Why people especially guys marry. Marriage is a lose lose situation for males. If you are listening cancel your marriage -- Marriage is a big mistake !( for guys)
2007-07-12 20:03:07 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
well, aren't you bitter! Only half or so of marriages end in divorce - the others last until death (isn't that lovely!) And most of us are optimistic to believe that this is "the ONE" - so will you someday.
2007-07-13 05:39:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
So often, people get married with the wrong expectations. They think they know each other and then find out that they married someone they don't really know that well. Then they are let down and feel trapped. By that time, they know a little better who they really should have married. But its too late, [pregnancy and baby on the way]. Then they both try to make the best of things. Living with someone, before marriage, thinking that will solve the problem doesn't help, usually makes things worse. Marriage is for mature people.
2007-07-12 20:12:20 · answer #2 · answered by wildflower 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I really wish this site still offered the opportunity to put a thumbs-down on a question.
Honest to pete, divorce is not inevitable. If it were, then the divorce rate would be 100%, not the (tragic) 50% (or whatever it is) now.
Most people go into marriage believing it will last forever. Many of us are willing to honor our commitments, and work through it "for better or for worse". It's not easy...but then again, no one said it would be!
Marriage can be a wonderful thing. I doubt it will be for you, because you clearly don't have the right attitude to make it work. It has been and will be for me, because I am dedicated to making it work.
2007-07-13 07:52:47 · answer #3 · answered by abfabmom1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a bit cynical. Divorce is not inevitable. Some couples do make it.
There are a lot of positives to a good marriage- even for men! :)
If nothing else- there is the tax break!
There is also sharing the good things that happen to you during your life with someone who is happy for you.
There is sharing the difficult times with some one to shoulder part of the burden.
There is someone to share vacation and life experiences with.
There is someone to show you a different perspective.
There is some one to drive you to the doctor when you are sick.
There is someone to bounce ideas off of.
There is someone to encourage you to go for your dream.
And if you are my husband- some one to find the keys and buy the stamps and batteries! :)
Marriage is not always easy, but you can make YOUR marriage whatever you want it to be. You dont have to follow anyone else's idea of a marriage. Just what the 2 of you want.
I hope you are lucky enough to find your best friend one day and I hope you find some happiness.
2007-07-12 20:17:37 · answer #4 · answered by XaXa30 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Whats the big deal about divorce, when marriage is just a definition of a relationship to most people, break up/ get divorced, start hating someone you loved.
You get married to because as hard as it is to be completely committed to one person, it builds a solid environment for new children to grow in.
Or there are other reasons like religion mainly.
2007-07-12 20:16:15 · answer #5 · answered by Musicman 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, something apparently soured you to the idea of marriage altogether! You are wrong, my friend - marriage is a wonderful partnership and I think more guys would agree with me than not. It's no wonder you think marriage is a lose-lose situation - you don't have a very good attitude.
2007-07-16 13:52:18 · answer #6 · answered by Pineapple Princess 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
With an attitude like that no wonder it sounds like your marriage failed, no one wants to be hitched to someone with such a negative view, perhaps you should post a question and ask how many people out here have happy marriages, especially guys, I am sure there are hundreds of people here that could tell how what a positive thing it is to be married to their wives.
2007-07-12 21:52:01 · answer #7 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are very much thinking negatively. Not all marriages result in divorce. It is for the couple to make things work. And as per your advise if guys do not marry, what will female have to marry with.
2007-07-12 20:06:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think marriage is necisarily a bad thing. I agree, lots of people get divorced these days. I think it really depends on what you're intentions were when you got into the marriage. If it's because of money, it's probably not gonna last. But if it's out of genuine love and you really feel he/she is the guy/girl for you. I think it can totaly work. There are a lot of really happy couples out there if you look. :)
2007-07-12 20:09:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Who says divorce is inevitable? if reality be cautioned, even nevertheless divorce fee is extreme- and it keeps mountain climbing- some each and every physique is easily satisfied of their marriages. yet maximum individuals marry too youthful, for the incorrect reasons, or in basic terms as a results of fact they choose to verify what that is like. (those each and every physique is people who divorce without postpone and who supply marriage a undesirable call.) i think interior the corporate of marriage; yet I additionally think of that is not for each individual. and that i additionally think of human beings shouldn't marry in the past they seem to be a minimum of 30...adult males ought to even wait till they are 35!
2016-10-21 02:36:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce is not inevitable - there are lots of people who go through their whole lives with a happy marriage. There are also lots of people who are bitter like you seem to be but maybe one day you will meet someone that will change your mind.
2007-07-12 20:18:05 · answer #11 · answered by shez 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋