my boyfirend and i have been dating for a little less then a year. everything has been fine till about a month ago. i found out his secret and now we fight alot and i always seem to cry alot more now. he stop telling me things and he brings up random things to pick i fight, i guess you could say. it's just i love him and i wanna save this relationship. EVERYONE says we are a PERFECT couple. it's just does he wanna brek up or is it another bump in the road??
2007-07-12 20:11:24 · 9 answers · asked by spoiledrotten4ever@sbcglobal.net 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
oh the secret was he thinks he's bisexual.
2007-07-12 20:17:03 · update #1
u have to work for it.its a chore. u like sum1 else more. u have to ask this question. there is long amounts of time nothing is happening when ur with him. and it feels aqward. when u r more depressed then happy. when u look forward to alone time. when u keep looking at the clock when u r with him.
just take a break and go to a spa or sumthing. figure out if ur morals or the same as his still.
2007-07-12 20:13:40 · answer #1 · answered by FL๑Яida GЯL ♥♥♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you feel like your relationship is worth saving then do it now. Sit your boyfriend down and talk. You need to keep talking until everything is discussed. Your issued will not be resolved in one day but if you are both willing to try, then it should work. Consider couples therapy as another option for the two of you. Just remember that you cannot make a relationship work all by yourself. If your boyfriend is not willing to do his part to save the relationship then you should consider ending it. Being a "perfect couple" in others eyes is not something to base a relationship on.
2007-07-13 03:16:54 · answer #2 · answered by Lov'n IT! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, all of this could mean a lot of things: he's not interested in you anymore, he's going through a lot of stress, he could be seeing another girl, or it could be a bump in the road. but if this has been going on for a month then something might be wrong. try talking to him, when was the last time he said "i love you" in the eyes, and you, and when a relationship starts to go down the drain this could be one of the signs- random fighting (that's how one of my boyfriends and i ended up) or either you or him just start losing interest in each other that when both of you or just one of you dont feel anything when together.. hope that helped a little or a lot.
2007-07-13 03:17:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex would make a fight over anything stupid come Friday (payday) I soon caught on and I would be like "whatever" which would egg him on more. He just wanted an excuse to storm out and go hang out with friends. I soon got sick of the mental abuse and got out of there. Well after he went to jail anyway. It took me 5 years to finally leave this relationship and the "best" years of my life. Of course relationships look perfect in the beginning but if you ever start to feel something is very wrong then listen too your gut.
If he is bisexual then he's probably very confused about what he wants. Find someone who isn't confused, you deserve better than that.
2007-07-13 03:19:25 · answer #4 · answered by marie s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends what "his secret" is. Try and think back to when you first got together, read diaries from the time or look at old photos from then etc.... Ask yourself if things have changed and what has changed. Don't be persuaded by what others think, the fact that you are asking this question means that you have serious doubts...
The worst thing you can do is to try and stop a runaway train....
Ok, so that's his secret... if he has told you this then he is obviously not sure any more if he is attracted JUST to you... get out before you get hurt anymore...
2007-07-13 03:16:22 · answer #5 · answered by Timmi007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A relationship is only going down the drains when one or both of you choose to stop working at it. You'll have to ask him regarding whether he wants to break up or not.
Also, it would help if we knew what this secret of his was, so we could give you some perspective on it. It might be something quite common, and we could help you to handle it, and know how best to approach him about it.
Feel free to email me if you think I can help.
2007-07-13 03:16:20 · answer #6 · answered by MumOf5 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This one is pretty much over. He is leading a completely different lifestyle from you. Can you deal with it? Do you know what bi-sexuality entails? He is attracted to men and might be having sex with them, the secrecy involved with this lifestyle encourages promiscuity and risk taking. Have you been tested for STDs?
Forget the perfect couple crap. You know this is not true of your relationship at this point.
2007-07-13 03:24:41 · answer #7 · answered by ♠♥ Miss Zora ♦♣ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
somtimes... ppl takes breaks... u might need one u know just to cool things off?
You guys will probably miss eachother.. than make up after the break.
Thats how it is.... usually..
2007-07-13 03:14:59 · answer #8 · answered by Tommy 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
EZ. When you just don't give a crap anymore.
2007-07-13 03:13:36 · answer #9 · answered by Pontius 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋