I am ready to start dating now that my divorce is in the past. I waited until I thought my kids would be able to handle it. They are 13/b and 11/g. The divorce was devasting to them and took a while before they seemed to accept it. Any ideas on how and where to get stated. This may seem like an easy thing to do, but I have to remember that any man I get involved with will be around my kids as well...(eventually) Thanks:)
2007-07-12 19:22:48 · 7 answers · asked by Melody B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
firstly congratulations on getting back out their. Take it slowly and just join a few social groups, that way you will meet someone who is into the things that you are into and you can form a friendship base first.
Make sure that the person you are dating is into you and vice versa before introducing him to your kids as they may be able to handle you dating but meeting several guys that don't work out may really upset them and also give your kids the wrong impression of dating.
2007-07-12 19:28:38 · answer #1 · answered by Belinda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a simailar situation as you. I was in a realtionship with someone for four years. After that ended and some time had gone by I as well decided I was ready to date again but I once again had no idea where to start. I was so nervous about the whole Idea. I ended up getting a profile on yahoo personals. I really liked the site. It felt like to me, that there were more people in my area than some of the other big name sites. I felt like I was able to get a good idea of who someone was. I ended up meeting the man of my dreams on it.
2007-07-12 19:30:06 · answer #2 · answered by booberann 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dated, alot after r divore! Not much around the kids, I waited until they were grown(on their own) before anything serious, They didn't want a step MOMMIE!! Ieventually married a great lady with 2 bratty kids,13b&11g, WOW, that was tough!!But we made it. 15 years later, we are a very loving family,.the kids, grandkids, & the benefits r all ours!!!!! Take your time!!!
2007-07-12 19:31:43 · answer #3 · answered by happywjc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you drink @ all, not even like SERIOUS drinking, just.. slightly, go to a bar.. a safe one.. the mall? i know that sounds a little teenage-ish, but it works :) try church? if you're religious, i wouldn't know.. umm join something for adults to do, like a club, where men will also be found there, just go out and explore new things, even if you're not 100% sure a man will be there that can take your heart, have fun on your journey, good luck! i hope you find mr. right
2007-07-12 19:30:28 · answer #4 · answered by David 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just make it clear to your kids that the person you're dating is not intended to replace their dad. Seriously, I've heard the kids will hate your boyfriend if that's implied.
2007-07-12 19:27:39 · answer #5 · answered by Paradox 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
now that you have made that decision, things will open up to you just by you having such an acceptance of a mans attention toward you...one word of advice...take it slow, these things can move along pretty quick even when you do have children...
2007-07-12 19:27:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
good thinking on your part. about the kids. you have to get out. and not sit at home.good luck
2007-07-12 19:26:54 · answer #7 · answered by freeman3905@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋