i told him only boys have willys,and havnt got a clue of wat to tell him girls have got!!! i need serious answers! i know he is only 4 but i dont want to keep things from him and want to be as honest as i can!
thanx
2007-07-12 20:14:12 · 17 answers · asked by mamof14now 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
i feel the words "vagina" and "penis" are a bit too young for a child of 4.however i do appreciate all answers.
thanx again
2007-07-12 21:03:39 · update #1
Children are developing faster these days, just the other day my 4yr old daughter asked my husband why he has a penus. I can't confirm where she heard that from. But my husband and I did sit down with her and not talk about the birs and the bees or anything but we just told her that mommy and daddy are different. Its your own judgement on what you want to tell him there is no wrong answer, I say its best they learn it from mom and dad instead of learning from the outside and then coming home and asking all these questions.
2007-07-12 20:20:20 · answer #1 · answered by sexylady 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Four is a little too young for the Birds and the Bees, but you could give him a little bit of a physical description of what girls have got.
You might check with your pediatrician and see if there is any literature that can help you to explain this and how best to illustrate it. You are not the first parent to get a question like this!
He doesn't need a lot of detail, but you do need to be truthful in whatever you tell him and you need to be careful to phrase it in ways that will satisfy him for now without misleading him.
If he were a little older you could explain the whole human reproduction thing, but I do think four is a little too young for that.
Obviously he has no female siblings.
2007-07-12 20:26:24 · answer #2 · answered by Warren D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls have vaginas is a good answer for his question.
You can go to the library and get age appropriate books on the topic of boys and girls and how they are different. Ask the librarians where to look. You can then go through the book with him and answer his questions. This might also be a good time to discuss inappropriate touching with your son. He doesn't need to know about the birds and bees yet (he'd just think it was gross), but you'll be setting the groundwork for that discussion.
Good luck!
2007-07-12 20:50:01 · answer #3 · answered by sassy sarah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Teach him the correct terminology now. Believe me, he will be old enough to go off to school soon, and then he will learn all the slang terms. Besides, it's not like he's asking about sex, just the difference in body parts. There's absolutely nothing wrong with the terms "penis" and "vagina" being used with a 4 year old.
2007-07-13 02:39:57 · answer #4 · answered by xxxxxxxx 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
would you call an arm or a leg by another name? NO. So call it what it is. Either a vulva or a vagina. Surely he has seen you naked to know girls are different. Mine knew at 2 that boys have a penis and girls a vagina. Be thank ful that it took him this long to ask if you are so uncomfortable saying the names of body parts
2007-07-12 23:37:19 · answer #5 · answered by Rachel 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My daughter is now five and we told her about the vagina and penis when she was two going on three after she saw my friend's son and said, "He has a lot of poop there."
While it might sound grown up it's better that they know the actual names for it so they are less embarrassed about it when they get older. But if you are going to do names just say, "Boys and men have... and girls and women have..."
You'd be surprised at how smart they are and get it right away. But just so you know, they how's of how babies are born are going to come soon too.
2007-07-12 23:05:51 · answer #6 · answered by wuvmonki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can`t believe he is 4 already and you haven`t told him that.
I started having that conversation with my little girl when she was 2.
We also use the words penis and vagina (gina) easily in my house. My friend uses Willy and Milly.
I taught my daughter about Vaginas when I taught her about noses and toes.
I introduced the idea of boys having penises not vaginas as a really interesting idea when we were talking about the differences between girls and boys.
It got a little difficult when she wanted to know about the (desexed) male cat!!!........... "yes...he has a penis too, but it is under his fur..."
she has seen little boys penises at play dates and day-care (open door toilet policy) and laughed when she caught her daddy changing (he was much more traumatised than her!)
Now she has accepted it as just another part of life and shows ABSOLUTELY no interest in the idea.
2007-07-12 22:13:29 · answer #7 · answered by psychokitty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My 4 year old nephew has know that he has a penis for quite some time. We told him when he had a little sister that girls have vaginas. He actually understands, I don't see the harm in it because it is better for your son to have to correct terminology, for body parts.
2007-07-13 03:16:04 · answer #8 · answered by Ailrys 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's 10 they are in all possibility basically his acquaintances. provide up interpreting too lots into it, in the event that they are those style of calls why does your son provide out your variety and picture it is superb? Take some duty and instruct the boy some morals as a replace of coming to Yahoo conversing nonsense, how previous are you? 15? performing like a newborn.
2016-11-09 04:50:24 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with him, and use frank, medical terminology -- "penis" and "vagina" are not words kids should be ashamed of saying. My son is almost five, and we've been very matter-of-fact with him about the differences between boys and girls.
2007-07-13 01:51:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋