My boyfriend and I have been together for three years nd a month today. We've broken up before and we've dated others just t see if we wanted anyone else because staying with one person holds on to you..We used to be soo innocent, ya' know and we did everything together. But once I moved for a while. alot of things changed. I mean, one night we'd be all lovey together and then the next it's like we can't stand each other. I think we're falling apart like theres no more love and if we do, it's only sex or we're sad..or something. I'm still so in love with him though..but shoud I break up with him?
2007-07-12 19:19:54 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Are you sure you're "so in love with him"? It really doesn't sound like it to me. Move on to a more fulfilling relationship. You've been in that one so long you don't even know what a happy relationship is anymore.
2007-07-12 19:24:12 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the love is gone, then perhaps it's time to move on. Are you sure the love has dissipated from the relationship? Perhaps you two are just undergoing some tough times. Or maybe the general atmosphere of the relationship changed once you moved and moved back. Before making any conclusions, I think you ought to talk with him about this. Break-ups are always devastating, and if you just break-up with him without him even knowing what's going on, it'll be really hard on the both of you. Ask him how he feels about you, if he still loves you. Ask him how he feels the relationship is going. If you've been together for as long as you say, then you should be able to know if he's telling the truth or if he's lying. And you should be honest with him. Tell him what you told us, that you feel the relationship is faltering. Tell him that you love him, but you feel that you are drifting away. Relationships change through time. This is one thing most people don't realize in the beginning. It's all fun and romance in the beginning, but once you buckle down into it, it's got to take hard work from the both of you to keep it thriving. There will be problems. There will be times where you just can't stand to be within each other's company. There will be times when you'll both be upset at one another. People change as they get older, and you two have been together for three years. You have had to notice at some point in the game that problems were going to occur. If you truly love him, you will wait until you make a final decision. Try to work it out with him first. Save the relationship if you can. Communication is key, even if you're at each other's throats. Talk to him, and let him talk to you.
2007-07-12 19:30:52 · answer #2 · answered by Niko? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're in love with him, this plays a big part. Have you guys talked about your feelings recently? (Sounds corny, I know), but sometimes, if you bring up how you feel first, he will open up and be more willing to discuss the issues at hand. You should try a spontaneous night of dinner by candelight and a movie on the town, if that's your kind of road. If not, go be kids and go to an amusement park, or for a walk outside, just holding hands and talking. Sometimes the little things mean the most. See where it takes you.
Three years is a long time, congrats on that! :D
2007-07-12 19:26:02 · answer #3 · answered by stormy.! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's sad to hear this... i guess the feeling has fade... but, did you have a heart-to-heart talk with him. ask him does he still loves you? if he is and you are, why not give each other another chance to start all over again. just give it a try, if it reli doesnt work out then sad to say no choice but to move on.....
i can understand how bad it feels when you are still in love with that person but yet somehow or rather, such things are taking 2 hands to clap, yourself alone cannot do any salvation, if he still loves you, i m sure he will want to save this relationship and make it works again.
Good luck to you!
2007-07-12 19:28:00 · answer #4 · answered by overseas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Katie, only you can answer questions about what you should do. Consider what kind of future you see for the two of you. Where do you see yourself in a couple years? Would you marry him right now? If not, why not? What if you had married him a year ago...considering how you feel right now would you want a divorce? Look at the issue from different perspectives and you will find your answer.
2007-07-12 19:25:25 · answer #5 · answered by judgebill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that sounds like a sad situation, I guess if your both sad all the time and the bad out way the good maybe its time to call it quits, you don't want to continue on wasting more years of your life being unhappy. better to do it now before your married with kids and become another statistic.
I hate to say it but some times love just isn't enough, good luck
2007-07-12 19:26:59 · answer #6 · answered by Cooter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends what you want in this relationship--excitement or stability? Roller coaster relationships are exciting for teens and young adults. When I got to my late-20s, I wanted more stability. I had no more patience or need for an exciting roller coaster relationship. Why not a trial separation, but be ready that the other party may call it quits permanently.
2007-07-12 19:31:47 · answer #7 · answered by jan_mnl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if both of yoy love each other you can both talk about it and try to work it out.Maybe ur problem with him is that you don't have communication nd cammunication is the number one thing in a relationship.Just tell him how you feel and try to figure out what is best for both of you.
Best luck to you!
2007-07-12 19:28:38 · answer #8 · answered by *Cherrytop* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on- right now you still see each other - but it is for comfort only. You should not continue to live like that. You need to find a man who wants to share everything with you.
2007-07-12 19:24:20 · answer #9 · answered by DAB 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋