless youve exaggerated massively i wouldnt worry, if were talking going from a 32a to a 36c i think he pobably noticed anyway! and the height thing, hes a bloke, is both unimportant and unnoticable. as for going away, plans can always be postponed.
it should be easy to correct these lies while still keeping his trust, what worries me is that you say these are some of the lies youve told? how many more are there? if youve been dishonest with too much it might be better to call it a day now, you dont want to end upp in a relationship constantly worrying whether one lie contradicts another.
i hope they were just small silly things and not anything too important . but please, whatever happens, ask yourself why you felt you needed to lie in the first place?
you can only ever be who you are, lying may make him like you, but how do you know its YOU he likes.
good luck
2007-07-13 01:39:57 · answer #3 · answered by adelle h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just act yourself on the date, don't mention the small lies you told, he may notice your boobs and your height but he probably wont mention them, if he does just try and laugh it off! He probably realises most people tell a few white lies when they meet someone they like, he has probably done the same! As for the holiday just casually dismiss it, say something like "did I say this year, I meant next year!" Maybe followed with a girly "silly me" and a flutter of the eyelashes for extra effect! Most importantly enjoy the date and try to be honest from now on, thats one of the most important things in a relationship. Good luck x
2007-07-13 00:41:14 · answer #4 · answered by Purdycat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry my friend but i think you are in over your head. Better to come clean now than later on your date. If you tell him that you feel really silly about going to far to impress him, then you could be ok. Its not like you told him that bad of lies, he may see the funny side of it, or he may not, but why bash yourself up over it, get it over and done with. The best of luck, and remember next time tell the truth and you wont be in this predicament again
2007-07-13 00:38:09 · answer #5 · answered by ryles72 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have no choice but to own-up to your lies. Once you do this, you will feel much better. Always remember, one lie starts to trigger another lie and so on AND then you forget what you first lied about and it spins totally out of control. Honesty is always the best policy in life.
2007-07-13 00:34:43 · answer #6 · answered by Patty G 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not like you have to tell him that you used to be a man or that you've just got out of prison for murdering your last boyfrind.
Just tell him that you made some stuff up as you didn't think that you would be meeting him again, he'll be fine. Promise.
2007-07-13 00:48:01 · answer #7 · answered by andipandi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he won't notice your breasts or height although why you told him your breast size is a mystery. just say you had a change of plan for the holiday.
stop lying and deal with the problem you have in that you need to change personal details about your self for whatever reason.
2007-07-13 00:37:59 · answer #8 · answered by Sarah J 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cannot make these lies right he is going to realise that you lied sooner or later and you must be preparred that he may not want anything to do with you now because of this . good luck and I wish you well .
2007-07-13 00:36:05 · answer #9 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well those lies aren't very bad. He will probably understand about the titty thing. Alot of girls lie about that. or you could get a boob job. About the trip tell him it was canceled and leave it at that and tell him about it next year. he will never notice your height. you and him will be just fine.
2007-07-13 00:48:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋